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       Posted by COOLLATINOS Posted on January 3, 2009 View Comments 2      
We're a mid 50's HWP/trim,atractive Mex.-Amer. couple.I(male) have been trying for years to get the wife to OK some swapping and 3somes(MFM)to energize our infrequent sex play.We've done everything that a married couple can do to each other.I have my eye on the only couple that we frequently socialize with;her sister & husband.He's been a longtime neighbor & friend(20+ years),sis is a petite cutie,he's big in height & weight.We all get along great,and share genuine affection.I have spoken about this to him,and he's scared that the women will go ballistic about it,but he's INTERESTED.How do we guys bring it up convincingly?My wife's open to the subject,but insists that swapping should happen SPONTANEOUSLY.
       Posted by DIVINGIN Posted on December 20, 2008 View Comments 0      
adult resort
a while back i read about a resort you were at -i believe it was called margarita island-do you have a web address and if so  can we get it thanks
       Posted by COCOYCOCA Posted on December 3, 2008 View Comments 1      
Hedonism II or Hedonism III


We are spanish couple, ando we want´s to go to hedonisms resort, but we don´t know if go to hedonism II or Hedonism III.We want ´s to go in the last week of March.

Can somebody tell as the diferrece bettewen the both resorts.


Thank ´s


       Posted by ELECTRICLOVERS Posted on November 24, 2008 View Comments 1      
older mature ladies
gosh I love those sexy older gals, I really think they are the most valueable and sexual things on earth. those hubby's of these ladies need to share those world wonders with us guys dont have that, Maybe even 2 at once would balance the world budget. Really they are shockingly hot. And I am waiting for my first time, if thoise pictures are any indication of what they can offer, I am hooked.
       Posted by BLOSSOMSCHERRY Posted on November 23, 2008 View Comments 4      

Hi I've been seeing a guy for 7 months who prides himself on his honesty & has been in the lifestyle since '91;i told him I don't care if he plays;per our original agreement,as long as he is honest;& I agreed to do the same with him,I kept my end of the agreement & he has decieved me up 'til this point;so we have spent the past 3 weeks apart; I've told him now even if we part ways at the very least I deserve the truth;i have to find out about his playing by way of his validations;which is unfair & disrespectful. he says i am jealous,yet I am not insanely jealous;a little jealousy is healthy,at least I've been truthful.

Any advice or insight,please?

       Posted by DNM Posted on November 20, 2008 View Comments 4      
is it normal
Recently, i have heard from at least three women that they have a desire to use a strap on or a vibrator on their man. Now my own woman seems interested. I am a bit afraid about this but I do want to let her live out her fatasies. Is it a gay thing for me to let her? Any dangers involved
       Posted by ELECTRICLOVERS Posted on November 18, 2008 View Comments 5      
how to do it
how do you get your wife to start swinging when she appears to not be interested? she is hot, loves sex, very beautiful, loves to play games and seems like the type but dont know.
       Posted by NAUTAE Posted on November 16, 2008 View Comments 0      
Sexo tantrico
Deseariamos iniciarnos en el sexo tantrico, como nos recomienda que lo hagamos. ¿Habra alguna pareja de socios en nuestra zona que nos pueda ayudar?
       Posted by CASALABC Posted on November 9, 2008 View Comments 3      
Orgasm during Swing

Normally when I am with my wife, I can hold my orgasm, but when we try with another coaple and with another man, I was so clazy to see my wife with another man and the other girl with me that in 2 minutes i had an orgasm.

I tried diferent stuffs to hold but now I am thinking to take a VIAGRA and let the orgasm go and go and go.

What do you think?

       Posted by EULESSCOUPLE Posted on November 2, 2008 View Comments 4      
My other half broke the rules


I am writing because my other half broke the rules and now I dont know what to do.

We have an open relationship, and it has been that way from day one. Recently I have been forced with my job to be overseas for months at a time. So we decided that if eiter one of us wants to play while we are apart it is ok. As long as we take pictures or videos.

So last week she calls me and says "honey I have a friend here and I want to play." So I agreed and simply said remember to take some video so I can enjoy too.

She agreed and hung up. The next day she calls back and said she did the deed but didnt take any video.

So now I am upset and dont know what to do.

       Posted by DFWMARIE Posted on October 27, 2008 View Comments 2      
What do you do if you have a date or party to attend and you start your period? Do we have to cancel or is there another option?
       Posted by LUCKYTOBEHERE Posted on October 7, 2008 View Comments 1      
Etiquette of the lifestyle

I just found this section of SDC and love it. There is a lot of good information here.

My husband and I are new to the lifestyle, and we're both very excited about it. Our relationship was an open one before (we could see other people apart) so I don't think jealousy would be an issue. Even though I am excited, I am a little nervous to see another couple since we have no experience... let's say I'm worried more about the etiquette of the lifestyle. Can anybody help? Or is there any other resources that I can go to?

Thank you so much for your help!

