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In the last 2 months we mailed all the couples in Sweden & Denmark and many in Norway (also few Europian countries). the starnge thing happened was that,those who aren't interested in you (specially in Sweden), won't even take trouble to answer your mail!
Danish method is even worse: they reply by a big lie.maybe they assume others,so foolish.for example in the middle of February, almost all danish couples decided to spend weekend outside denmark!! and when we tested them by saying"what a pitty that we missed you,but don't worry,we'll be in Denmark next month" they chose swedish way: "silence" (and thoese who hadn't gone abroad, suddenly their wives became pregnant !)
as we are liberals, we beleive that they have rights to be impolite or racist or .... as well, we have right to express our idea and explain our own method:
A sample answer to a single guy we didn't like him at all: "Thank you for choosing us.you obviously have a brilliant taste! though you may be attractive to most couples but_no matter how handsome and how old_you aren't in our plan for the present time,sorry"
we answer all mails.those who doesn't want to understand or, are fake, will be blocked.
Anyway, we wanna know your idea:which one of the following justifies explains their manner?
A: they haven't learnt polite methods of talk and don't know that this is an insulting way
B: they are cowards ( they don't dare to say no)
when we lived in Malmö we found that most swedish people can not speak english well
and they are lazy about learning international language,so they prefer avoid situations
that may force them to speak english.
C: few couples are racists(this causes bad reacts among aliens)
D: a combine of A,B & C
extra notes:
most of them are over 44 !
youngers are usually more kindfull_polite
couples in other Europian countries,specially south EU are different.
we don't hate anybody.we are not annoyed.it's amazing for us to realize that we've been more civilized than they are,while we had an opposite idea when we were in our mother land
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| by HORNYGENTLES on March 20, 2010 |
Bingo! the mistry is solved.we got the answer.FUNMAATJE's idea sounds to be quite true.(the best comment we read)
So, this blog is going to be deleted in a few minutes. thanks to thoese who read the blog, specially dear " FUNMAATJE ".good luck ! |
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| by FUNMAATJE on March 20, 2010 |
Hi exiting couple,
Yes, read your blog. In general, Swedish people are not rude or unpolite. But I do think they are reserved when it comes to swinging and a swingers lifestyle. Most Nordic people are quite closed to others... It's their nature... First, you need to be friend, before they open up...
Succes...
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| by HORNYGENTLES on March 20, 2010 |
writing this blog means that we should forget meeting any swedish couple all over the world,and their freinds maybe,so why did we write? it was because it didn't make any diffrence: there were no reply. just for informing you,this is our typical first mail:"please have a look at our file, and if you think we may deserve your friendship or having sex ,then give us the chance!" we agree with" no reply is a reply" if it's not rude then this blog is the same kind of reply "tit for tat" |
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| by LETSPARTIE on March 20, 2010 |
119 couples mailed and 7 replied ??? There can't be that many rude people in Sweden surely ?? The only reason could be the wording of your email but even so you'd think a few more would reply even for a 'no thanks'! If what you are saying is true then my advice would be to search a little further away like the UK where it seems our manners maybe better for once :-) Mrs Letspartie is half Norwegian though so will have to watch her lol xxxxxxx |
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| by SAVCPL on March 20, 2010 |
I would hate to holler "fake & bullshit" but, something about this just don't add up
Mrs.Horny is adorable. Any woman that looks like the one in the profile pics, gets at least some offers. That nobody has ever written doesn't sound right
It might be because I'm an american and a guy, but your profile strikes me as kinda weird. If the emails you send out are written in the same style, that might be the reason why
Then again, no reply is an reply. An unsolicited email is spam, its not rude not to answer spam
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| by HORNYGENTLES on March 20, 2010 |
during our membership,we sent mails to 119 swedish couples in a very polite style(2-5 to each) but just 7 of them took trouble of replying!(2 negatives ,3 positives,2 meaningless) Can't we suppose this must be a swedish way?
Here is another surprise: nobody initiated a connection.we should always be the starters ! maybe we are wrong and they know better ways(specially when the other side is american) but they just don't believe that among some special nations ,could be some mankinds,too |
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| by RAUL19 on March 19, 2010 |
| the cpl is very nace i love meet soon he have prety wef , u friech raul19 |
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| by YIPYAP on March 19, 2010 |
wow, talk about generalizing. How's your SWEDISH by the way? hmmm.... |
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| by HORNYGENTLES on March 19, 2010 |
Dear Bocababe ! please raed the blog.all in all,it's about diffrences between styles.if we wanted to aim swedish society we could mention thousands faults (that can be found in any other land).can't you see that we've written "thoese who aren't interested..." , "lazy about..." , "in Mälmö most swedish..." , "most of them are..." , "youngers are..." , "few couples are..." ?!
