Sexy, No/Low-Cost Valentine’s Gifts

Dr. Jess     
Any excuse for real love and fun sex sounds good to me

I know that it’s a “Hallmark” holiday and highly commercialized, but any excuse for real love and fun sex sounds good to me. So, here are a few ideas for sexy gifts that won’t break the bank:

Sexy Coupons

Print some sexy coupons for your partner to redeem at his/her leisure. Some ideas for sexy gifts include erotic massages using body parts other than your hands, finger sucking, a candlelit dinner in the nude, chocolate body painting, afternoon delight, a morning quickie, a bondage session and a tongue bath. If you’re being eco-friendly or cyber-geeky, you can send the coupons via email or Facebook, but remember you can’t send your scent over the net. Though this idea is not new, these coupons are great for breaking the ice, initiating sexual activity and introducing new “moves” into your repertoire.

Erotic Buffet

Create an erotic buffet and eat light finger foods off of your partner’s hot body. Try grapes, fruit preserves, cheeses, strawberries, and (of course) chocolate.

Use the Appliances

Forget about the trail of rose petals leading to the bedroom. Instead, create a trail of petals leading to the washer/dryer and take advantage of the heat and vibrations. (No partner required.)

Sexy Photos

Take sexy photos of yourself using your webcam and instead of pasting them to your Facebook profile, send them to your partner/crush.


Write an erotic story, letter or email describing (in graphic detail) a fantasy that includes your partner.

Just Touch

Dedicate one hour to touching, caressing, tickling, licking, kissing, sucking, blowing on, fondling and otherwise pleasing your partner’s body. Flip a condom to decide who goes first.


Create a journal of all the things you love about your partner. Be creative, appreciative and sexy! If you don’t have a partner, create a list for a friend, loved one or yourself.

New Position

Create a new sex position and name it after your partner as thanks for his/her loving touch.

Up Your Oral Game

Try out some new oral sex moves. I can’t describe them all in detail here, but I’ll offer some of their names as inspiration:

  • The Butterfly
  • The Aficionado
  • The Nose Job
  • The Hummer
  • The Twister
  • The Catcher
  • The Ball Game
  • The Vacuum


If you prefer the do-it- yourself method, set aside some alone time for a sexy shower/bubble bath and a long, slow, hot self-caress with music, candles and your favorite toys. Valentine’s Day provides a great excuse to vary your routine and expand your repertoire.

Please practice safer sex, have fun and spread the love! Love your sex life.

Dr. Jess

"An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program. From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after. Jess's doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn't globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships. As a global ambassador for several brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You'll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women's Health, Men's Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights into couple' issues reaches millions of homes across America as the host of the hit reality series Swing, which just capped its fifth season on PlayboyTV. Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?"
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