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Are You Ready for Swinging?

10 Questions | Time: 5 minutes

Curious about the swinging lifestyle, but not sure if you and your partner are really ready to dive into an open relationship?

Opening your monogamous relationship to new experiences with other partners can be thrilling, sexy, and deeply rewarding, but it also takes trust, communication, knowledge, and emotional stamina.

This quiz will help you discover whether you’re prepared to take the leap into the world of swinging, or if you might want to do a little more groundwork first. Answer the questions in this swinging quiz honestly, keep an open mind, and see where your (and your partner’s) desires and comfort levels really stand.

Find out if you and your partner are ready for a swinging relationship!

1. How comfortable do you think that you are, or would be, when it comes to having sexual experiences with others?

a) I’m curious, but I’d feel jealous or uncertain sometimes.
b) It makes me uncomfortable or anxious to even think about my partner with someone else.
c) I feel completely okay with it, within boundaries we agree upon beforehand.

2. How strong are your communication skills with your partner about expressing your sexual desires, fantasies, and boundaries?

a) We communicate openly, frequently, and honestly.
b) We talk occasionally about these topics, but sometimes, they’re hard to bring up.
c) We avoid these discussions, or I feel judged when I try to broach the subject.

3. How much trust do you have in your partner’s ability to respect agreed-upon rules?

a) I trust them, but I worry they might overstep sometimes in the heat of the moment.
b) I trust them completely to stick to what we’ve discussed.
c) I often worry they’ll ignore or bend the rules as they see fit.

4. How secure are you in your self-esteem and identity outside the relationship?

a) I feel confident in myself, and my value doesn’t depend on whether I’m with my partner or not.
b) I sometimes compare myself with others and worry that I may fall short of others’ standards and/or expectations.
c) I often feel insecure, jealous, or inadequate.

5. How do you handle jealousy or unexpected emotional reactions, whether within your relationship or in other contexts?

a) I get overwhelmed, angry, upset, or shut down.
b) I can acknowledge them, talk through them, and move forward.
c) I try to hide or suppress them, or I may act out.

6. Have you and your partner discussed sexual health and safety (e.g., testing, protection) together?

a) Not really. We avoid talking about these things or haven’t fully addressed them yet.
b) We’ve talked somewhat, but not everything is clear.
c) Yes, we’ve had detailed discussions and agreed on protocols that both of us feel comfortable with.

7. How do you feel about setting and enforcing boundaries in your relationship (e.g., what’s allowed, what’s not)?

a) Boundaries feel vague, or I’m afraid they’ll be crossed.
b) I feel confident in setting clear boundaries and expect them to be respected.
c) I think I could set them but worry about enforcing them.

8. How do you believe swinging will impact the trust and love in your relationship?

a) I believe it can strengthen our bond if handled properly, openly, and respectfully.
b) I worry that swinging might damage our love and trust.
c) I think swinging could either erode our trust or make our relationship way better, but we probably won’t know until we try.

9. What is your motivation for wanting to swing?

a) A mix of curiosity and excitement with a desire to explore.
b) To explore mutual sexual fulfillment, connection, and growth together as a couple.
c) Feeling pressure (from partner or others), insecurity, jealousy, or trying to fix something in our relationship.

10. How well do you think you can cope if things don’t go as expected (e.g., someone feels hurt or jealous, a boundary is crossed, etc.)?

a) I fear it would lead to serious conflict or irreparable relationship damage.
b) I trust that we could talk it through, adjust, and heal together.
c) I worry we might struggle in some cases, but maybe with effort, we can work together to overcome those challenges.

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