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       Posted by NICKANDMARIA Posted on July 30, 2007 View Comments 3      
What if you're not attacted to the other half of a couple?

How do I handle this? What do you do if your spouse wants to play with a couple you're not attacted to?  We seem to run across many couples where the woman is very attactive which of course, my husband is very interested in.  However, most of the time, the male is not my type at all and I have no attaction to him whatsoever. What is the proper etiquette in this situation? I'm talking about a club situation, we haven't really gone to house parties. I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings but I am tired of "taking one (or 4 or 5) for the team" so my husband can enjoy himself. I don't mind doing this once and a while but this seems to be the norm lately.

What is the expectation in a "back room" type of situation? We are kind of new to this so we are unsure of how to handle this. 

       Posted by LULUSROCK Posted on July 22, 2007 View Comments 2      
What are the rules

Hello,

If we are playing as a couple (in a private party or club) and the female half of another couple asks to join, is it ok to accept her even if we don't want to play with the male half or are we obligated to play with him if we want her to join.?  Right now we are not a full swap couple, and would not like to offend anyone.  Please help.  Will accept any other rules of conduct you may provide.  Thanks,

       Posted by JASONANDLEIA Posted on July 20, 2007 View Comments 0      
Swinging Separately

My partner and I are very much in love, and he enjoys seeing me play with others. I enjoy our lifestyle and playing with other couples together.. he has commented to me on a couple of occasions that he has had the opportunity to play when I have not been around, but he didn't because we really haven't "thoroughly" discussed this topic. I don't feel secure with him playing without me, and feel that doing so is just setting our relationship up for problems. I do understand that our connection is both emotional and physical, and our play connections are physical, but every time I think about him having sex with another woman when I'm not around my heart aches. Any advice how to overcome my insecurity? Any couples out there who play separate and avoid conflict?

 

 

 

       Posted by JETBLAST Posted on July 19, 2007 View Comments 2      
I am a little confused

My husband and I have been in the lifestyle for about 4 years now, we have never swapped as of yet, because for me it takes time to feel really comfortable, anyway I have now gone from being afraid of taking off my clothes in front of others to now being a complete nudist, feeling very comfortable with myself & have gone through all those  levels of feeling comfortable having sex in front of others at clubs, but my problem is I find that each time we go to a club my husband automatically expects me to out in the back room & have sex with him & is hoping others too, which we have gone back there every time we go. I am now at the stage where I feel ready to go to full swap it's taken me a long time to get to this point, but last night at a club I told my husband I did not want to go in the back room as I was having too much fun dancing & talking to him & others & said that I did not want to go back there I would rather wait til we get home to play around with each other, but he instantly got really pissed off with me and started arguing with me about it. I was feeling so happy in the beginning of the evening and then he turned into someone horrible he made me feel like I was some kind of cheap whore that wouldn't give it up to him and he got extremely pissed off when I said NO! He acted like a completely different person (not my husband)  as soon as I said No to him.  I told him I just wanted to stay with him at the bar area as we were having such a good time together.

He made me feel like he was just using me so he go to the back & have sex with me & hoping with others, but I didn't feel like it & I thought No means No even with your husband, it felt like I was on a date because I said No, he got really nasty made me feel cheap no good & then ignored me all the way home.  Just when I"m now at the stage where I feel ready to go the full way, he blows it for me & us, now I just feel angry with his behaviour & is ruining something that had taken me so long to finally get to this point, that now I don't want to go back to any clubs or go to the next level  because of the way he acted and treated me!   how should I handle this? 

       Posted by HOTTESTROOM Posted on July 16, 2007 View Comments 1      
Swingers meeting points NYC, San Francisco, L.A, San Diego...........
 We begin in NYC from 12/21, arriving California 1/3,picking up a car and from Sausalito till San Diego go and return in a 12 days trip. Pls let us know as many places you consider interesting for an energetic couple. Have you a list of swinger clubs you recomend around this mentioned trip???Tks in advance. Regards.Ramiro
       Posted by DESEOS1 Posted on July 14, 2007 View Comments 6      
PORQUE TODOS PONEN SOLO FOTOS DE ELLAS Y NO TB DE ELLOS??

hemos observado que casi todos los socios el 99% de las fotos son de las chicas y los chicos solo aparecn en una foto o en ninguna, porque??? no deberia de ser asi verdad?'

que opinais de esto, y tb es una pregunta para todos los socios, un saludo

       Posted by PUREXTACY69 Posted on July 10, 2007 View Comments 4      
Condom dilemma...

OMG, I'm totally freaking out...after 5 years of successfully Soft-swapping, my hubby & I were both ready to take it to the next level & have since had a few (good) Full-swap experiences over the past year.  EXCEPT for last weekend == BOTH of our guys put their own condoms on & afterwards, I just assumed my partner (her hubby) took his off & disposed of it (I was busy playing with his wife)...However, the next time I went to the bathroom, the condom came out of me...Yuck!!!  I feel sooo dirty now & am literally SICK to my stomach about the possibility of disease!!  I know I can't change what happened, but WHAT CAN (or should) I DO NOW to ease my stress level?

       Posted by CREAMYCPL69 Posted on July 7, 2007 View Comments 4      
What do we do?

Why is it that us as a couple have a hard time connecting with other couples. We have found several patterns happening alot lately. One the patterns is that we are parents and we feel most couples get turned off that we have a commitment in life and that it's not always easy to go out without having babysitter. The situation seems to get more personal. We found others say they don't think attraction is going to be there. Meanwhile how can you judge someone you hardly even know. We both are a very decent looking couple with an amazing personality. Please tell us what can we do we to try to enjoy SDC more as now its not fun anymore as it seems we get turned down more than having fun.

       Posted by CREAMYCPL69 Posted on July 7, 2007 View Comments 0      
What do we do?

Why is it that us as a couple have a hard time connecting with other couples. We have found several patterns happening alot lately. One the patterns is that we are parents and we feel most couples get turned off that we have a commitment in life and that its not always easy to go out with a properly babysitter. The situation seems to get more personal. We found others say they don't think attraction is going to be there. Meanwhile how can you judge someone you hardly even know. We both are a very decent looking couple with an amazing personality. Please tell us what can we do we to try to enjoy SDC more as now its not fun anymore as it seems we get turned down more than having fun.

       Posted by BCCOUPLE1 Posted on July 1, 2007 View Comments 3      
Are you obligated to repeat

Hi Elvis:

We are fairly new to the lifestyle. We recently attended a great party at a private home. We met and played with some great people. We are going to another party this month were some people from the previous party will be as well. The question is.....should we feel obligated to repeat with the previous couples or can we play with others if we so desire without any hurt feelings.

Thanks,