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6 Simple Sex Tips - No Fluff

Dr. Jess     
Looking for new ways to spice up your sex life? Dr. Jess has a few tricks for you.

There are many ways to seduce your partner and eroticize your relationship, but sometimes a few simple changes can do the trick.

This list will definitely entice you to skip dinner and go straight to bed. Check it out!

Use lots of lube and feather-light touch!

Your dexterous fingers will feel just like a tongue if you slather them in lube and stroke with barely-there pressure. If you have trouble controlling yourself, use only the backs of your fingers. Since you have ten fingers, you can simulate “licking” with more than one tongue at once all over your lover’s hottest parts to rile them into a frenzy! My favorite lubricant is Astroglide’s Ultra Gentle Gel, which is perfect for stroking, licking, teasing and grinding alike, but you can use any product of your choice to add to the wet feel.

Take out a cock ring for a test-drive.

The We-Vibe Pivot powerhouse vibrating ring is unlike any other I’ve ever tried. Its texture is silky soft, and you can adjust it to vibe against various hot spots according to your and your partner's preferences. 

Eat cherries!

They’re a source of melatonin, the hormone that helps with circadian rhythm regulation to promote a restful night’s sleep. Sleep is essential to a happy relationship and a healthy sex life and after a good sleep, your energy levels, mood and libido are bolstered. Sleep also offers cell regeneration benefits and is associated with lower levels of anxiety — all of which support sexual enjoyment and performance.

Be selfish!

Many of us are so obsessed with performance that we’ve let our own pleasure take a back seat and it’s time to switch things up. Ask for what you want. Take what you want. Don’t be shy! Your partner will be all the more turned on by your confidence.

Talk about sex.

Watch TV and movies that depict relationship scenarios and sexual scenes, and start a conversation based on what you see. Ask your lover what they think about the scenes and performers, how they feel and what they’d like to try based on what you see on-screen.

Initiate more!

If you tend to wait for your partner to initiate sex, you need to push the boundaries of your comfort zone and surprise them with your best seduction moves.

Enjoy these easy tips and always remember to find new ways to spice up your sex life.

Dr. Jess

"An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program. From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after. Jess's doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn't globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships. As a global ambassador for several brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You'll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women's Health, Men's Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights into couple' issues reaches millions of homes across America as the host of the hit reality series Swing, which just capped its fifth season on PlayboyTV. Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?"
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