| by NIPPY6781 on February 4, 2012 |
"MSSEXUAL CONDUCT - please refer to HAITINK's post and we're sure it will benefit you or may be widen your horizon :)"
Call me ol' fashioned but I sincerely doubt Mssexualconduct needs any advice about her horizons. I thought her post was more than honest and made as much sense as any other post here...just sayin
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| by TORERO on February 4, 2012 |
Based on human nature in relationship between lovers, an unqualified devotion to one man/woman is physically repugnant, a spiritual slavery. The continued presence of a lover were bound eventually to bore one with the ennui that is always based on anxiety. The power of love is attributed to the strangeness, the novelty of the lovers to each other which could also be accomplished through swinging. We all require the repeated reassurances which only a new lover could give. Provided, partners acknowledges this factor then could this be to their advantage to strengthens their partnership or marriage without disintegration. Period!
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on February 4, 2012 |
MSSEXUAL CONDUCT - please refer to HAITINK's post and we're sure it will benefit you or may be widen your horizon :)
N.B. : Swinging is sure not for those who have a weak marriage :)
It can be something which strengthens the already strong relation within couples :) |
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on February 4, 2012 |
| HAITINK - very well said !! we agree :) |
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| by BBFRANCO on February 3, 2012 |
| Haitink I would love to see the techinical data. I am facinated by how this happens and I've been doing some research myslef on the topic. |
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| by HAITINK on February 3, 2012 |
In general, but like most generalizations there will be exceptions, marriage is fueled by a continued and robust sex life. Sex releases hormones that reinforce bonding, so plenty of partner sex often is ideal.
The rush of swinging is gained by a biological response to infidelity so seeing or knowing or guessing your partner (is) fucking someone else elicits a hormonal response that gives a kind of 'post infidelity rush' - I can provide references if anyone is interested in the technical stuff.
The most common response to a swinging event is a much greater incidence of partner sex which reinforces the bonding etc. et al. I can attest to the fact that we fuck like bunnies for a week or 10 days after a playdate.
So yes, swinging is good for a STRONG marriage.
However in a weak marriage, swinging tends to reinfoce the weakness and accellerate the breakup. These actually may both be considered benefits.
Consider swinging if your marriage is strong and it will weather storms which might destroy the marriage otherwise. Never start swinging if BOTH parties are not 100% behind it. Or to allow the other partner to fuck other people unless you are really into the passive role and get off on it. |
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| by TEXAN on February 3, 2012 |
| Have you ever noticed that some people feel compelled to make feeble attempts to ridicule others in order to boost thier own self image? |
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| by NIPPY6781 on February 3, 2012 |
"It got so bad I couldn't even take her to Denny's."
Classy! Candlelit no doubt?
Swinging is not important to us. It's nice occasionally but certainly not "important". When we first started in the lifestyle we thought it filled some sort of gap but that was just the initial excitement of it all. It's not all its cut out to be and we're just as tight now as we were before we discovered it.
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| by MSSEXUALCONDUCT on February 3, 2012 |
I disagree. I was happily married before swinging and will more than likely will be after too. I also disagree that swinging strengthens any marriage. If the marriage is weak, swinging will tear it apart.
Swinging isn't for everyone and there is nothing wrong with that.
Carrie
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| by TEXAN on February 3, 2012 |
| I agree that for many people swinging is a guite fulfilling lifestyle. But I know several happily married people who are not in the lifestyle and who should not be. Swinging is great for those who embrace it, but it ain't for everybody. I once dated a woman who was so enthusiastic about swinging that she promoted it everywhere. She thought that she should be able to have sex with any man or woman she wanted to. It got so bad I couldn't even take her to Denny's. |
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| by BISTEL71 on February 3, 2012 |
| the life style is an added bonus! when the relationship is not healthy and strong then don't go swinging! we love it! |
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