And it seems that we should mention for another time that we do not hate anybody & not annoyed &... we are not to say this: 4 of 5 best friends we've ever had are swedish. we owe this country...then you suggest us leave sweden ! why don't you leave USA when you beleive swedish are better than Americans? what we've written is what has happened."false is false" : "Swedish people speak english better than American natives" ?!!!!!!!!!!Explicit image available, join sdc.com to view we think thoese who ARE living here can judg better than thoese who just come here once a year. How fast you can realize the amout of others information !!
what you've written about americans are worse,so you have permission to state any americans' faults, but we don't have the same permission for our country! why ?
we wonder why can't you "open minded" people bear any critics?!
and we should leave sweden because once we've used our human right !
we beleive in this country.we do love it much more than you.we try to mention some swedish people that their manner isn't apropriate for swedish open-minded people.maybe we are wrong.they can choose the way they prefer
anyway, thanks for reading the blog.this was exactly what we wanted ! next you receive a mail, you may remember this blogExplicit image available, join sdc.com to view |
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| by BOCABABE on March 19, 2010 |
I am afraid your sample size might be a tad too small to make such sweeping generalizations about an entire region, including three Nordic countries (Sweden, Demark and Norway). I don’t for a minute doubt your experience, but to suggest that the “Swedish way” is to ignore people or the “Danish way” is to lie, or describing all Swedes as “cowards or racists”, seems a tad extreme. I am not so sure you have information to make these statements about an entire culture or ethnicity. I am not so sure lazy is an apt word to describe Swedish people that don’t learn English sufficiently enough for you. If you think Swedes are lazy, I would hate to think of your opinion of Americans, where many of us don’t learn English very well at all, and very very few learn or even attempt to learn another language. My friend, my experience, having spent at least a month in Sweden every year for the past ten, is exactly opposite of yours. Swedes are far more accepting of other cultures than most, have (on average) much better opinion of people of different races and are certainly not lazy. In fact, I would wager that the average Swede, speaks and writes better English than the average native born American. Also, our experience on SDC has been nothing but positive from Swedish couples. They return our emails, reply in near flawless English (even though it is not their native tongue) and are nothing but polite and respectful. But to each his own, if they are not your cup of tea, move on to other countries, Europe is filled with great people from very diverse backgrounds, I am sure you can find someone that likes you. I am not sure a post like what you have written will change any one’s opinion of you for the better, but I am sure that was not your intent. Good luck |
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| by WILD1DAWN1 on March 19, 2010 |
| Ok, that's fair. You can email me telling me I'm rude for not answering your email and I can ignore it...lol (although I didn't) |
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| by HORNYGENTLES on March 19, 2010 |
Dear Dawn !
you are as free not answering as others are in judging you |
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| by SXYCRZYCO1 on March 18, 2010 |
It happens everywhere. People have their own way to deal with things. Mrs. SxyCrzyCo and I both believe in at least being polite. A lot of people do not. but, thats what makes people different. If you had written to us we would have written back RIGHT AWAY !!! :) take care.
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| by HORNYGENTLES on March 18, 2010 |
Humen can judge about everything.so we thought we could recommend a polite way(in our point of view).we were NOT upset,at all.we just didn't expect this from people who suppose themselves "open minded" |
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| by WILD1DAWN1 on March 18, 2010 |
I responded to an email once, saying, "Thank you but you are not our type, thank you and good luck in your search"
They emailed back asking WHY they weren't our type.
I felt obliged to answer truthfully but I felt I hurt their feelings and I don't ever want to be put in that position again, so I just don't answer the emails I'm not interested in.
Everyone has their reasons for what they do and how they do it. I don't think we should be judged or chastised for not doing it "your" way. Or asked WHY? for any reason.
Dawn :)
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| by ISLANDCHOCO on March 18, 2010 |
Well this is not a good sign for my tour of Scandanavia lol.
I think that it comes down to personality...some people will only reply if they are interested and well tis their right how ever much we dont agree with it. One of the great things about 'swinging' is that there are no judgements ( or menat to be) placed on anyone...so even if we think it is rude not to reply even with a polite no thanks then dont let it bother you...think of it as their lose.
Choco
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| by AKA808 on March 18, 2010 |
| Its disheartning to see people not respond. After all it is a site where all prejucdices aside, people come to play and build new friend ship or just a one night stand. Either way its about sex folks why not respond. A simple yeah or nay always works!!!.....Just want to let you know i like you both!!! hopefully we catch up very very very soon! |
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