I have read many questions here (not all...) and I am pretty sure I am somewhat an exception to the rule. Since very recently we started to get involved in the swinstyle world. I was the one suggesting it. Now that we have been on a few dates, I am confronted with myself. My lady appears to like it very much, but I am having serious trouble seeing her with another man. So much that I have her stop during play, and that I can not relax and enjoy myself. Looks to me like plain jealousy on my part, which I want to get rid off.

When discussing swinging with my lady I really am into it, it does not give me awkward feelings at all and I find it a very arousing thought, us two being involved with another couple. We tell each other fantasies during play which is very stimulating, but as soon as it comes down to "the real thing" anxiety kills the cat, so to speak.

Anyone here with some advice for the MAN with these feelings, instead of the lady?

M

Hello,

I see most of the members concentrating in Europe, UK or America. a little in Bangkok too I must say. will you let me know how we be able to bring them to Nepal, where I live. I dont see any existance of  lifestyle here in Nepal, I tried hard alot, but still unsucceed. Could you please suggest the  way.!!

Hola

Somos pareja española que estaremos en Hedo III a finales de Marzo , principios de Abril.
Quisieramos saber si alguna pareja de habla hispana estará por esas fechas y si es frecuente encontrar parejas que hablen español

Gracias

I have a group of friends, very close friends, I always have fantasies with one of my friens wife.

How can I find out if they are into swinging?  Is it a good idea to swing with your close group of friends, or is it better to find people you dont know very well?

Elvis, I have been reading many of the questions and comments on here and find many of them very intersting but not really helpful in my situation.  My husband and I  have been married 20+ years.  We started swinging about 3 1/2  years ago.  I really wasn't wanting to but decided to so as to please my husband.  About 7 months ago we both wanted to try out "hall passes" with the agreement that the other knew in advance and gave permission for the pass.  We wanted to try it to see if it was something for us.  There was to be NO MEETING OR PLAYING if the other did not know in advance.  I had my first experience a few months ago.  My husband helped set it up so they knew in advance and even spoke to the other person participating.  He was even on the phone for most of the nite while I was enjoying myself.  Everything was above board. 

I found out later that he had another account listed as single.  I also found out that he had used this to "MEET" others without my knowledge.  I also found out that he was listed on other sites as a single and had us as a couple without me knowing it.  He says nothing happened on the "meet" but how do I trust that.  OUR aggreement was we were to have full disclosure.  I have been very open and honest about all of my conversations.  I copy and paste most of my conversations and send them to him.  He does not reciprocate and that also is apart of our aggreement.  Those are the rules that he set forth.  I really could use some advice on this.  I am ready to leave the lifestyle and him.  Not looking for a marriage saver from anyone.  Just looking for some input.  I appreciate anything you can give me.  Thanks.

Elvis,

We have been married 16yrs and have been talking about wachting my wife as she plays with a married couple. She is not interested in singles but is very turned on about the idea of being a third with a married couple. We have had some trouble finding the right couple since most want all parties involved. Any advice and would this type of scenerio work where 4people are friend but only three actually play?

Elvis, I'm sure that this subject has been brought to you many times so please bare with us...:)  Why is it most people think two or more ladies going at it is normal but, two or more guys going at it is just plain gay? 

 We have seen some people say they are STR8 but it's ok for someone of the same sex to go down on them.  We have heard others say that if a guy enjoys oral with another guy he must be into anal sex as well.

For us we are against labels of any kind from a swinging aspect.  We are open minded enough to have fun and not judge as long as we are open and honest.  It would be nice to have your two cents as well...lol

We would love to hear from as many people as possible.

HOLA MI QUERIDO ELVIS

NOSOTROS HEMOS SUBIDO RECIENTEMENTE UN BLOG PREGUNTANDO A LAS DEMAS PAREJAS QUE ES LO QUE CONVIENE MAS, EL TENER UN GRUPO DE PAREJAS ESTABLES PARA JUGAR DIVERTIRNOS Y SWINGEAR O IR DE CAMA EN CAMA BUSCANDO NUEVAS EXPERIENCIAS?

EN TU EXPERIENCIA QUE RESULTA MEJOR?

SALUDOS P & P

The question we have is what is the big fantasy of cigars & how to do it . We are kinky & MAY like to try it but can not find any site that tells about it it is all pay and watch crap ..So us being in the lifestyle we decided to ask you on are SDC web page :o0 hope to get some REAL talk about it  Thanks M& C

Hallo

We are spanish couple, ando we want´s to go to hedonisms resort, but we don´t know if go to hedonism II or Hedonism III.We want ´s to go in the last week of March.

Can somebody tell as the diferrece bettewen the both resorts.

Thank ´s

Hi I've been seeing a guy for 7 months who prides himself on his honesty & has been in the lifestyle since '91;i told him I don't care if he plays;per our original agreement,as long as he is honest;& I agreed to do the same with him,I kept my end of the agreement & he has decieved me up 'til this point;so we have spent the past 3 weeks apart; I've told him now even if we part ways at the very least I deserve the truth;i have to find out about his playing by way of his validations;which is unfair & disrespectful. he says i am jealous,yet I am not insanely jealous;a little jealousy is healthy,at least I've been truthful.

Any advice or insight,please?