By Alice Little for ASN Lifestyle Magazine
As a Luxury Companion, people often ask what my day-to-day life entails. There are wild assumptions — your life must be full of sex parties that last until dawn, celebrity-filled gatherings in private rooms, kink scenes straight out of Fifty Shades of Grey. While there’s nothing wrong with any of those ideas — they’re far from representative of my life experience.
First and foremost, it’s important to understand what a luxury companion is before we venture more into who I am and what my life is like. A luxury companion is someone who provides intimacy on a 1-to-1 level, focusing on that person’s needs, wants, and desires. Sometimes that’s crossing an activity off of a sexual bucket list — like experiencing a threesome. Other times it’s closer to home, such as having sex with a widow for the first time since their significant other passed. On occasion, it’s even educational — a ‘how-to’ lesson, where we get to practice the skill together afterward. One thing is for sure — no day is ever the same in my world.
My Journey into Sex Work
My journey into sex work began long before I ever started working at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch, a legal brothel in Nevada. In college, I was lucky to end up with a roommate who just so happened to work at a BDSM Dungeon in NYC. You better believe I had about a thousand questions… and also a burning desire to work there myself. Eventually, I was hired on at the front desk — scheduling appointments, cleaning, coordinating the educational programming, etc. I was privileged to learn so much — not just about kink, but also about myself. This was the world I wanted to live in.
As time progressed, I developed my own educational classes and started traveling the country as an educator. I’d spend weekdays working my ‘vanilla’ job so that I could spend the weekends focused on my true passion — education. Sharing knowledge and learning from those around me was an adrenaline rush unlike any other. I thrived in that space, getting to meet so many incredible people from all over the world! It was in that space that I first was introduced to the idea of brothel work.
It was a fellow educator sharing her first-hand experiences at the Moonlite Bunny Ranch that caught my attention. I was having a conversation with someone else about something entirely unrelated when the following words completely stole my attention: Legal Sex Work. I politely excused myself from the conversation I was in and made an excuse to join in the conversation happening behind me. I can still recall the way my heart jumped out of my chest as if to scream ‘DO IT!’ at me. I applied that very night.
72 hours later, I would find myself on a plane bound towards Nevada and my new life as a legal sex worker. Back then, I had no way of predicting that I would become not only the most successful woman at my location but the most successful woman in the entire industry. That never was my focus, or even my goal — my focus was (and still is) on learning everything I can intimacy.
It still feels strange to casually mention my accomplishments — Most successful legal sex worker, interviewed by Tim Ferriss, profiled by Buzzfeed, featured in Qz.com, collaborated with Shane Dawson, the list goes on and on… but it feels largely irrelevant to me. Many people think I enjoy the limelight when in all reality, I’m quite the introvert who is more comfortable behind the camera than in front of it. However, I do find that my accomplishments afford me a very rare luxury for sex workers — a platform and a voice. The only accomplishment I allow myself to feel prideful of is becoming a voice and activist for my industry.
The Not-So-Luxurious Side of Sex Work
Here’s a glimpse into the not-so-luxurious reality of being a Luxury Companion — Stigma. When my appendix was close to rupturing, I had to self-advocate for appropriate medical treatment. Despite showing all the classic appendicitis symptoms and even self-diagnosing accurately… the doctor wanted to “rule out” STDs/STIs before even looking at my appendix. Had I not spoken up, there’s a good chance I’d be in a coffin instead of writing this article. That Stigma is inescapable and pervasive, affecting every aspect of both my professional and personal life. I’ve had to make special arrangements to ensure my bank account isn’t flagged as fraudulent. I’ve been denied service by mental health professionals. I’ve had every negative assumption that one can make about sex workers wielded against me like a weapon. To say it is exhausting to be judged constantly by society is an understatement.
My Myriad Roles in Our Society
Despite the stigma, I wouldn’t change my career choice for a million dollars. I see the need for intimate providers in society, especially in today’s COVID-19-afflicted world, where we are more touch-starved than ever. We notice the lack of connection, conversation, and community and yearn for its presence in our lives… but for some, those feelings of loneliness aren’t new. For some, that’s their ‘normal.’ That’s my role in our society — to be a companion, girlfriend, lover, teacher, mentor, and friend to those seeking a deeper connection.
My guests are as varied and eclectic as I am — folks of all ages, genders, shapes, and sizes, from all different walks of life. Each has their own unique hobbies and interests — which I look at as an opportunity to learn more about an area of interest I may not have been previously exposed to. My guests have taught me how to steer a boat, identify wildlife tracks, safely handle a gun, how to snowboard, how to change out computer components, the list goes on and on. I cannot imagine a more enriching and fulfilling lifestyle.
Every day when I wake up, I spend a few moments in gratitude before I roll out of bed and start my day. I think about the opportunities that each new day brings — a chance to help someone, connect with them, learn more about the world. I’ve long believed that you get to personally define the meaning of your life. For me? Life is about communication, connection, and intimacy. I seek to continue to make a difference in people’s lives, one encounter at a time.
This article originally appeared in the July 2020 issue of ASN Lifestyle Magazine.