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Improvements
- Pictures tab has been improved, giving a better understanding between adult and non-adult, also more detail on how to update your primary photo.
- Coming Soon: Couples can update their gender to single male or transgender themselves, and from female to male, single male, or single female to transgender, and vice versa, without contacting Helpdesk.
- Coming Soon: Photo Album revamp
Hot Tips
Our SDC messenger has quite a few interesting features that you may not have discovered yet. We hope these tips improve your experience: First, let’s talk about the icons along the top of the Messenger, starting from left to right. Color Scheme Templates Folders Search Multi-delete 3 dots Now for the 3 dots menu to the right of the message: Move an important message so it remains at the top of your messages; you can also unpin the message when needed. Unread Mute Archive Move to folder We hope this helps, and do let us know if you have further questions about our Messenger function
The sunshine icon allows you to change from dark to light depending on your preference.
The T icon allows you to create templates of common answers to questions from members or an introduction message that you enjoy sending to members that interest you, for example. You can create many templates and insert them into the conversation using the T icon to the right of the white message box instead of typing.
The folder icon allows you to organize your messages to keep your Messenger conversations manageable, and this also allows you to save messages for a longer period of time.
The magnifying glass gives you the option to search by a member name you have been corresponding with.
The check icon lets you select multiple messages and delete them all at once.
In this case, the 3 dots icon gives you a sort function for your messages.
Mark a message that you want your wife to read, for example, so she sees it is new.
This is helpful in a group messenger situation when you don’t want to be notified of every response.
Use this if you don’t want to lose the conversation you were having, but you would like to remove the message from your list.
Use this action to move messages into the folder category you created.
SDC Book Club
Welcome to the SDC Book Club, where we feature exciting books written by lifestyle-related Authors, Educators, and even SDC Members.
This month, we are introducing: fourplay written by Morgan Reynolds – KDAZ4FUN: The Mostly True Story of a Lusty Librarian's Swinging Sexcapades
Okay, I admit it. I'm a sexually naïve, thirty-eight-year-old university librarian, divorced, no kids. My name is Morgan Reynolds. I'm trying hard to break away from an up-to-now predictable life and my mother is riding me like Miley Cyrus on a wrecking ball. From desperation, I proclaim a new mantra. This will be my year of WHY NOT!
Thank God my good friends, Brooke and Taylor, shove me into the deep end of the dating pool. I met a successful, handsome Dominick Chandler. God, he’s so emotionally distant and starkly forthright. That night, I texted the usual 'getting-to-know-you' questions. "What's the craziest thing you've ever done?" Nick's reply sends me running around my bedroom in a flushed panic. Swingers parties and sex with people watching at clubs? WHAT?
Nick wants me — but on his terms. Not a real relationship, but as some erotic plus-one. Shocked, yet intrigued, in true librarian-style, I research Cosmo, Women's Health, Sex w/Emily, Reddit forums, etc. It's everywhere! Upscale swinging is the new sexual revolution. Nick's daring me to cross the line, but I've always been one to resist temptation. Fingers shaking, I text back, "I'm in. For what, I'm not sure." WHY NOT! Right? Hot, Sexy Guy? Yes! Kissing a Girl? Umm…
A Threesome? What?
Pushing my Boundaries? WHY NOT! “Wow! What a great story to live. You are so brave for daring to step out of the good girl comfort zone and set yourself free! And you got your own one in a million Nick.” “l love fourplay! It's not just love, not just sex, not just relationships, but self-discovery and daring to be honest to who you truly are and want in life.” “It felt close, genuine and filled with love. Yes, not the sweet perfect kind, but the raw true kind, which is even sweeter! I will for sure follow the thrillogy.” “You have to write another book. It’s a crazy ending. I loved it. I can't wait to see what Morgan does next.”
