| by GDLLUSTING on August 15, 2012 |
@ Stonemane - i think the numbers do say something. it's not saying that large of a percent is into bi male/male action. it's just saying MFM threesomes.
but i can tell you from experience on this site and other swinging sites that the number is wayyy higher than your estimated 5%. i've personally hooked up with dozens of couples whose profiles say "NO SINGLE GUYS" and "HUSBAND IS 1000% STRAIGHT" ... but i've still hooked up with these couples as a single open-minded guy (not bi in personal life).
sexuality is more than just bi or straight. there's alot of gray area. especially when swinging. so, everyone just needs to loosen up. i agree that some guys are just too insecure to have MFM threesomes with their wives/girlfriends. but the other issue is they might be embarrassed or shy to admit they are bi-curious. these are some of the same guys that have messaged me from a couples profile and wanting to hook up just to experirment... but say they wouldn't want to include their wife/girlfriend in the action.
anyways.... to any hot couples out here in Los Angeles or traveling here anytime soon... shoot me a message and let's have some xxx fun together!
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| by VUSUNNY1 on July 27, 2012 |
I do agry with u
may be if u like we can meet
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| by TEXAN on June 21, 2012 |
| Some couples like to add another guy, and some don't. There are probably almost as many ways to swing as there are swingers. Instead of judging people for the way they like to do things, how about concentrating on finding people whose likes and dislikes are compatible with yours. If the way someone else does things is hurtful or abusive to someone else, an objection is in order. Otherwise, Live and let live. |
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| by MSLOVEYDOVEY on June 21, 2012 |
| To senshuus...hear hear!!! Really! Who cares? The blogster seems to be over thinking this. I enjoy fmf not to please the man with another woman. It's more about my bisexuality and sharing love. In an MMF setting it isn't that I might fear that my male significant partner may secretly be bi....I find that presumptuous. It might simply be because I want two men.(which really isn't true...been there done that...) sexycouplekol...too much categorization for me to even try to keep track of. STOP THINKING!!!! hahaha |
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| by STONEMANE on June 20, 2012 |
"In any case the POLL percentages speaks what majority of us here feel."
I think the majority were somewhat confused about the poll in general. While 85% of couples are in favor of a threesome involving them & another man, there is NO WAY 85% of the male halves of couples are into male bi action. I would estimate maybe 5% of the couples max are into MMF.
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 20, 2012 |
| TRIFUL - I was exactly talking about a 3some which happened with you and you did enjoy and ur Mr. was chilled out about it! It shows that he cares about you and keeps you on equal footing and is not mean. This is what we mean when we talk about MFM here in this blog! Thanks for your Share :) |
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 20, 2012 |
| Just to clarify that the MFM we are talking about here doesnt really deal with a single male rather it MAY be done with the husband of a MF couple (swap friends)...so lets not discuss about whether we should mention looking for single men in our profile or not. Sure most of us wont. Everyone has their own ways to get a single man if they really need. |
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| by TRIFUL on June 20, 2012 |
| And yes I'm a female chauvinist pig! I still want to enjoy the experience of FFM, FMF or even FF but do not want to see any MM action with Mr Triful involvement (and thankfully neither does he!) |
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| by BADBOY35 on June 20, 2012 |
There is no challenge or fun in a single male because they are a dime a dozen and have nothing to offer that I'm not already getting at home. At this time in my life, finding a single male is a 10 min thing: Go down to the local bar and pick one out. Meeting couples or single females is much more challenging and exciting.
I'll grant you half that statement SPONGEWORTHY. There is a challenge and fun in a single male but not the way you think....
Yes, you ladies rule the lifestyle, any man who doesn't know that is an idiot. However, there is a difference between something not being a challenge like finding a single man and a REAL challenge, finding a GOOD single man.
Any woman, probably nowhere near as gorgeous as you are, could go into a bar and proclaim that she wants to take a guy home for the night and there would be 100, hell, 1000 guys d in front of her chomping at the bit to be chosen.
The challenge lies in which one of those 1000 prospects will actually be not only good looking, smart, someone who can seduce her before bedding her but also someone who can perform properly in the bedroom and rock her night. In other words no floppies or minute men.
