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One Way to Improve Your Sex Life Today: Part I

Dr. Jess     
The truth is that a hot sex life takes work and you can’t resolve deep-rooted issues overnight.

Despite what the spammers who clog my junkmail box may think, I’m not a believer in miracle pills and quick-fixes to sex problems — and believe it or not, I don’t want to add inches or last longer. Really!

All jokes aside, the truth is that a hot sex life takes work and you can’t resolve deep-rooted issues overnight. However, the power of the mind is quite exceptional and my clients report higher levels of sexual self-confidence and ultimately, intensified sexual experiences after completing the exercise outlined below.

Make a List of Your Sexual Strengths

From your technical prowess and hot physical features to your sexual energy and top-notch attitude, a little positive sexual self-talk can go a long way. Even my clients who feel sexually lost can identify some of their strengths that make them sexually strong. A few of the creative and empowering items, I’ve seen on my clients’ lists include:

  • Great hair
  • Strong endurance
  • Open heart
  • Desire to impress
  • Strong hands
  • Warm, gentle voice
  • Soothing energy
  • Willingness to be a “giver”
  • Open to learning and trying new things
  • Pretty smile
  • Flexible body
  • True love of sex
  • Self-confidence
  • Wide-open mind!
  • Deep voice
  • Oral aptitude
  • Nice feet
  • Excellent communication skills
  • Sexual humility

Though this is just a short snippet of the full sexological exercise, compiling your strengths can remind you of just how amazing you are! And if you have a partner, you can add to one another’s lists as revisit them when you need to reconnect. Stay tuned for Part Two: Small Changes, Big Impact!

Dr. Jess

"An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program. From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after. Jess's doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn't globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships. As a global ambassador for several brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You'll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women's Health, Men's Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights into couple' issues reaches millions of homes across America as the host of the hit reality series Swing, which just capped its fifth season on PlayboyTV. Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?"
  • Anonymous