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Sex: How do I Love Thee?

Dr. Jess     
Let me count the ways.

Let me count the ways.

Here are just a few of the reasons sex is so important to me:

  1. It’s fun and pleasurable.
  2. It can strengthen the body’s immune system.
  3. We organize many of our relationships around sex.
  4. Sex can relieve aches and pain through the release of oxytocin and endorphins.
  5. It’s a great way to develop and enhance intimacy.
  6. It’s a beautiful form of self-expression.
  7. Sex can improve cardiovascular health.
  8. It is an excellent way to reduce stress and anxiety levels.
  9. We can get creative with sex; it can be enjoyed alone, with a partner, in groups, with toys, with food, with technology, etc..
  10. It is great exercise and burns calories — stay tuned for my two-week sex diet!
  11. Sex is an exciting way to learn about partners and improve communication skills.
  12. It allows us to practice both giving freely and receiving fully.
  13. It allows us to safely and intimately experience a variety of roles: aggressor, pursuer, pursued, outlaw, nurse, doctor, pirate, clown, delivery boy, student, devil, angel, virgin, dominatrix, celebrity, damsel in distress, superhero, cowboy/girl, sex worker, billionaire, etc..
  14. Sex can strengthen the pelvic floor muscles and improve bladder control.
  15. Healthy sex can help develop self-esteem and a positive outlook.
  16. Sex may reduce fatigue and increase energy levels.
  17. Frequent ejaculations can improve prostate health and reduce the likelihood of prostate cancer.
  18. Hormones released during sex can promote restful sleep.
  19. As one of my colleagues notes: sex is the life force.
  20. It feels so nice.

So, go ahead and enjoy safer sex. It’s good for you in so many ways!

Dr. Jess

"An award-winning speaker, Jess has worked with thousands of couples from all corners of the globe to transform their relationships via her wildly successful Marriage As A Business program. From Prague and Istanbul to Albuquerque and New York City, her relationship retreats receive rave reviews from some of the most powerful couples in the world who are drawn to her enthusiastic, practical and no-nonsense approach to happily ever after. Jess's doctoral research focused on sexual health and relationship education and she is passionate about accessible, classroom-based education. When she isn't globetrotting for speaking engagements, she volunteers with students, teachers and social service organizations to empower young people to embrace healthy, happy relationships. As a global ambassador for several brands, Jess contributes regularly to the biggest names in international media. You'll find her advice weekly in the likes of Women's Health, Men's Fitness, Cosmopolitan, SELF, Showtime and The Movie Network. Her insights into couple' issues reaches millions of homes across America as the host of the hit reality series Swing, which just capped its fifth season on PlayboyTV. Canadian-born and Chinese-Jamaican and Irish by descent, Dr. Jess loves ultimate frisbee, crab, airplane turbulence, cheese and red wine. Makes perfect sense, right?"
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