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| by PLAY4BI on June 20, 2012 |
| Diddo Spongeworthy, if you put single males in your profile you will get bombarded with emails. If you want a single male it takes 3 minutes, now to find a good single male thats a whole different story. The good ones we have recommended to us by other couples. Hope that helps put it in perspective. |
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| by SPONGEWORTHY on June 19, 2012 |
| There is no challenge or fun in a single male because they are a dime a dozen and have nothing to offer that I'm not already getting at home. At this time in my life, finding a single male is a 10 min thing: Go down to the local bar and pick one out. Meeting couples or single females is much more challenging and exciting. |
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 19, 2012 |
| In any case the POLL percentages speaks what majority of us here feel....so ppl thinking otherwise are exceptions which is a small percentage and can be discounted. |
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| by STONEMANE on June 19, 2012 |
Well there we go then :)
I'll be a huge chauvenist before I suck another guy's cock!
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 19, 2012 |
STONEMANE - admittedly a chauvenist.
(we r talking about the wives fantacies and fetishes but u are setting rules for her as seen in ur post) |
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 19, 2012 |
PGXCOUPLE...well said :)
GUYS CHAUVENISM HAS SAME MEANING IN ANY DICTIONARY !!
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| by PGXCOUPLE on June 19, 2012 |
"The question here is that it is seen that Straight Wives get into a FFM or FMF session for the pleasure of their Husbands out of natural love & affection for him but will the Husbands follow the trait to pleasure their wives.
Wife (me) does not see any pleasure is seeing husband's mouth full of dick, and although I do enjoy sticking a finger into tight male ass, it would not be pleasurable to see a cock in his ass.
Chauvenism is the same shit no matter what language or country it comes from. A Chauvenist is the one who thinks females are 'less' or unequal than men in intelligence, in physical attributes, in sex, in society. Having a threesome has nothing to do with being Chauvenistic if both people in the couple enjoy it.
It just happens that males have a strong sexual feeling (maybe hormonal) about seeing two (or more females) making out, and females (us) love to put on a show to get our men horny, hard, excited, and ready for more. Some females may find further attraction to members of the same sex, and engange in dedicated fem2fem action on their own, and for their own pleasure (in other words, not putting on a show for hubby). Either way, it's all about enjoying the sexual moment, stimulating our senses, and explore the pleasure of sucking and fucking with someone you just met (or a complete stranger).
The point is we are NOT doing this to prove a point, to demonstrate what we can do, or pressure anyone into engaging into sex for the pleasure of the other.
On the other side of the coin, I am sure there are men whose Chauvinistic nature leads to an unhappy wife (or partner) who only responds to the male out of fear, pressure, and not out of real interest. We have met couples like that, and our response has always been the same...take your sorry ass Chauvinism out of our sight. We truly hate spousal abuse especially when it involves psychological and physical abuse of the female. Hubby once kicked out an idiot out of our house party when he found out this guy had tried to force two of our female friends to 'touch' him. But this is the topic of another blog we can discuss another time.
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| by STONEMANE on June 19, 2012 |
"Basically straight" = BI
Men & women are different. Almost all the women I have dated long term were either bi friendly or bi curious in some form. None of the men they dated were the same. If Mrs. Stone wanted to see some male bi action then I would rent her a porn or let her do her thing at a local gay bar. Call me a chauvenist pig if you will.
Now if she wanted some MFM action down the road I would happily oblige since she has been so good to me.
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 19, 2012 |
For Example kindly Notice BB's profile which says clearly that both of them are STRAIGHT individuals but they still are looking for BISEXUAL COUPLES & BISEXUAL FEMALES....why?
"BB pls dont take it as an offence but its just an example here and we dont really mean to hurt anyones feelings...its just a healthy discussion and we respect everyones opinion and really have no questions on your personal preference as mentioned in your profile."
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 19, 2012 |
As Mentioned by SEN - "Please explain why you would describe yourself as a straight male but you guys are looking for bi-sexual couples and bi-sexual males."
We here as a couple are basically Straight.
But due to some close quarters the female here is already Bi which sure was a fantacy for the husband here which she fulfilled.
The man here is still Straight which is why it is rightly mentioned in our profile as the man being straight.
But since the wife here is keen to see the husband as a BI, which she fetishes, thus to keep the option open and to wait fr the right person we are ok to accomodate Bi Couples & Bi Males and since as a couple we believe in equality and not in any gender chauvenism so wud not mind giving it a shot to please my woman for her fetish/excitement.
So ideally I feel that if the woman who's not really a bi but still forays into it for the excitement/pleaseure of the husband THUS the husband should also reciprocate in a similar way to prove that he believes in equality and is not a chauvenist.
AM sure some people would take this as my mask for being bi already but that wudnt affect my statement and also what my woman fetishes which i will willfully agree to materialise with the person we vibe.
