Como empezar     Nos cuesta mucho arrancar Somos una pareja despareja 54 y 24, hace 4 años que estamos juntos y hace mas de un año y medio nos dio ganas de conocer el mundo Swinger, Flor tenia la fantasia de ver otra pareja haciendo el amor. Asi nos metimos en los sistemas de internet, y comenzamos a concurrir a algun boliche Sw. Fuimos soltandonos hasta hacer el amor en medio de todos en la sala de desnudos, con algunas caricias y mimos entre los presentes, pero no avanzamos mas de alli. Nuestra fantasia es conocer a alguna pareja e ir de a poco, salir a cenar o a tomar unos tragos, bailar y luego ir viendo como se va calentando el ambiente y avanzar con sensualidad, mimos y juegos y ver hasta donde se llega. Quizas no intercambiar la primera vez, pero hacer el amor los cuatro en la misma cama. Hasta ahora no hemos tenido suerte en encontrar la pareja que nos motive, parece todo muy palo y a la bolsa. Les mandamos un beso, Gracias por leer nuestro Bolg. Flor y Daniel

I am a recently divorced man, I am divorced because my former wife and I become far apart and nothing i common. Nothing worked and the life we had while was upscale was not lovin and fun. What I actuallly want in life is maybe something not to be had, can you build up my hopes and give me a spirit of hope in finding that special one. I am very sexual and do swing some, why cause like all of you like sex. However what i really what is what we all want but if I had a special lady I woul be forever happy. She would be an attractive lady, self confident in her skin wearing a evening gown or blue jeans. She must have that attraction and make me want her physically but being attractive and sexy, but not a stripper type. A everyday woamn you might find in a grocery store, one who love life, children good mother, cleans house and loves her role as woamn of the home. Also a lady who would love to sit on a park ebnch sipping coffee and being happy sitting there with me cause we both know we love each other. One that when we kiss in a soft manner that stops the world from turning  and gives you chill bumps from a simple kiss. Someone who can look sexy and dress any part, maybe a seductive lady in a short sh=kirt, maybe a evening gown with gardners underneath and no panties, maybe no bra and with jeans on wearing a t shirt on the back of my harley, or just laying on the couch with her head in my lap on a rainy fall day listening to the rain hit the dry leaves with that fall chill in the air knowing I love her dearly while i stroke her face.  I want total love and the whole heart, but I want to show the same for her, I want love late in my life, if we want to have a lifestyle weekend fine if not fine, as long as we are toatlly honest, truthful and hides nothing from eachother we will be always best friends. i want a best friend and incredible sex. I am successful and semi weathly but without love, nothing else is worthit without this special lady. Are they out there, are they for real, are they on tis site, I promise I am truthful and honest about this and only here to find her or fill the missing areas in my life while being with others on this site. God please bring her to me. anybody know where she, tell her to come and contact me cause I am looking for here. I live within 50 mile radius of columbus ms.

I’m new to the lifestyle. I’m also very curious about a few things and was wondering if you all could share your experiences and thoughts with me. If so, here are a few questions that come to mind, but feel free to elaborate on your life story or only talk about what you feel comfortable: 1. How many years have you been in the lifestyle? 2. Why did you get into the lifestyle? 3. Who (man or woman) initiated the desire to be in the lifestyle? 4. How did your partner express to you their desire to be in the lifestyle? 5. Did it feel awkward at any time watching your partner with someone else? 6. Did you ever feel jealous or insecure, and if so, how did you control it? 7. Has the lifestyle strengthened or weakened your relationship? 8. Do you and your partner periodically discuss if the lifestyle is right for you?   9. If you were not in the lifestyle, what do you think your relationship would be like today with your partner? 10. If you could do it all over again, would you get into the lifestyle or not?   Thanks!

  Ok her is on that may stump the couunselor.   I bet a lot of guys keep some condoms in the glove box of thier auto. But when I went out a few weeks ago here in Wyoming the temps wer 20 Below zero F.   I would like to know if there is any harm done to condom from these temps. It dose not seem to have any effect

We have found that people most often expect sex on the first date... is that normal?  We put it out there that we usually do not go home with people on a first date but then they still seem a little put out about it when we do go out.  If we all four were seriously attracted to each other with lots of chemistry right off the bat then we might, but we would rather hang out with a couple several times before having sex.  We are new to the lifestyle but we are not prudes...  we just think it's much sexier when you know the couple than with strangers, even if we are attracted to them immediately.  Anticipation, building the pressure, thinking about that couple for a week... just adds to the fun.  Thoughts? Previous experience... people who do it on the first date usually don't want to hang out any more. We don't misrepresent ourselves... so I don't think that they are disappointed with the experience... hopefully not!!  Maybe they just are more interested in sex then building friendships?  We want BOTH!   : )

