Getting over your ex is never easy and when there is cheating involved in your break-up, it only complicates matters. It’s normal to feel a torrent of emotions ranging from deep sadness to full-on rage and many people find that a cheating ex can adversely impact their self-confidence. But the effects don’t have to be long-lasting. In fact, since you’ve already broken up, you’ve taken the most important and difficult step toward moving on. Now all you have to do, is take care of yourself and look toward your sunny and sexy future!
Read on for tips and advice from women who say they’re totally over their cheating exes.
Make it a clean break.
Thirty-three year-old Denise* insists that this is a non-negotiable and the experts tend to agree. If you’re going to get over a break-up, you need time to heal and continue to grow on your own. This doesn’t mean that you have to pretend that your ex has vanished off the face of the earth, but you can’t be best buddies if you’re not over the split. After he cheats, you may be tempted hook-up casually to prove to yourself that you can still have him, but it’s usually not worth the hassle -- or the sexy panties.
Denise shares her story:
After we broke up, he kept calling to check in. He said he was worried about me and I bought into it for a while, because I liked the attention. Who wouldn’t? But then I became reliant on his phone calls and texts. Actually, I’d be waiting for them and then obsess if I didn’t hear from him. It was like we were dating again.
After a few months of wasting energy, tears and time on someone who had already betrayed my trust, I cut it off at my friends’ urging. I told him I needed time to myself and ignored his calls and emails. I was scared at first, but it’s exactly what I needed. I was able to move on and I can’t tell you how glad I am. I can’t imagine what things would be like (now 2 years later) if I’d kept hanging on -- and letting him do the same without any commitment. A clean break was the only way to go for me.
Denise's full story and the rest of Dr. Jess' tips can be found on iVillage.com.