SEN - I hope i have satisfied you with a detailed explanation as above :)
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 19, 2012 |
SANDYBEACH71 - Kindly be aware that your post was deleted bcoz it contained advert of some party u were having which had no co-relation to this blog which was sure not solicited here :) No hard felings please :)
There are various views against us which arent deleted so be rest assured that we respect everyones personal views and opinions here :)
We wudnt say 'grow up' as in your nick we feel your yr of Birth is 1971 reflecting you are quite grown already :)
Apologies for any unintentional/intentional shortcomings from our side
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| by EUROMEXCOUPLE on June 19, 2012 |
The longer one is involved in this lifestyle, the more likely it becomes acceptable to have a third as a male. Frankly, we are looking for two really attractive men to give the Mrs her first DP. I would prefer to watch, not participate. The difficult part is "really attractive", could be SMs or could be part of an MF couple. Not interested in bi-males or bi-fems. We specifically state no single men in our profile, reason is we prefer to locate and not be bombarded.
But to concur with the original post, a MFM can be really great for the Mrs. Why not? |
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| by BADBOY35 on June 19, 2012 |
Whow Bad and BB that is nonesense ... the majority of guys are insecure ... you can extend that to ladies as well who "claw" at other woman when their man is being hit on as well, cuts both way. Let's not make this a sexist thing!!
Who said women aren't like that? Sure they are. But in lifestyle it's the men who seem to have more of that problem whereas out of the lifestyle it's the vanilla women who seem to be the clingy jealous ones.
It's why I rarely date vanilla and if I do, I try to corrupt them into the LS Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view
Surprisingly, it's women in the LS who handle things better. In my opinion, it's because the LS is a woman's world as it should be.
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| by WHYNOTBITE on June 19, 2012 |
| If I understand the theme behind the original post, it has less to do with bisexuality than the unequal nature of a couple's preference when considering adding another single - M or F. A casual glance at the swinging websites will confirm their assertion that there is a difference. The question is why? is it really because more women are bi than men? Or is it an underlying unequal relationship?My suggestion is to go deeper into the following two "principles"1. Motherhood is a certainty, fatherhood is a belief2. Bisexual activities of males reportedly are riskier in terms of STDs than females |
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| by BADBOY35 on June 19, 2012 |
| | | The majority of men are too insecure to allow their wife to have an MFM experience. |
Ain't that the truth. I've had guys come at me for even looking at their gf. It's ridiculous how insecure guys can be. Personally, when I am dating someone, I love for guys to look at her and as long as she enjoys herself and we both know that it's just sex not love, I love to see her enjoy herself with someone else and of course join in on pleasing her. |
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 19, 2012 |
| Please note that this blog deals ONLY with couples where the Husbands want a FFM/FMF/MFF (an extra lady in between them) and the wives do it for the natural love & affection towards their husbands whereas the Husbands dont not prefer a MMF/MFM/FMM whatever technically that means!! This is what we call Male Chauvenism. |
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| by SEXYCOUPLEKOL on June 19, 2012 |
With due respect to the comments we recd in here we need to clarify a few things which may have been ambiguous here affecting the comments:
Our question stands on the base that when most(99%) Husbands prefer a FMF session where wife is adjusting to the wants of the Husband and doing that act for pleasuring the husband, not under any force but due to natural love and affection for him....then WHY NOT VICE VERSA ?
Also by MMF we mean MMF, MFM, FMM whatever that stands for technically! The idea here is addition of a single male for anything comfortable between the couple which sure is the wife's fantacy so will the husbands treat their wifes in lieu?
This blog deals with Neutral Wives and not necessarily Bi OR may be Straight wives.
The question here is that it is seen that Straight Wives get into a FFM or FMF session for the pleasure of their Husbands out of natural love & affection for him but will the Husbands follow the trait to pleasure their wives.
(Subconciously some wives have a traditional mindset not to accept male bisexuality which please ignore as since this lifestyle is supposed to be liberated one once you decide to come out in a consented Polygamy scene or more. Or we may say that the Male Chauvenism is so strong that it is obvious in some wives mindset thus they dont even demand which otherwise they must would have enjoyed. We have to ignore such thots and take this more neutrally.)
We do understand the sexual comfort of couples and do not want those couples to comment here who's wife counterpart is admittedly a bi and prefer a FFM only as a 3some. Discount that and rethink.