       Posted by STEELCURVES Posted on October 2, 2008 View Comments 3      
Wife want to play with a male as I watch
Hi my wife is instrested in playing. I love to watch how can you meet signal guys that would be instrested. I am straight and my wife is straight. We live in colorado springs.
       Posted by CUMAGAIN Posted on September 26, 2008 View Comments 1      
Becoming a dominatrix

Dear Elvis,

I would like to explore becoming a dominatrix.  Do you know of any resources on the web I might explore? 


       Posted by SAAOI Posted on September 26, 2008 View Comments 1      
Fallen in love with another women

Male ½ here.  My wife and I have been married for 10 years and together for a total of 15. We’ve been active in the lifestyle for the past 2 years and have enjoyed some great times and have gone so far as to decide to have an open marriage for about 1 ½ years, meaning that we both see and have sex with others on our own.


I met a woman about 2 months ago and we’ve become so close so quickly it feels like we were meant to be together.  She was single when we met and now has gotten back together with her ex-boyfriend, neither of them are into swinging.  She tells me that I am the man of her dreams and if I were single would marry me in a heartbeat and I feel the same way.


I’m a naturally outgoing person, I like to socialize and be around other people and love the attention.  My wife doesn’t like getting attention and because her job is retail she’s around people all day and enjoy’s more of the alone and quiet time.  The other woman is like me, naturally outgoing, loves to socialize, loves attention.


I’ve been reading online advice columns on what to do in this situation; however I’ve not been able to find anything that addresses the lifestyle/open marriage aspect.  I and this other women both agree that we are “cheating” on our significant others even if it’s just emotional at this point and agree that it’s wrong.  But we are so drawn to each other, it’s hard to stay away.


This woman and I have been having very frank discussions about our future together and would it really work out or is this just lust.  The bigger question comes down to do I have these feelings for her because I’m missing out on something in my marriage?  My wife is aware that I’ve been seeing this woman, but I’ve not shared the emotional attachment I’ve developed because I know how much it would hurt her. 


My marriage is very good, we’re not angry at each other, we don’t fight, we talk a lot, so what’s going on here?  Any advice or food for thought would be greatly appreciated.  I’m sure this issue comes up, how do you deal with it?

       Posted by MAC5 Posted on September 24, 2008 View Comments 1      
how will the wife feel,
hi elvis,we are a indian couple,,my wife and me been to a few swinging clubs,want to how will she feel once she trys swinging,she jokes about white cocks,and when she drinks she does act wild ,but not yet swinger,she started to dress accordinglt in the clubs,which took years,do women enjoy swinging,can i get advise from other new femlae swingers.
       Posted by KALIPSO Posted on September 11, 2008 View Comments 0      
Juego de Mesa y de Cama

Que tal Elvis!!!

Quisiera me pudieras decir con quien platicar referente a un juego de mesa que voy a lanzar en el mercado mexicano,  y el objetivo de este, es hacer que en las reuniones entre los swingers sea mas facil el lograr romper el hielo y realizar las fantasias que todos tenemos, asi entonces, quisiera hacer un intercambio comercial con SDC, para que por un lado, como el juego se comercializará en las sex shops mexicanas, llegaremos a publico que no es swinger pero que tiene fantasias y que muy probablemente una vez jugando el juego se interese en este estilo de vida, ahi mismo en el juego hallará la invitacion para registrarse en SDC, mediante el programa de a filiados.

El intercambio consistiria en que yo en el tablero inserte el logo de SDC y funcione como salida o comienzo de este y uds coloquen un banner al sitio web que tendremos para este fin, lo mismo sucederia en nuestro sitio web, de tal forma que ambas partes ganemos.

Ojala pudieras ayudarme.

Recibe un cordial saludo de Angel y Kalipso.

Tenemos muy buenas referencias tuyas de parte de Gago.


       Posted by DFWMARIE Posted on September 1, 2008 View Comments 1      
How to approach new couples in a club

How to approach other couples in a swing club?

I'm a bit shy & in the swing club that we have visited, men are not allowed to approach other couples, so it's up to me! I don't know what to say! Help!

Also, once we do begin a conversation, how to you approach the question... what are you into or what are you looking for? Does this question come up early or later in the conversation?

       Posted by JSTTW Posted on September 1, 2008 View Comments 1      
dear hubby and i have been in the scene for a couple of years.we have soft swapped and are meeting up with a very sexy couple soon for full swap.we are both very excited and very much looking forward to it but i must confess to being worried about how i will feel afterwards.we have been together for nearly 30 years and it bothers me that if i have any regrets will i be able to get over them.
       Posted by ELECTRICLOVERS Posted on August 29, 2008 View Comments 3      
Is there life for us great guys

Maybe I want my cake and eat it too, I dont know but I am just divorced, 50 but looks and acts much younger and very nice looking. My question is,,, can a guy find a sexy lady, that would enjoy the lifestyle and also be a terriffic wife and love me with it all? I have a successful life, money toys and etc, but no love and basically no life. where do I look and how will I know it. My previous wife was - is nothing but a taker and everything is about her. Mean to ewveryone and actually a real bitch. I enjoy people and life and wants to make the best out of my last 25 years.

I dont have to have a lady that woreships the lifestyle but play in it every now and then or at least not be horrified of those that do and keep a open mind is all I ask. Are they out there. I am looking for classy beautiful and and warm hearted lady with a brain.