| by JUS4FUNNN on March 28, 2012 |
| Very insightful. Thank you. |
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| by TWO on February 2, 2012 |
Your best comment so far.......
Let's!
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| by TWO on January 31, 2012 |
@MrFornicator
This is exactly what I am/was trying to avoid. You seem to enjoy the game of challenging and arguing semantics, and I don't.
First it is about the fact that we wouldn't refuse if the mail had been from a hot girl, and now it's about something completely different. I have said what I wanted to say and have not changed my mind since....
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| by TWO on January 30, 2012 |
Without wanting to get into a lengthy discussion I do feel the need to clarify the following:
If a "hot girl" sent us the exact same mail, our response would have been the same too. It would prove to us that this "hot girl" is not a fit with our preferences where it concerns personality and standards.
I am sure that this statement will be challenged but it does reflect who we are and how we "operate"
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| by YABBADABBADO on January 29, 2012 |
I disagree with Trish & Tim- I do not like the carefully combed through intro email. I have no particular expectations of what the first email should look like- obviously there are some clear stupid ass first emails (" show me your feet baby" stands out) but no need to fill out an application. I suppose I just prefer a little wit when saying hello.
A first email from one the hottest single guys of all time (if there were such a poll) was: ‘Holy shit she is hot’. I replied tongue in cheek ‘Hmmm, really, that’s it….that’s all you got… I'm not worth at least a complete sentence?’ He replied ‘No, I don’t see it’ and we then exchanged smart ass one rs for a couple of weeks. Eventually those became smart ass texts and eventually that became ridiculously sexy, soaking wet, crazy intense sex. His first email likely would of turned many of you off, but cracked me up. |
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| by WILDFIRE29 on January 29, 2012 |
We look for substance in emails, not one rs. I personally have alot of respect for these guys, and any single for that matter they put themselves out here for all of us to enjoy. We never feel a need to be rude to anyone here nor pool them all in one basket because I can tell you first hand there are good single guys out there we have met them!! We simply respect all people here as well as their preferences, and yes guys skip the cock shots if we want them we will ask for them.
Remember you only get one chance to make a first impression.....:) |
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| by PLEASUREGALORE on January 29, 2012 |
As a single guy, i totally agree with your blog. It's all about respect for all involved.
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| by FOUR on January 29, 2012 |
| Nice one. Well written Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view |
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| by LAKERBOY on January 29, 2012 |
Very good observations of what this lifestyle,not just fuck, The important thing is to complement and enjoy a good time.
Congratulations on your blog |
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| by JAYINARL on January 28, 2012 |
Mr F,
Let me clear things up. I didnt say anyone was in it entirely for any reason. Im saying that it sometimes feels like the couples feel like the are doing the SMs a favor by giving him sex. I may be wrong but judging from the SMs on here, Im pretty sure that most of them dont rely on this site as vital to their sex lives, only an enhancement. So why would I be wrong to assume the couple would view it as the same.
I believe that the first thing you should do when getting a crappy email is look to see how long dude has been on here. If he's been on here for years then he should have more experience corresponding with couples then some guy who hasnt been on here long. My first experience in the lifestyle came in real life not on a site, so I may be a little more rusty writting then some dude whos been on here for years. Doesnt mean that he is going to for fill the fantasy any better or worse.
I hope I didnt come across as this is a SMs mans world and couple should be happy we entertain them, because thats far from what I meant. Im just saying dont think that anyone is doing anyone any favors, sex is going on reguardless of if I have an internet connection or not. |
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| by LOUPIER on January 28, 2012 |
Totally agree.
There are also weird situations. That couple who sent an email and with whom we had a match. They ask for our private email. Then we wrote back to set up something. The girl in the couple wrote back to say the male part here tried to set up something alone and became rude with the female part here. They still are on SDC. Very nice profile... but weeeirrddd...
First this site is about swapping. Alone, together, girl-girl, even boy-boy for those who like it. SDC is about sex (funny we have to make it clear). How can a girl became rude if one of the other couple tried to kindly take contact (in our case, we were both aware). As SAV would say... "What the f..?"
We finally found an explanation. Their profile is fake and only serve to grab private emails or phone numbers...
About guys, now. Sorry Sav, I am not a guy. I'm not playing with anybody just because he's cute. He has to bring something more. I could even play with you if you were kind and brilliant. Still to be proved...
Fornicator, you are cute and kind. You know how to reach us...
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| by JAYINARL on January 28, 2012 |
| Some guys suck at the interview, but are amazing on the job. These things never get old because like its been said already, its not what's being said, its who's saying it. If some hot stud sucks at putting together an email, somehow I don't think you arent going to be as offended as you would if Joe Average wrote it. You are more likely to give Nick Nippleraiser the benefit of the doubt then you would be seduced by Sammy Soso who wrote a letter so great that it was frame worthy. Carl Cockhouse shows up with nothing but a condom and he's in, while Billy Birdchest shows up with flowers and his future emails stays in the unread folder. Your mate should be the one bring the flowers, your PLAYmate should be the one bringing the thunder. For every one of those who say, he came well dressed, there are two others who wouldn't care if he came in a prison jump suit as long as he forfilled the fantasy and didn't steal anything before he left. One size doesn't fit all on either side of the lifestyle. Sometimes it helps when you realize you are not doing him (the single male) a favor by having sex with him, he is helping YOU enhance your sex life. |
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| by COUPLE4FUN83 on January 28, 2012 |
Mrfornicator, this blog was in no way intended to ridicule anyone... We were only hoping to help the communication process between not only couples and single guys but anyone it may apply to... We think in any scenario respect should be given to all involved!!! Again thank you for the comments... And if you ever get to Florida look us up!!!
