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What is Sexual Mindfulness?

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Rich Blonna Sexual Mindfulness Therapy Health Couple Sensual Pleasure SDC
Learn how to unleash the power of your sexual mind and enhance all of your sexual experiences with yourself and your partner(s).

In my first article, How Your Mind Thinks About Sex, I showed you how your mind is a 24/7 non-stop thinking and feeling machine. It is designed to take information from the past, bring it to the present moment, and project it into the future anticipating an endless string of possible outcomes.

This is great if you are brainstorming a new idea for a project at work but not exactly what you want if you desire to increase your focus on your sexual pleasure in the present moment. To do that, you need to practice sexual mindfulness.


The Four Characteristics of Mindfulness


Mindfulness is being fully aware of the present moment with all five senses. All mindful moments have four characteristics. They are: (1) present-centered, (2) non-judgmental (3) non-conceptual, and (4) non-verbal.

  • Present-Centered means that the focus of mindful moments is always the present, never the past or the future.
  • Non-Judgmental means that instead of judging or evaluating what you are experiencing you simply notice what is going on and accept it for what it is. 
  • Non-Conceptual means non-thinking. There is a difference between just noticing and thinking. Thinking involves planning, figuring things out, sorting things out, and solving problems. Planning, figuring out, sorting out, and solving problems takes you out of just noticing the present moment.
  • Non-Verbal means there is no talking that goes on during mindful moments. Whenever you add speech to a mindful moment, you take it to a different conceptual level that takes you out of just noticing and into higher-level thinking.

An Example of Four-Dimensional Sex


Let me give you a sexual example and show you how these four dimensions play out when making love with your partner. Imagine that you are making love with your partner. If you were doing it mindfully here is what would be going on:

Present-Centered — You would be fully attentive to what is going on with your partner. You would be experiencing your partner with all five senses as you tasted, touched, smelled, watched, and listened to her moan with passion. You would notice and accept how your bodies intertwined and moved together as you have sex. Your thoughts would not drift to something that happened yesterday or might happen tomorrow.

Non-Conceptual — Instead of trying to figure out what is going on and what might happen, you would simply note what is happening and enjoy it. You wouldn’t try to figure out or anticipate anything. You would simply notice and accept your sexual experience for what it is and allow it to play out however it does.

Non-Judgmental — You wouldn’t judge or compare your partner or your sexual experience to any other. You would simply enjoy and accept your partner and your lovemaking for what it is, not for what it could be or should be according to some societal or cultural standards.

Non-Verbal — You wouldn’t talk a lot. You would communicate what had to be said with your body through moans and body and eye movements.

Imagine what your sex life would be like if you could approach each sexual experience in such a mindful way.


Unleash Your Sensuality


Sexual mindfulness teaches you how to train your mind to stay in the present moment and be fully aware of what is going on in your inside (thoughts, feelings, etc.) and outside (sounds, sights, smells, etc.) environments. In a way, it is also training your mind to be more sensual. Sexual mindfulness training will teach you how to unleash the power of your sexual mind and enhance all of your sexual experiences with yourself and your partner(s).

In my next article, I'll discuss how to be more mindful of your sexual identity — what it means to you to be a sexual person.

Sexually yours,

Dr. Rich


Dr. Rich Blonna

I’m assuming that you joined SDC because sex is important to you and central to your happiness. You’re probably very sexually experienced and have had lots of sex with a lot of different people. You’ve probably noticed that a lot of what you’ve been doing is mindless fucking vs. sexual mindfulness. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with mindless fucking. I’d just like you to experience sexual mindfulness and see the difference and what new levels of pleasure it can bring you. Sexual mindfulness has four dimensions. It is present-centered, non-conceptual, non-judgmental, and non-verbal. Imagine what sex would be like if it was… Present Centered – You’d be able to slow down your runaway mind and focus 100 of your five senses on your sexual pleasure. You would experience each sexual encounter with a “Beginner’s Mind”, the Buddhist term for looking at things as if you are experiencing them for the first time. Non-Judgmental – You would enjoy and accept yourself, your partner and your sexual pleasure for what they were and not judge them according to anyone else’s standards. Non- Conceptual- Instead of thinking about what was going on when you were having sex, or try to anticipate what might happen, you’d accept what was going on in the present moment and allow it to play out by itself. There would be no need to overthink anything. Non-Verbal – You wouldn’t need to say anything. Your body would communicate anything that needed to be said. Home Study Course - my Home Study Course will show you how to be more sexually mindful and increase your pleasure when you are having sex alone or with your partner(s). https://www.drrichblonna.com/courses/courses-for-everyone/sexual-mindfulness/. Personal Sexual Mindfulness Coaching - Let me train you in the privacy of your own home. I'll travel for free to 50 mile radius of Marco Island. https://www.drrichblonna.com/coaching/ Message me for rates and more information.
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