SDC Contests
Congratulations to COUPLE7579TX for winning the The Hot Men of SDC photo contest and to SHELIKESYOURWIFE for winning the Foreplay Fantasies video contest. Check out the latest contests with chances to WIN superb prizes! Prizes provided by iCandy Clothing Company, ChiqRet Metal Fashion, Sea Mountain Nude Resorts & Lifestyle Swinger Club, DV8 Dare Games, Malibu Strings, Bijoux Indiscrets, Swingers Paradise, and STD Hero. Click the links below to access, enter, or VOTE for the latest contests: New – Couples Chemistry – Video Contest
Current – The Seductress Stare – Photo Contest
Voting Underway – My Hot Tub Adventures – Writing Contest
SDC Shop
Are you attending an SDC event or another open-minded party soon? Then we have something for you! From now on, you can shop the best SDC items that are guaranteed to make you stand out. In our shop, you'll find a fantastic collection of t-shirts, swimwear, towels, caps, and even bathrobes. All featuring the stylish and recognizable SDC logo. Perfect for completing your look and showing your true colors. Ideal for the party, by the pool, or just relaxing at home! For anyone planning their own party or just wanting to be well-prepared, we also have all kinds of handy extras, such as lubes, boat flags, beach flags, parasols, and other fun items!
Cruise News
Ahoy, SDC Members! We are more than thrilled to offer the option to learn more about lifestyle cruising within our SDC community. SDC is fortunate to have Bliss Cruises onboard with us to offer you personalized service right here within our site. We also recommend joining the Bliss Cruise group so you don’t miss out on important information, and it's a great way to connect with fellow cruisers before you go! Check out some of the cruises on offer for 2026 / 2027: Bliss Cruise: Celebrity Reflection - November 2025 - WAIT LIST AVAILABLE - SDC Guest List FantaSea Connections Cruise - February 2026 by Right Connections Travel - Book today - SDC Guest List Bliss Cruise: RCI Radiance of the Seas - February 2026 - Reserve your spot - SDC Guest List Bliss Cruise: Celebrity Silhouette - April 2026 - Reserve your spot - SDC Guest List Bliss Cruise: RCI Wonder of the Seas - November 2026 - Reserve your spot - SDC Guest List Bliss Cruise: Celebrity Summit - February 2027 - Reserve your spot - SDC Guest List
The Party Starts at Your BNB!
Got a perfect spot for get-togethers, parties, or laid-back chill vibes? Don’t keep it a secret! If your BNB has party potential, now is the time to show it off and attract guests who are searching for places just like yours!
Want to List Your BNB For Parties?
We’ve made it easy. You bring the vibe — we bring the how-to. Reach out to SDCBNB for the ins and outs on how to list your space for events. It’s a great way to attract more bookings from guests who really get the vibe!
Ready to Boost Your BNB’s Visibility?
We’ve made that easy, too! Members from all over the world are searching for hot spots just like yours. Whether you’re looking for better placement on the site or help promoting your listing, we’ve got options to make you stand out. After all, party-perfect spots deserve the spotlight (and maybe a disco ball).
You can do more than just host — you can make your BNB shine. Drop us a message, and let’s make it happen together!
FEATURED WEBINAR HOST
Featured Webinar Host Lauren Hayes
Lauren Hayes is a seasoned non-monogamous relationship coach and mentor who helps individuals and couples confidently navigate the swinging lifestyle. With a style she calls “serious fun,” Lauren emphasizes building strong, healthy partnerships as the foundation for adventurous exploration.
Her journey began with a single question from her husband: “Is there something more?” that led them down a path of curiosity, communication, and connection. Lauren brings credentials (CTI Life Coach training and Gottman Level 1) and lived experience: 19 years married, with over 6 years in the lifestyle. Today, she’s passionate about helping others start their own journeys with clarity and confidence.
Lauren offers private coaching and engaging workshops, and educates with video courses and live webinars she hosts on our SDC Live Streams.
Check out Lauren’s profile SWINGINGCOACH to learn more about Lauren and her upcoming events.