Is seems like most couples want to go home and play on the night of our first meeting.  We are new to the lifestyle but not prudes by any means. Generally we don't like to do it on a first meeting.  Everyone we have been out with has been respectful (as we let them know up front that we rarely go home with someone on a first meeting), but seem kind of put out once we are out.  We don't misrepresent ourselves, so it's not that we don't look like our pics.  Is it because if they went to the trouble to get a sitter, get ready to go out and spend money on an evening out, they want us to put out? Just wondering if there are many other couples out there who like to make friends first?  We just think it's sexier going home with friends than going home with strangers.  Our experience is that most people who want to do it on the first date are the "hit it and quit it" type.  We never get a call back from first date doers.  Then you're left wondering if they had that bad of a time, or if they just want to do everybody they meet and not make any friends.    What's your advice for newbies?

will you tell me what "Completely Open" means? Thanks, Carloz 

hola a todos, soy un hombre single lo cual no me ayuda mucho a entrar en el mundo swinging que tanto interés despierta en mi. He enviado email a gente que buscaba un perfil como el mio y no recibo respuestas. ¿cómo podéis ayudarme a ser uno de los vuestros? besos y gracias David

 Hi all...We've been married for a LONG time, and had been swinging for about 8 or 9 years. I read one posting about how to quit, and it's pretty much the same story, but different happenings to why one of us needs to quit.. Okay, When we first started, we agreed that when one wanted to quit the lifestyle, all we had to do is say so, and it's done.    Well, in '07 my son enlisted in the service. This was VERY hard for me to deal with.. but I continued in the lifestyle. It was work to get excited... but I did it because my husband enjoys it.  When the boy got deployed to Iraq, it sent me into, what I believe perimenopause.  Periods are never regular.. mood swings... irritability.. a HUGE weight gain, and worse yet.. crying jags that could go for days(literally), or start at a drop of a word... It's hard to go to a party, and someone asks about your kid, and boom, waterworks.. Party killer. Worse yet, my sex drive has fallen. TREMENDOUSLY! I might be interested in sex... maybe once a month... So I told my husband we need to sit this out for a bit.. at least till my son comes back stateside... I told my husband he's free to play on his own..in fact I pushed it, but he won't play without me. And I can accept that, however, he's still contacting couples, agreeing to meet at motels, etc... knowing I can't get myself to enjoy it. I used to 'take one for the team' but just can't do it anymore... I'm starting to resent what's going on. I'm feeling like he either  doesn't really love me, care about me, or respect me. Yes, I've talked about it... only to fall on deaf ears. (I have asked for a divorce because of this, but because there IS a lot of time invested in this marriage, memories, etc... it's not really what I want). So to cut to the chafe... How do I get him to back off, quit pressuring me?... I thought surely there's some military moms out there that might help me out..

We've been swinging for quite some time now but have never met anyone in person that we have connected with on the internet. Generally we meet people at straight clubs, have a party at our place after the bar closes, and work on finding sex partners from there. We have been very successful to this point and have never met anyone else in the lifestyle.We get the opportunity to meet people in a closed environment without any pretense of sexual activity so we get to bond with people first and move on from there. My wife has left me in charge with finding a club to go to on our one night outing to montreal this weekend and this question has once again popped into my mind: how does one drop any expectation before the meet? We have had "dates" with people we know in the past and never felt like we were going out to have sex with these people, sure we were hoping :) but never felt there was any pressure. When we exchange emails with people, the excitement of meeting someone in the lifestyle builds up quickly, I can't help but imagine what it feels like when you actually make a plan for a direct meet with someone. We are so used to meeting people in a non sexual fashion where you have the opportunity to see what they look like, hear the person talk, see how they act in public etc: and then you get to make your own decision if this is someone that you would like to sleep with. Over the net it seems that you first look to see if you would like to sleep with them and then decide if you would like them later, seems like theres a lot of room for heartache or at least blue balls lol What can we do to make sure we present ourselves accurately in our profile and our emails so that when we do meet people, we are as advertised, without throwing discretion out the window? We are pretty open with people we meet about our lifestyle however for our childrens sake we try and keep our profile (and internet life in general) in check as to not end up on school billboards etc. I'm hoping that we won't disappoint anyone that we meet but for the first time, in a very long time, I'm getting that shy butterfly feeling, and shy would probably be the last word you would ever use to describe me lol Thanks in advance

I would like to visit Desire in Cancun, but as a male only it's not possible to visit. I am looking for a nice and warm female who will join me to make this possible. Just step into writing and rest w'll see! Johan X

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