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| by GG49 on June 19, 2012 |
| My favorite has always been couples looking for straight females...so the wife is a voyeur??? Sorry, voyeurism with no play in married women is close to nonexistent... :) |
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| by TEXAN on June 18, 2012 |
| I actually agree with much of what Ms. L.D. had to say. It is obviously to my benefit that many couples choose to include single guys, but I believe that choice should be freely made by the couple. If a couple has no interest in single guys, they should be under no obligation to include them. |
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| by FULLSWAPFRIENDS on June 18, 2012 |
| No hangups with my husband. He treats me to MFM and sometimes let's me pick up a guy. I'd treat him to FMF more often if there were more sexually mature women available. I've managed to give him a few experiences. My cousin has a crush on him so I have let her make love wih him. I also arranged for a family friend to be with him on his birthday. I noticed that she always wanted to dance with him at holiday gatherings and when they slow danced she would gtet very close when it was dark enough. It was pretty obvious she wanted his sex. So instead of freaking out about it I asked her to come over on his birthday and that she could make a fantasy for him. I had to put a blindfold on him because she didn't want him to know. It was quite beautiful to watch. He laid in the bed and she quietly kissed his mouth, body and suckled on him. Then she got on top and rode him until she spasmed. She got off him and gave him a hand job and left. No words. She was an elegant woman, very beautiful and sexual. This didn't bother me at all and my husband get's turned on by watching me get a man off. So we are very secure about sharing and know it's about the pleasure. |
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| by MSLOVEYDOVEY on June 18, 2012 |
I don't think there SHOULD be any mmf ffm fff mm (or what ever combination you want to qualify as an equalizer), if one part of a couple has no interest.
I don't see an occasional mmf as healthy sexercise if SHE is not interested.
Why does anyone need to prove to the person they love they are not chauvinistic? If there is a question/insecurity then why are you in the lifestyle?
Sooo no I don't think ther SHOULD be an "occasional MMF session in a swingers couple's lifestyle"
SHOULD is a dangerous word to use in any relationship no matter how charitible the context is.
I have been to parties and clubs where some of the participants arrive with women who end up not participating. It's a hoax. I don't have any tolerance for interlopers....ie "single males" disguised as a couple. I agree with posting no single males if that is what people want. I'm sure everyone is capable of finding everything they want in the lifestyle without going through political convolutions such as this. |
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| by PGXCOUPLE on June 18, 2012 |
We have tried MFM, FMF, and MFMFMFMF... We do it because we like to experiment, because we like sex, because hubby likes multiple pussies and because I like multiple cocks at the same time. We don't do any of this to prove a point. We may continue to engage in threesomes or moresomes when we feel horny about it. However, we have found that our mood at this time is to play with couples or groups.
The truth is that having a female third person allows us both to participate and engage in sexual activities with her. If the third person is a male, hubby will not engage with the male. Although I do not consider myself a lesbian, I must admit part of my enjoyment of playing with another woman is to see how excited my hubby gets in addition to the pleasure I get by kissing, touching, licking, fingering, smelling, tasting...hmmm another woman. On the other hand, I don't see myself getting excited by seeing my man playing with another guy.
I accept to play a bisexual role because like it and hubby likes it.
By the way, when you refer to threesomes by MMF, are you aware that what you are saying is that you, the couple, bring a man to play with the male part of the couple? That's what MMF means. Maybe you meant MFM, where both guys play with the female only?
So that we are clear on this issue, we decided to join the lifestyle for the mutual enjoyment of sex. I (the female) enjoy it, and my hubby enjoys it. There is nothing Chauvinistic about both enjoying.
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| by OKCFUNCPL on June 18, 2012 |
| MMF can be a lot of fun, we have had many and for the most part enjoyed them all. |
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| by SWEETLOVER1972 on June 18, 2012 |
Very judicial comment,
However, being a single man in this lifestyle, I can cofirm to you that some of the "NO SINGLE MALES" slogan in the profile is more about give and take rather than a sexual behiavor.
Some of the males posting this refusal of single guys fall under the egocentric concept of "exchange" you have to give in order to take. Nevertheless, this approach will be dropped if the prospect is a single lady. |
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| by COMANCHETWO on June 18, 2012 |
| We enjoy more than an occasional mfm (see our profile). I am not bi and neither is my hubby but he enjoys watching me and i enjoy putting on a show for him so the mfm is G R E A T. |
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| by COMANCHETWO on June 18, 2012 |
| We enjoy more than an occasional mfm (see our profile). I am not bi and neither is my hubby but he enjoys watching me and i enjoy putting on a show for him so the mfm is G R E A T. |
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| by BLOWNBULBS on June 18, 2012 |
| I can't say that every couple should try it. It requires a certain mixture of interest and security that some couples just will never possess. Seeking that out won't necessarily help you gain those qualities. But it's usually been fun for us when we've sought it out and, sure, it's brought a nice dimension of reciprocity into the swinging. |
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| by RAY70 on June 18, 2012 |
| I concur totally. |
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