We are new to the lifestyle. We are attracted to the lifestyle. We are having trouble finding our way…
This is what we would hope for:
Meeting people that are happy, interesting, funny and playful. Playful in every sense. We enjoy social games, dinners, going out, etc. Our starting fantasy would be to have friends that are a bit more than friends, were we could have dinner, play a game, dress sexy, flirt…
If it would just be that, it would be great. But with a bit of wine, when people start to relax and be comfortable, if things heat up, then that would be great also. But sex is not our main goal. It would be the joy of feeling those ‘feelings’ again, in the safe zone of our couple.
I find her beautiful, she finds me beautiful. To the eyes of others, we would appear average I guess. Like probably most of the people on this site. But this is not important to us. We have learned with time that when you get to know someone and like that person, they become beautiful. So, we are not looking for gorgeous, ripped, athletic people. And they are certainly not looking for us. 😊
But in this fast-paced world, who takes the time anymore?
Clubs are difficult. We have tried four different ones. Three we liked a lot. One not very much as there were too many single men buzzing around us all the time. We are not judging, we were the ones uncomfortable.
But it does not seem to be the place search for what we are looking for. We tried talking to people, just to be social, nothing else, but we understood very quickly that just talking to someone has a whole other meaning in a swinger’s club. That’s cool but does not help our quest.
This site seemed to have potential. But we hit two people that I am sure are not real. Some people ‘liked’ us, we then ‘liked’ them back, and then, nothing. I wrote a previous blog about our profile. There were good suggestions which we followed (better pictures, more skin, etc.). We make modifications.
Some people dismissed us for our looks. Kind of hurt but we know we should not take it personally. We did do our homework.
We maybe not photogenic, but meet us in person, get to know us a bit, and you may possibly find that we are beautiful people…
When I first started, with the ex, the Trap 3-4 nights per week. At first, the ex being very bi, F/F play. Often with the same female. Then getting bored with watching, F/M/F just for a short while. Somebody gets the short "end of the stick". "So why didn't you cum in me?". Ouch, do not want to hear that again.
Better, couples, if the chemistry is there, all get satisfied.
The club proved fruitful, we met two couples that we exclusively enjoyed for two years, and that led to a private monthly exclusive 4 couple gathering for an equal time until we moved.
Now, with Mrs. Euro, we started off slow, and still prefer only 3-4 meets per year. We still go to the clubs when in town, have fun, but no plan to hook-up, just enjoy each other.
As time goes, quality becomes more important than quantity.
And, one learns that rejection is part of this hobby, you just move on, you already have your significant other that matters, anything else, just fun, nothing serious.