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| From internet to real meet, how does it work out? |
We've been swinging for quite some time now but have never met anyone in person that we have connected with on the internet. Generally we meet people at straight clubs, have a party at our place after the bar closes, and work on finding sex partners from there. We have been very successful to this point and have never met anyone else in the lifestyle.We get the opportunity to meet people in a closed environment without any pretense of sexual activity so we get to bond with people first and move on from there.
My wife has left me in charge with finding a club to go to on our one night outing to montreal this weekend and this question has once again popped into my mind: how does one drop any expectation before the meet? We have had "dates" with people we know in the past and never felt like we were going out to have sex with these people, sure we were hoping :) but never felt there was any pressure. When we exchange emails with people, the excitement of meeting someone in the lifestyle builds up quickly, I can't help but imagine what it feels like when you actually make a plan for a direct meet with someone.
We are so used to meeting people in a non sexual fashion where you have the opportunity to see what they look like, hear the person talk, see how they act in public etc: and then you get to make your own decision if this is someone that you would like to sleep with. Over the net it seems that you first look to see if you would like to sleep with them and then decide if you would like them later, seems like theres a lot of room for heartache or at least blue balls lol
What can we do to make sure we present ourselves accurately in our profile and our emails so that when we do meet people, we are as advertised, without throwing discretion out the window? We are pretty open with people we meet about our lifestyle however for our childrens sake we try and keep our profile (and internet life in general) in check as to not end up on school billboards etc.
I'm hoping that we won't disappoint anyone that we meet but for the first time, in a very long time, I'm getting that shy butterfly feeling, and shy would probably be the last word you would ever use to describe me lol
Thanks in advance
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| by PETERJOE on October 21, 2011 |
| I quite agree with you! |
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| by BADBOY35 on October 9, 2009 |
Ok I don't know if you have ever seen the The Matrix movie but there is a scene that applies here. As you may know the movie deals with a virtual reality that humans are trapped in and live in as if it were their real life. In the scene Neo (Keanu Reeves) goes to see the oracle to get his future told, to see if he is The One (obviously, The One is the one that saves the day, and saves human from The Matrix). As Neo is sitting in the waiting room, he sees a child bending a spoon, when he asks him how he does that, the child says that Neo shouldn't worry about bending the spoon but on the fact that this being a virtual reality, there really is no spoon.
In your case you are asking how to go about not having expectations when you meet someone, it is really that simple. DON'T have expectations. Make a date, meet someone, have fun for yourselves and let the night go where it will. If there is no chemistry, or the other party is not what you expected , or you are not what they expected, you can still go to a vanilla bar and pick up someone else and still have a blast. |
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| by SEXYFLORIDIAN on August 11, 2009 |
| Just meet for a drink and check out the other couple. If they do not seem right u can leave politely without any problem. If you click you can go to a nightclub and have some fun. |
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