BDSM 101: How BDSM Heals Trauma
BDSM Julieta Chiara Healing Trauma Sexual Therapy SDC
BDSM Julieta Chiara Healing Trauma Sexual Therapy SDC
BDSM can be a powerful tool in healing trauma, giving power back to its participants.

When thinking BDSM, the last thing to come to mind may be healing trauma. In my line of work, I meet many people who have gone through sexual, physical, or emotional trauma. These traumas can directly affect our sexuality, our relationships, and the relationship we have with ourselves. What if I told you that participating in healthy BDSM is not only a powerful confidence builder but a healing tool for trauma?


Reclaiming Your Power


Learning to trust can be huge for many of those who have experienced sexual trauma, as BDSM can help put trust back into sexual experiences. It sounds counterintuitive because, for the uneducated person, BDSM may seem like a form of abuse, torture, or trauma.

The reality is, BDSM is giving power back to a person who may have had their power stripped from them at some point in their life. This person is learning to trust a partner when, at some point, they had learned to distrust a figure — sexually or not. This person is learning how to communicate their needs, boundaries, and consent when formerly, they may have been taken advantage of, silenced, or hurt. It can open up the door to new ways of pleasure or sensation, especially if “typical” sexual stimulation holds too much trauma or for some reason isn’t preferred or enjoyable. The possibilities are absolutely endless.


Evolution of Feelings


Sexually, you feel new sensations and newfound powers.

Physically, you test your limits and can really sink back into your body, as oftentimes, we live very much disconnected from our physical realities.

Emotionally, we can connect with ourselves and how we are feeling, or be able to release stress, tension, and trauma, for sometimes we mentally disconnect as well.

Spiritually — and some may argue this — but we can reach elevated states of being and feel closer to something bigger than us. Haven’t you thought how in most religions, there is always some history of a physical practice that is meant to sacrifice or endure pain for a higher being to reward you?


Explore at Your Own Pace


If you feel ready to explore BDSM in a healing manner, take your time. There is no rush, no goal, no pressure to do things you don’t want to do or be a person you are not. I would recommend talking this over with people like your partner, mental health professionals, or those who you feel safe with. They may better help you understand your complexities, and what is the best course of action when discovering your pleasure safely.


Julieta Chiara

"Julieta is a young, experienced sex blogger specializing in female sexuality, sex toys, and kink. A psychology graduate from the University of Utah, Julieta uses her education plus modern societal encounters to share her knowledge and experience of sexuality as one of the youngest women in the adult space. Using her platform to show that there are endless ways to express your sexuality, Julieta regularly partners with toy brands and companies to shine light on new products and curate social media branding. Through the use of personal experiences and sharing honestly about her intimacy, she has made insightful impact on her community by helping others explore who they are within a safe and positive environment. For far too long the world has overlooked sexuality, especially female sexuality and pleasure. Julieta works with everyone from the younger generation to our older friends to Reclaim Our Power. Julieta is a digital nomad and can be found lounging in Barcelona, Miami, Salt Lake City, or Buenos Aires — just a couple of her usual homes."
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