Trish & Tim |
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| by BIGSINS on January 28, 2012 |
| this is a great post and thanks for helping us singles to learn to better communicate with lovely couples... just curious ... can anyone please share a good sampe letter that you liked... thanks! |
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| by TWO on January 28, 2012 |
We very much agree with your post! It is quite annoying when you receive mails like the one below:
Hello there, How are you today? I am from the US, but visit Holland often. It looks like I will be back there again in February and March. I would be interested in chatting and seeing if we are mutually interested. I don't even mind low pressure/low stress meeting of at dinner and seeing even if we click.
The thing that really bugs me in this mail is the lack of any question, other than 'how are you today'. It is a nothing more than a number of statements like "i will be back', 'i would be interested', and worst of all 'i don't even mind'.
I (male) consider this an insult since the guy never even asks us to take a look at his profile!
Anyway, just wanted to get this off my chest.
Also, I do agree with some of the earlier posts regarding the importance of 'roles' where it concerns specific desires. But these can generally be derived from the profile contents of either party.
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| by GG49 on January 28, 2012 |
| Comply with the above - or be a black guy :) |
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| by COUPLE4FUN83 on January 28, 2012 |
Hi everyone thank you so far for the feedback. Again this is meant to help educate the guys the are either new or just don't know how to contact a couple the right way... That being said we have played with many single guys that are a credit to their peers as well as to the couples they help with their fantasies...There is definitely mutual respect for the guys that understand the process... One of our first single guys that we were with when we joined this site was Hotblkmale22 (Paul) this guy could write the play book for how a single guy should conduct himself in the lifestyle... He was courteous, on time, dressed well and showed up with a dozen roses. Which showed the utmost respect for my wife as well as me by showing me he cared enough to take the time to try make her feel comfortable as soon as he walked through the door!!! At that point any anxiety that either of us had about meeting him was dispelled and we were all very comfortable right away... My goal with this blog is to make everyones experiences in the lifestyle as comfortable and enjoyable as possible!!! Let's keep the comments constructive and as positive as possible whether from a couple or a single guy and let's all continue to enjoy each other!!!
Trish & Tim |
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| by IRISHSPANISH on January 27, 2012 |
one of our favourites: the random friend requests from men we've never spoken to on the chat function, emailed or in any other way had any contact with!
Or one mail that literally just popped in our inbox. Firstly, the guy smokes and our profile is very clear on that. Secondly, the one r that states "this is my email. I can meet you saturday or sunday"
All very funny, some guys must have lead for brains if they thank that type of approach will have any success at all!
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| by COMANCHETWO on January 27, 2012 |
| We do enjoy single guys and have had a lot of fun with them over the years. One more thing we might add is guys READ the profile and then read it again and think about what the couple is seeking before you answer. We have a very specific question embedded in our profile to make sure they have read it. We love the lifestyle and all it has brought to us over the years. Happy playing folks. Debbie and Skeet |
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| by GDLLUSTING on January 27, 2012 |
whoever the single guys are the give everyone the impression that we're all idiots should be singled out.
i read alot of profiles and blogs that speak specificially to the single guy and give him special instructions on how to be a human being. lol. i find this so laughable. if someone needs to to be told how to behave then they're probably worth passing on anyways.
keep in mind, not all single guys are the drooling desperate perverts they're made out to be. some have actually been in happy/healthy relationships, marriages, both, etc.
i am just as much of a prize to fuck with as a couple is.... and i'm just a single guy. i'd hope it's a two way street of respect when couples choose a single guy to get naked with. not treating it like they're royalty graciously allowing the commoner a crumb.
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| by RERDNA on January 27, 2012 |
| Very good advice. We would add to make sure you have read the couples profile and make sure you are who they are looking for. We have in our profile we are only interersted in local very fit guys. And we will not communicate off a paid site, so don't send us your contact info. Yet we get emails all the time from single guys who are in town for a few days with their phone number attached. |
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| by KBEAR4HER on January 27, 2012 |
You two hit the mark 100% from my point of view and based on how and who I like to play with. To me it all comes down to respect all the way around first and foremost. But you also have to remember their are some couples or single women out there that are just looking for a guy to be Dom/Bull or someone to humiliate him or his wife. This is what some call roll play. There are times when couples contact me and I just have to ask them did you really read or even look at my profile. I just simply spell out what I am looking for in my profile and people just need to simply read. If some one get out of at that point, I check them at the door. If that don't work, then you just block them. Just remember 99% of the people on here, JUST DO NOT GET IT. Do your thing and Happy hunting to you both. |
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| by COUPLE4FUN83 on January 27, 2012 |
| LOL how are you guys? we can't wait to see you again so I could do the same to your wife! Ok enough kidding around this is a serious blog... |
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| by PEMCPL4FUN on January 27, 2012 |
I am a married man, but I want to do evil dirty things to your wife, while you hold my beer!!
LOL!! Just getting you blog started dude, good blog guys!! |
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