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Lying vs Withholding in Ethical Non-Monogamy
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Speaker: spk_0
Hey sexy people, today let's get into something real. Is withholding information, not offering full disclosure, the same as lying? Some say yes, some say no. What do you say?
Hi, I'm Taylor Sparks, your ethical non-monogamy coach and sex goddess. So here's the truth. Technically, Lying means saying something that's false, while withholding means not saying something at all. Different actions, yes. But in ethical non-monogamy, the impact can be exactly the same because in ethical non-monogamy, trust isn't just about you didn't lie to me. It's about giving me the full information that I need so that I can make informed and consensual choices about my body, my heart, and or my relationships. When you withhold important truths like new connections, boundary shifts, and major life changes, you strip away your partner's ability to choose with clarity, and that, well, that feels like betrayal. And I always say consent without full information isn't real consent.
So here's the standard in ethical non-monogamy. It's not enough to not lie. It's about radical transparency, especially when that information could affect agreements, trust, safety, or emotional well-being. Now, I'm not saying you need to narrate every random thought, because privacy is healthy, but secrecy, withholding something that directly impacts your partner's ability to navigate the relationship, it's unethical. If you catch yourself thinking, I don't know if I want to tell them because it will, you know, it might upset them. Chances are you're withholding out of fear, not love, and it's time for a different conversation. Building powerful ethically non-monogamous relationships means being brave enough to tell the whole truth, even when it's uncomfortable. Even when it's messy, I, I'm starting to develop some feelings for this person, and I don't know how you're gonna feel about it, but I feel really good, especially when it matters. I, well, you know, the condom broke, so I'm gonna abstain from having sex with you until I'm tested, and I know for sure that I'm OK. This is adulting and non-monogamy.
So if you need help navigating these deeper levels of communication, book a free clarity call with me. Let's get you out of the fear and into full ethical love because half-truths don't build full relationships. DM me for more support. Until next time, your love, your rules, and your freedom. Bye-bye.
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