FEATURED BUSINESS
Right Connections Travel
Right Connections Travel is not your mainstream Travel Agency. Right Connections Travel specializes in JUST Adults-only Travel. We make it our mission to investigate and offer only the best resorts and Lifestyle Cruises dedicated to the Adult Lifestyle. We offer vacations that are designed to entice the senses, stimulate your deepest desires, and offer you a chance to experience a sensual vacation with rules that would never be allowed at mainstream hotels and resorts. Adult resorts are very different from your mainstream resorts and hotels. These resorts need to completely understand the needs and desires of the attending couples. Right Connections works closely with these resorts to make sure your topless-optional or clothing-optional vacation experience is exactly what you expected and will entice you to immediately rebook your next vacation. Right Connections guests are treated like royalty at the resorts we work closely with. You are more than just another Internet Reservation, you are a valued customer of Right Connections Travel! Most couples have the opportunity for one vacation per year. We strive to make sure that one vacation is perfect in every way.
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FEATURED EXPERT
Sex Positive Me
Dynamic duo and real-life couple John and Angelique Luna’s mission is to bust myths, challenge stigma, and celebrate sexual freedom in all its forms.
They created Sex Positive Me, which dives deep into the world of sexuality and relationships, covering Fetishes, BDSM, Ethical Non-Monogamy, and more. Through podcasts, coaching, workshops, webinars, and tantra sessions, they blend education and entertainment to help people explore their desires with confidence and clarity.
Check out Sex Positive Me’s podcasts, videos, and articles here on SDC.
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Hotwifing vs. Cuckolding: What’s the Difference?
If you’ve been exploring the world of ethical non-monogamy, chances are you’ve come across terms like hotwifing and cuckolding. At first glance, they might sound pretty similar, but there are some key distinctions. Both hotwifing and cuckolding involve a woman (often a wife or girlfriend) having sex with other men; however, the feelings, motivations, and experiences behind them can be really different.
Whether you're just curious or considering exploring these exciting new avenues with your partner, this article will dive into the differences between hotwifing and cuckolding.....READ MORE.
PARTIES AROUND THE WORLD
SDC Mixer @ Checkmate
New York, NY
Friday, August 15th, 2025 Beautiful couples and single girls only! A high class, swanky setting for a fetish / swingers party where all your fetishes and fantasies are welcomed. Full or soft swap, voyeurs, e erotica and much more.. New York City’s most fabulous adult lifestyle Friday night party. Only prescreened attractive couples and single girls are allowed. WE ARE MEMBERS ONLY! SINGLE GIRLS ALWAYS FREE! EROTICA is a party where all your fantasies will come true, come play, watch and be watched! Come dance on our VIDEO Dance floor to the sounds of our live DJ We are the club “Where the pretty people play “ ABSOLUTELY NO SINGLE MEN! NO WALK INS REGISTRATION ON OUR WEBSITE W/FULL BODY AND FACE PICTURE OF BOTH IS A MUST TO BE APPROVED. All Sexy and Fit couples welcome!!! (Must be 21 and Over) No Single Guys Permitted SINGLE FEMALES ARE ALWAYS FREE!!! CHECKMATE is a members only private club. ALL GUEST MUST BE REGISTERED AS MEMBERS.
HotWives
West Bromich, UK
Friday, 15th August, 2025 This Hot Wives Party Event will run from 8pm till 3am and is specifically for those that enjoy the pleasures found within hot-wife as well as stag and vixen dynamics of this lifestyle, and of course those that appreciate the company of some of the hottest people on the scene.
This event is an open invitation for all existing members of the club with new couples and ladies more than welcome to attend with simple on-the-night lifetime membership. Just bring some form of ID, driving licenses are ideal. Single guys that are not currently members will need to apply for membership and be in receipt of an approved membership application before attending. This process can only be done through Xtasia’s website on their ‘Join us’ page. Just google Xtasia.
