I have noticed that there is a bias toward married men. I thought in this world of equality we would have evolved. my hope was that people that were progressive in their veiw of sex would also be that way about gender.

The reason for my observation is that it appears that it is ok for marrried woman to pursue relationships on their own with their partner's consent and this is accepted as an opprotunity by other singles or couples to play.  However, if the husband, with the wife's permission has the same opportunity the site and the community are not receptive and we, married men, are veiwied as some sickies or pervs.

My wife and and I of 24 years have a great relationship and we supplement it with the fun of the lifestyle. However, after many years of trying to find foursomes where we are all compatible, we decided we would support each other to play alone as it appears it is easier.  It has worked well for my beautiful wife but for me, it appears there is a bias.

You might think that it would be that I am some fat, sloppy, stupid guy, which I am far from, but it appears that the word "married man" is  a taboo.  Trust me it is not the end of the world as my sex life is quite complete and the funny thing is that more women out of the lifestyle hit on me regularly.  The difference is they are looking for commitment and I am committed to only one woman till the day I die.

I would appreciate not only  your thoughts, but your support in emancipating the "married man" in our community of lifestylers.

thanks!!

Normally when I am with my wife, I can hold my orgasm, but when we try with another coaple and with another man, I was so clazy to see my wife with another man and the other girl with me that in 2 minutes i had an orgasm.

I tried diferent stuffs to hold but now I am thinking to take a VIAGRA and let the orgasm go and go and go.

What do you think?

Hello,

I am writing because my other half broke the rules and now I dont know what to do.

We have an open relationship, and it has been that way from day one. Recently I have been forced with my job to be overseas for months at a time. So we decided that if eiter one of us wants to play while we are apart it is ok. As long as we take pictures or videos.

So last week she calls me and says "honey I have a friend here and I want to play." So I agreed and simply said remember to take some video so I can enjoy too.

She agreed and hung up. The next day she calls back and said she did the deed but didnt take any video.

So now I am upset and dont know what to do.

Does anyone know of a good erotic foreplay game that you can play with cards or dice?

Thanks...

Does anyone know of good erotic foreplay games that you can play with cards or anything else?

Thanks...

I just found this section of SDC and love it. There is a lot of good information here.

My husband and I are new to the lifestyle, and we're both very excited about it. Our relationship was an open one before (we could see other people apart) so I don't think jealousy would be an issue. Even though I am excited, I am a little nervous to see another couple since we have no experience... let's say I'm worried more about the etiquette of the lifestyle. Can anybody help? Or is there any other resources that I can go to?

Thank you so much for your help!

I love tp preform oral on women... form a womens prospective what can I do to come better at preforming this art.  I guess what I an says is why do women proform oral better on another women than a man can.  I really want to be the best I can be at this.

Ben

Hola nos gustaria que nos ayudaras somos nuevos en lo del swing y nos guataria que nos dieras tips para poderle llegar a los socios somos una pareja de novios muy atrevidos y queremos conocer gente igual tenemos posivilidad de viajar y muchas cosas mas buana posicion economica y nos guataria que nos dieras un empujoncito jaja agradeciendote mucho

Dear Elvis,

I would like to explore becoming a dominatrix.  Do you know of any resources on the web I might explore? 

Male ½ here.  My wife and I have been married for 10 years and together for a total of 15. We’ve been active in the lifestyle for the past 2 years and have enjoyed some great times and have gone so far as to decide to have an open marriage for about 1 ½ years, meaning that we both see and have sex with others on our own.

I met a woman about 2 months ago and we’ve become so close so quickly it feels like we were meant to be together.  She was single when we met and now has gotten back together with her ex-boyfriend, neither of them are into swinging.  She tells me that I am the man of her dreams and if I were single would marry me in a heartbeat and I feel the same way.

I’m a naturally outgoing person, I like to socialize and be around other people and love the attention.  My wife doesn’t like getting attention and because her job is retail she’s around people all day and enjoy’s more of the alone and quiet time.  The other woman is like me, naturally outgoing, loves to socialize, loves attention.

I’ve been reading online advice columns on what to do in this situation; however I’ve not been able to find anything that addresses the lifestyle/open marriage aspect.  I and this other women both agree that we are “cheating” on our significant others even if it’s just emotional at this point and agree that it’s wrong.  But we are so drawn to each other, it’s hard to stay away.

This woman and I have been having very frank discussions about our future together and would it really work out or is this just lust.  The bigger question comes down to do I have these feelings for her because I’m missing out on something in my marriage?  My wife is aware that I’ve been seeing this woman, but I’ve not shared the emotional attachment I’ve developed because I know how much it would hurt her. 

My marriage is very good, we’re not angry at each other, we don’t fight, we talk a lot, so what’s going on here?  Any advice or food for thought would be greatly appreciated.  I’m sure this issue comes up, how do you deal with it?

Que tal Elvis!!!

Quisiera me pudieras decir con quien platicar referente a un juego de mesa que voy a lanzar en el mercado mexicano,  y el objetivo de este, es hacer que en las reuniones entre los swingers sea mas facil el lograr romper el hielo y realizar las fantasias que todos tenemos, asi entonces, quisiera hacer un intercambio comercial con SDC, para que por un lado, como el juego se comercializará en las sex shops mexicanas, llegaremos a publico que no es swinger pero que tiene fantasias y que muy probablemente una vez jugando el juego se interese en este estilo de vida, ahi mismo en el juego hallará la invitacion para registrarse en SDC, mediante el programa de a filiados.

El intercambio consistiria en que yo en el tablero inserte el logo de SDC y funcione como salida o comienzo de este y uds coloquen un banner al sitio web que tendremos para este fin, lo mismo sucederia en nuestro sitio web, de tal forma que ambas partes ganemos.

Ojala pudieras ayudarme.

Recibe un cordial saludo de Angel y Kalipso.

Tenemos muy buenas referencias tuyas de parte de Gago.

Saludos!!!