Now, I have been in this lifestyle for a decade. For the past 9 yrs on this site and nothing but good times until recently. I lost a good friends. A couple who I respected and was grateful for their company. He told me if I ever want to through a party there to let him know. So I did a bachelor's party for my little brother and he agree to it and was excited about it. I decided to put a twist on it and make it a bachelor swingers party giving my brother the time of his life with a few chose women. I was told "Give a person an inch and they will take a mile". Anger took over and to make a long story short party never happen there and never would speak to the couple again even though I apologized and could careless about the party I valued their friendship. Which brings me to my worst experience in this lifestyle. I have met and fully aware of couples that don't play with single black men and I respect them and their chooses. Here is the twist a white female in an interracial relationship called me a slave and the N word. All because I believe to each is his own. If a white man want to see a black man give it to a white woman who gives a shit. That's their fantasy! A white woman or any woman can sleep with whomever they want and be in a relationship with a different race. There called fantasies for damn reason. Your husband is either white, black, or some other race not a damn chameleon. He can't change into whatever race or size U want him to be? That's why we look into fantasies. There's no need to use the N word or call people slaves because who they chose to sleep with then have the nerve to call someone racist. Any form or any person male or female call me the N word is a racist. So how do we deal with these people? I don't have a clue with grace I suppose. Just know there are 2 sides to every story. When it comes to me I hope that U would ask if it was true 1st before judging me. My life is an open book and I'm am not ashame of anything or anybody I have been with in this lifestyle. That's what's up!