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Bisexuality: Why is There a Double Standard?

SDC Lexi Sylver Seek Discover Create Podcast Sex Education Sexuality Bisexuality John Angelique Luna
SDC Lexi Sylver Seek Discover Create Podcast Sex Education Sexuality Bisexuality John Angelique Luna

Why are bisexual men stigmatized while bisexual women are fetishized in society and popular culture?

Welcome to my playground of podcasts and more, pervs!

Wow — this is my 10th podcast episode! I can't believe it. It somehow feels like I just started podcasting!

Stigmas of Bisexuality

We all know that bisexual women are perceived as unicorns -- a lot of it due to the fact that one of the most common sexual fantasies that men and women both have: a threesome with another woman. 

Yes, it's incredibly hot to see two women touch and play with each other. Call me a perv, but I also find it super sexy to watch two or more men playing together. For me, it's all about the sexual chemistry between the partners. But I digress...

Today's guests on Seek, Discover, Create are Angelique Luna, Certified Kink Aware Professional relationship and sex coach, educator, entertainer and advocate for sexual abuse survivors, and John C Luna, entrepreneur, author, professional educator and sex, kink and relationship coach, who also both host the podcast Sex Positive Me.

We'll be exploring why there’s such a double standard when it comes to male bisexuality, and debunking common myths about bisexuality.

Angelique and John are going to unveil the truth behind why bisexual men are often considered a myth and minimized by other subgroups, especially within the swinger lifestyle and other non-monogamous lifestyles.

We’re going to talk about the different challenges of being bisexual that men may experience, and offer practical advice for bisexual men who want to come out of the closet and tell their partners about their bisexuality.

If you missed tonight's or last week's episode, you can still listen on iTunes and Google Play. Don't forget to listen in tonight and every Thursday night at 5 PM PST/8 PM EST on The Sexy Lifestyle Network, powered by Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram! XXX Lexi

Lexi Sylver

Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of Mating Season and All the Queen’s Men. She enjoys having a kinky and unconventional lifestyle and sharing her stories and experiences with others. As an entrepreneur, podcaster, advocate, educator, public speaker and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, and her personal blog. Her mission is to promote empowerment and education by guiding you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality. Find out more at
  • Anonymous
Nov 15, 2019
There are so many challenges of a bisexual man. Lets start with trying to find a woman that finds it a turn on or erotic to be engaged in a sexual relationship with a bi-man and another bi-man. I have had time with a couple and as a couple bringing a man into our home. Even with the couple I visited and knowing that they enjoyed the company of a bi male I was so nervous and limited my m2m play knowing she was watching, actually she was very verbal telling me to well do things......Thank god I was harder than Chinese arithmetic so I guess I was enjoying it but still self conscious the entire time.Do other bi men have anxiety with females watching them with men? I have problems with a woman watching me touch a man I feel like her view of me is somehow different, diminished masculinity maybe. But if I were able to find a female that is actually looking for a man that is bisexual because she enjoys it maybe watches MMF porn or MM porn.. Maybe she masturbates picturing her man with a man. If I knew that it would make me feel at ease with her watching me and I could relax. (I hope no English majors are reading this mess).I often masturbate picturing my wife at the time being with other men and loved hearing her say fuck me fuck me. I need a minute.............................. .....................;) I actually prefer watching a woman I have feelings for, having sex with others more than I do watching straight or bi porn. Watching her being pleasured is just amazing to me. OK I get it, I am having a hard time trying to explain myself,and I am all over the place here I apologize to anyone reading this. I have had m2m experience, mild if you will and no exchange of ...well, happy endings. How do I talk about this... ? I want to experience that but alone the first time. I had someone here ask me what wont I do. I am not sure really I have a lot of fantasy I guess I need to see what happens and I will find that boundary.. I am attracted to masculine men and find myself wanting to pleasure a man alone first to see how I will respond never mind being worried about what she would think if a just got a guy off. I mean what if my kids, adult kids find out what if she gets upset .... OH shit a woman scorned....what if my friends find out my co-workers they will never look at me the same, what if......... yada yada yadya. The fact is (for me) this has to be a private or secret if you will that stays with us and of course those we trust enough to explore and socialize with.I know that most people that live an open or swinging lifestyle are just as concerned as I am. Do most people feel like me and could really care less what others do behind closed doors but verbalize publicly otherwise to be socially accepted? Hmmm....I guess I am looking for a place that I can find or look for a woman that is looking for a bisexual man, do they exists? I feel like finding big-foot will be easier. Wow I just read this myself what a hot mess...... Sorry but I'm gonna hit send and let it roll.