We have found that people most often expect sex on the first date... is that normal?  We put it out there that we usually do not go home with people on a first date but then they still seem a little put out about it when we do go out.  If we all four were seriously attracted to each other with lots of chemistry right off the bat then we might, but we would rather hang out with a couple several times before having sex.  We are new to the lifestyle but we are not prudes...  we just think it's much sexier when you know the couple than with strangers, even if we are attracted to them immediately.  Anticipation, building the pressure, thinking about that couple for a week... just adds to the fun.  Thoughts? Previous experience... people who do it on the first date usually don't want to hang out any more. We don't misrepresent ourselves... so I don't think that they are disappointed with the experience... hopefully not!!  Maybe they just are more interested in sex then building friendships?  We want BOTH!   : )