Hi all...We've been married for a LONG time, and had been swinging for about 8 or 9 years.
I read one posting about how to quit, and it's pretty much the same story, but different happenings to why one of us needs to quit..
Okay, When we first started, we agreed that when one wanted to quit the lifestyle, all we had to do is say so, and it's done.    Well, in '07 my son enlisted in the service. This was VERY hard for me to deal with.. but I continued in the lifestyle. It was work to get excited... but I did it because my husband enjoys it.  When the boy got deployed to Iraq, it sent me into, what I believe perimenopause.  Periods are never regular.. mood swings... irritability.. a HUGE weight gain, and worse yet.. crying jags that could go for days(literally), or start at a drop of a word... It's hard to go to a party, and someone asks about your kid, and boom, waterworks.. Party killer. Worse yet, my sex drive has fallen. TREMENDOUSLY! I might be interested in sex... maybe once a month... So I told my husband we need to sit this out for a bit.. at least till my son comes back stateside... I told my husband he's free to play on his own..in fact I pushed it, but he won't play without me. And I can accept that, however, he's still contacting couples, agreeing to meet at motels, etc... knowing I can't get myself to enjoy it. I used to 'take one for the team' but just can't do it anymore... I'm starting to resent what's going on. I'm feeling like he either  doesn't really love me, care about me, or respect me. Yes, I've talked about it... only to fall on deaf ears. (I have asked for a divorce because of this, but because there IS a lot of time invested in this marriage, memories, etc... it's not really what I want). So to cut to the chafe... How do I get him to back off, quit pressuring me?... I thought surely there's some military moms out there that might help me out..