| by BIGSINS on January 29, 2012 |
Funny part the couple I am talking about are even on this Site... so do I approach them! your thaughts on that pleaseeee!
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| by FOUR on January 29, 2012 |
| Top secret. Why should we tell them? Not safe. |
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| by BIGSINS on January 28, 2012 |
| i have a friend that I know hima and his wife swing ...but dont know how to approach them .. we meet a lot him and I ... but i was never able to open the subject with him... I realy dont know the correct approach .. plus we do live in a very conservative place... can you guys sugges how to approach..? I do have the hottts for his lady and they are both realy a nice couple to be with...thanks! |
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| by BLOWNBULBS on January 27, 2012 |
| It's a case by case thing. If we think they can handle it, we tell them. If not, we protect them from themselves and keep them ignorant. |
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| by STONEMANE on January 27, 2012 |
We tell as many people as possible - when the setting is right. It has actually worked out well for us on a couple occasions. :)
Now we are soft/3somes only & there may be less of a stigma attached to that.
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| by CHAMMY-FL on January 26, 2012 |
We lived a long time where this was a closely guarded secret. Now? We are fortunate to be in a position where if someone does find out, it can't affect us professionally, and that means it really won't affect us personally either. Some friends know, others don't. The ones we think can handle it we often just tell, the ones we don't think can handle it... they don't know. We've lost enough friends over the issue years ago that we know who to tell, and who not to. Our instincts have gotten much sharper with experience. The only people kept in the dark are family, as they are definitely among those who would not understand. The families are not at all Internet savvy, so we have little to worry about. We're good. And we're honest, we've had friends corner us and ask. We just tell them. How they react matters little to us now. You asked to know? Now ya know. Our one indellibly inked rule is that we never play with previous acquaintances or friends. Anyone we meet through the lifestyle? Fair game. We find this works best... it's managed to keep things simple for a long time.
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| by NEWNREADY on January 25, 2012 |
Explicit image available, join sdc.com to viewNone of our common friends know, but I'm a woman... And I like to talk to my girlfriends, so, yeah, a few of them know. And my two closest friends even know many of the juicy details. Like someone else previously said, they are a bit crazy themselves... I think the term was "twisted vanilla"... LOL!
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| by WHYNOTBITE on January 25, 2012 |
Only thing that our vanilla friends know is that nowadays we are never available for friday and saturday night get togethers and seems to strangely suggest lunches.
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| by IRISHSPANISH on January 25, 2012 |
east is east and west is west
and ne'er the twain shall meet
we're multi-taskers: we can juggle "Normal" friends and SDC friends at the same time.
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| by EYESWIDESHUT10 on January 25, 2012 |
| We prefer to keep our lifestyle participation a private matter and choose not to share that with our vanilla friends. I think that would make for too many awkward moments and snap judgements from people outside of the LS scene. We would probably share this private part of our lives with the right vanilla couple if the proper moment and circumstance ever presented itself. If we saw some friends on this site -- well that's a different matter completely. I guess if we were interested we would drop them a and let them know. If they are on the site also, there is little risk of them outing us without inadvertently outing themselves in the process. |
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| by BD4FUN on January 25, 2012 |
| with the exception of two couples we have known for years as vanilla friends first and just happen to find out about each other...No its not something we would talk about with our vanilla friends, unless another situation arose like it did with the other two couples. |
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| by GATORANDMISSY on January 25, 2012 |
| To the best of our knowledge we have no friends that are on FB that we know are in the LS. I have let a one close friend that lives some distance away about being in the LS and she is on FB. What is really freaky is that a few years ago is that my older sister is into BDSM! Even took her and her hubby to a club one night and let them tie and whip my wife. |
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| by EMPTYNESTERS1 on January 25, 2012 |
| None of our vanilla friends or family know. WE have friends that are so ultra conservative vanilla that they would no longer want to be seen in the same room as us. |
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| by MSSEXUALCONDUCT on January 25, 2012 |
Most of my vanilla friends know. My vanilla friends are freaks though. I call them vanillas, with a twist.
Carrie
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| by GDLLUSTING on January 24, 2012 |
i think i like to keep this lifestyle separated to some extent. at leats the details. alot of my friends already know that i'm a sexual wildman already. and i've probably even talked about swinging in a round about way. getting into details is something i probably am not into doing with people who are not into this lifestyle. i don't even really talk too much about these types of sites. maybe it's better just to let them think it happens magically. lol.
but oh wow... FB friends popping up on here... umm... that would make me a little uneasy. especially since i have been taking time deleting people that are too far out of my orbit. i am not one of those people who has 1000 friends on there. i have less than 150. down from 170 recently. so, everyone on my page are people i actually know and/or have met in person. wouldn't want to be too chatty about swinging with most of them.
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