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       Posted by KINDREDSPIRITS Posted on May 27, 2008 View Comments 1      
Boundaries and Respect in the Lifestyle
Last month we had a "newbie" couple, whom we had played with on several occasion (soft swap only) over to our home and she and I (Mr.) were playing in the pool.  We ended up with me backed against the wall and her straddling me.  Long story short, she attempted insertion on a number of occasions.  My responses ranged from "you are being bad" to "no protection, no sex" to "that is against your own rules and could cause a lot of drama"... and exited the pool.  Her responses are what has been troubling me.  One was to keep it secret.  Another was to claim the I was so drunk... which I pointed out did not do much since SHE was the one on top and SHE was the one attempting it.  On protection, she was sure that she was fine and was her that should worry about me.  When asked why they are soft if intercourse is what she wants, she said she wanted to, but he didn't.

It all seems very disrespectful of herself, her relationship and my relationship. 

I think I am going to have a phone conversation with her to this effect and try to explain to her the trouble she is going to cause herself and her relationship, as well as how the majority of experienced lifestyle people may not receive such action as well as I did.  It would that it could have been very easy for the evening to completely explode into drama filled chaos if I had brought this to our partners' attentions in the moment.  I did not, but spoke with my partner about it the next day.  I believe I will leave her relationship to her and not address this with her husband, unless such actions and disrespect occur again.

Thoughts?

       Posted by BOATINGLOVERS Posted on May 23, 2008 View Comments 1      
need your opinion
Hello, we live in south florida we have been in the scene 3 yrs and have trouble meeting people who the women are not bi and the couples are matched i like the young hot babes but they are always with the old fat rich men. is there a community that matches couples evenly we don't want gods and goddesses just an even match.
       Posted by WANNA4PLAY Posted on May 20, 2008 View Comments 2      
newcomer

I know you must hear this question often but I need the answer so I will ask.

If you are curious and not sure you want to join the lifestyle how do you take action ?  I think my husband and I would prefer some type of social event.. where do I go in South Texas ?

       Posted by VIRGIN2VIXEN Posted on May 7, 2008 View Comments 1      
Post-play depression

Hi,

I was just wondering, how other couples have dealt with post-play depression? My wife and I have had inmate encounters with others before. I just have to admit this last time; I have hit a serious depression from our experience.

She had an encounter with a gentleman friend, I should say acquaintance. I was all for her enjoying her experience. But, when I went to see how everything was going, I freaked (internally of course). But still I was in a complete state of panic and four days later I can't seem to let go of the visions of my wife giving the passion of our relationship away to this person. Sucking him off like there was no one else alive and this was her only sustenance.

As I said before we have had other experiences and I have not felt like this until now. I am in a serious funk. She says to me that "we have sex, we make love to each other, that (her experience) was just fun" uses phrases like "addicted to the Life Style". Since this last experience we have had sex at least 10 times in the last three days and today she came home for a nooner. I feel like after two decades of marriage I am on the verge of losing my wife, not to this gentleman, just a feeling I get, she says "no". But she is screwing me in ways she never has. I know 'what am I complaining about; just embrace her new found sexual vigor'. It just doesn't seem to help with this funk, I'm in. What can I do? Has anyone gone through something like I am experiencing? Is there any advice to cope with what I consider to be irrational feelings? Signed, I just want to be me again