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Spice Up Your Sex Life - LisaLiving

Dr. Jess     
But as routine and increased comfort levels settle in it can be hard to keep things hot in the bedroom. What’s a frisky girl to do?

New relationship sex and sex-on-the-fly may burn up your sheets, but as routine and increased comfort levels settle in it can be hard to keep things hot in the bedroom. What’s a frisky girl to do? Try out these strategies to reignite your sex life and feel free to share your own with the LisaLiving community.

Keep 'Em Guessing

One easy way to keep sex hot and keep your partner guessing is to initiate sex in unexpected locations. Leave the boring old bedroom behind and surprise your partner at work, in the shower, at the theatre, in the car, at the dinner table or in the kitchen. Obviously, take the necessary safety precautions, think beyond intercourse and be aware of the laws in your area. Nothing turns a sweet sex session sour faster than a visit from the local authorities or a trip to the emergency room – trust me on this one.

Don't Save Sex for Bedtime Only

Another simple way to make relationship sex hotter is to play with your timing. Instead of having sex right before you nod off to sleep, try it out in the morning or afternoon. You’ll never wake up on the wrong side of the bed again if you get it on before getting out of bed, as the increased oxytocin levels will ensure you start your day on the right foot. Afternoon delight is a real treat and if you have a partner who enjoys the visual aspects of sex, the natural daylight can be a big turn-on.

Keep Active Outside the Bedroom

As the weather cools and you trade in your sexy summer dresses for sweatpants and furry boots, you may feel less than sexy beneath the layers of clothing. Combined with the drops in temperature and greyer skies, it’s enough to make you want to stay in and hide beneath the covers instead of getting out and getting it on. But if you want to keep your sex drive revving, you’ll need to be proactive and get moving to boost your energy levels. Be sure to make exercise a part of your regular routine, as it’s not only good for your heart, but active people report improved levels of sexual response, stronger sex drives and greater sexual satisfaction. So sweat it out in a hot yoga class, tear up the dance floor at a salsa workshop or sign up for a sports team full of athletic and eligible mates.

Learn Something New

Last but not least, fine tune your sex skills and learn new techniques that will leave your partner begging for more. Read a new book or sign up for a sexy workshop to learn new ways to touch your partner and intensify pleasure and orgasms in and out of the bedroom.

Have fun, experiment and always practice safer sex.

Dr. Jess

"An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program. From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after. Jess's doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn't globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships. As a global ambassador for several brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You'll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women's Health, Men's Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights into couple' issues reaches millions of homes across America as the host of the hit reality series Swing, which just capped its fifth season on PlayboyTV. Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?"
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