Is seems like most couples want to go home and play on the night of our first meeting.  We are new to the lifestyle but not prudes by any means. Generally we don't like to do it on a first meeting.  Everyone we have been out with has been respectful (as we let them know up front that we rarely go home with someone on a first meeting), but seem kind of put out once we are out.  We don't misrepresent ourselves, so it's not that we don't look like our pics.  Is it because if they went to the trouble to get a sitter, get ready to go out and spend money on an evening out, they want us to put out? Just wondering if there are many other couples out there who like to make friends first?  We just think it's sexier going home with friends than going home with strangers.  Our experience is that most people who want to do it on the first date are the "hit it and quit it" type.  We never get a call back from first date doers.  Then you're left wondering if they had that bad of a time, or if they just want to do everybody they meet and not make any friends.    What's your advice for newbies?