| by KINGNCOURTESAN on April 1, 2011 |
I'm new to swinging so perhaps a few months or years down the my opinion may evolve or completely change. (My b/f is far from new at this lark).
When I've been on vanilla dating sites the first attraction to someone has to be features (and it's not about being shallow as we all have different types we call attractive), then intelligence and humour. I'm very easy going and will get on with people from all walks of life. So what happens next: see how communication flows through different media and then possibly meet. Is there a chemistry and compatibility? Do we both want to meet again?
With swinging I don't want an emotional element, therefore the chemistry and compatibility elements are present but in a much minor capacity. Age, height, and aspirations, for example, are irrelevant to me in swinging but were important in dating. It is more about pleasure. It's selfish, even to the extent of giving pleasure to receive more (physically or psychological). If anyone baulks at me using the term selfish, let me ask you what part of swinging is altruistic? None!
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| by DEVIANTS on April 1, 2011 |
| they can be the prettiest thing on earth but if they are up their own ass then its a instant turn off, well for us any way! |
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| by NIPPY6781 on April 1, 2011 |
| Really? EVERYONE said that? |
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| by SEXITING on April 1, 2011 |
| Same like dating! if you are attracted to someone then you will endeaver to get to know them! if the personality = fun doesnt stack up then im sure for most its none starter! |
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| by TREYANDAN1 on March 28, 2011 |
| We've been swinging for years and have had fun with all types of people. When were in out teens and twenties we played with a lot of older couples who were fantastic in bed. Now that we are older we have played with much younger couples--cute and energetic. We have been with tall people, short people, chubby, skinny, older, younger and all kinds of skin colors. And even ome very beautiful people who enjoyed us even though we are probably average at best. We had fun with all of them and continue to do so. Limiting yourself to only the so-called "beautful people" or certain ages or body types/sizes is really short changing yourself on some wild sexual fun (though they are fun too). For us its about variety and new experiences and the fun we have exploring with new and different partners. --Trey and Anne |
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| by DAVLIA on March 28, 2011 |
| We would honestly say although looks are somewhat important,it is far from everything.We would much rather be with couples that have lots of energy then a couple that is very attractive and not sensual.L and D |
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| by PBGGUY on March 28, 2011 |
| I think it has to do with both of those things and how much of each depends on the different people involved. But, I think a lot of this LS is about variety. The excitement of being with someone new. The difference in their body style from what you are used to. Also, people tend to settle into a routine. For example, a couple may be very romantic and, together, only "make love". So, the opportunity to change it up and be an outright freak is great. Or vice-a-versa. |
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| by NIPPY6781 on March 28, 2011 |
I'm of the opinion that it's initially about looks but even the pin-ups can become unattractive within 5 minutes. Personality and chemistry then takes centre stage and we are much more likely to shag or pursue the regular lookin couple with personality and a sense of humour than a stunning looking couple without any of those attributes. Finding the blend is tricky.
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| by EARTHLY on March 28, 2011 |
| Beauty is just a skin deep. Fun is Soul deep. And it is in the eyes of beholder........ |
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| by EROTICMOTION4U on March 27, 2011 |
| It could be Sav ... I interpreted "Swinging" as the Lifestyle social interaction of meeting other couples with the possibility of sex as opposed to simply meaning a sexual encounter. |
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| by EROTICMOTION4U on March 27, 2011 |
| It has to be about fun. If you go out with the intention of hooking up with a hot couple, you open yourself up to being very disappointed however if you just go with the intention of having a great time with your spouse, you'll never be let down. |
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| by NEWNREADY on March 27, 2011 |
I think it's about both. When you are looking to get together with another couple or a single male or female, it's a lot about the looks...but the profile is also important (love people with a sense of humor and who just seem like a lot of fun).
Once you actually meet with the people, I think Blownbulbs is pretty accurate on those percentages. Looks are still important, but now you get a chance to really get to know their personalities a little better. And then, of course, a lot of it is situational -- at a party we are more likely to go with the flow and try something (or someone) out of our usual comfort zone.
I have to say some of the best sex that we've had has been with people we initially were not all that attracted to because of their looks...what a sweet surprise! |
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| by HOPETOMEETYOU on March 27, 2011 |
| It's about the looks and hopefully the personality matches |
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| by BLOWNBULBS on March 27, 2011 |
| Under normal circumstances, if meeting people over the internet for sex could ever be considered "normal circumstances", it's a third about looks, a third about personality and a third about what's going on biochemically behind the scenes in ways you are barely aware of, if at all. |
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| by LORDLUCAN on March 27, 2011 |
both, but it's a fine .
Some very hot people can be very boring to meet and play with as they are so up them selves.
On the other hand, you can have a fantastic time with people who won't be gracing the front cover of a magazine any time soon.
Getting on with people and having fun should be more important, but anyone that says looks don't matter is lying.
So hopefully people will be fun and also pretty good looking, if not quite models.
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