There’ll be a welcome glass of bubbles for the ladies on arrival and guided tours for all new members to the club. The club hosts a fully licensed bar area with a large dance floor which is just perfect for socialising, flirting and seductive conversations.
There’s also over a dozen separate play spaces ranging from large open play rooms to intimate lockable rooms, a large lounge that has its own comfortable play area, separate private rooms, a private cunnilingus corner and our own favourite room that’s ideal for your voyeuristic partner.
Glory-holes (both female & male)
Silhouette room
Sex swings
Jacuzzi Dogging area with real cars along with more intimate, private play spaces to name just a few.
As usual there’s a limited number of conveniently situated on-site hotel rooms available at Flirts. These are only bookable by contacting the club directly. Even when Flirts are fully booked there’s plenty of other options within a 5 minute taxi ride. Xtasia’s website displays a full list of other hotels within the local area and with 3 large chains operating less than a mile away, there’s always places to rest. Entry costs for this event are
Single guys £50
Couples £30
Ladies £10
www.xtasia.co.uk
Black Tape Project Party
Marbella, Spain
Saturday, 16th August, 2025 Exciting Theme Party at Wicked Club Marbella, Exclusively for Couples and single ladies! Looking for an unforgettable night of fun, connection, and adventure? Join us at Wicked Club for our exclusive themed party, where open-minded people come together for an evening of thrilling experiences in a safe, judgment-free environment. Whether you’re looking to explore your fantasies, meet new people, or simply enjoy a night out with like-minded individuals, our swingers club offers the perfect setting. This event is open to all, from first-timers to seasoned lifestyle enthusiasts, with exciting themes to spark conversation and create an atmosphere of playful seduction. Enjoy the sexy, vibrant atmosphere with themed décor, live DJ sets, dance floors, private lounges, and sensual play spaces designed to help you relax and indulge. Event Highlights:
Exclusive Theme: Dress to the theme or dress provocative, sexy and elegant!
Open to Couples & Ladies only: Whether you’re flying solo or coming with a partner, there’s something for everyone.
Luxury Play Spaces: Experience our private, upscale play areas designed for comfort and intimacy. Dress Code Encouraged:
Dress to impress and fit the theme, or come as you are and enjoy the party atmosphere.
www.wickedclub.com
Euphoric Pulse
Desire Pearl Resort, Mexico
September 17th - 22nd, 2025 Come join us for Euphoric Pulse nights. Where the perfect atmosphere, vibes, and sexy couples combine to give an experience of a lifetime. This week will be full of sensual beats with DJs, bands, and entertainment that will give you tingles in all the right places. As the creators of TRYST, VIBRATIONS, & WICKED EDEN bring you non-stop entertainment. Indulge in a tropical getaway, as we feast in the Caribbean sun at the beautiful Desire Pearl resort. This is a full clothing optional takeover designed for couples and singles females!
The Boa Experience: An Evening For The Erotic Arts
Dallas, TX
Friday, August 22nd, 2025 The Boa Experience: An Evening For The Erotic Arts
9 PM | Foundation Room, House of Blues Dallas Attire: Grown & Sexy in Red Celebrating 3 Years of Seduction & Artistry Step into the red-lit world of The Boa Experience—a night where eroticism meets elegance, and desire takes center stage. Now celebrating its 3rd anniversary, this signature show, created by erotic author and sensual dominant Adonis Allen, returns for a special evening designed to captivate your senses and leave your imagination dripping. Expect a bold fusion of erotic poetry, live audio stories, featured artists, curated vendors, and so much more. This isn’t just a show—it’s an experience. From the hypnotic rhythm of Adonis Allen’s voice to the heat of his words, each moment draws you deeper into the world of The Boa—where fantasy and reality intertwine. Whether you’re coming to celebrate love, lust, or simply the art of sensual expression, this is the night to indulge. Come dressed in your grown and sexy red and prepare to be seen. Come ready to be turned on, turned up, and taken there.
Burning Land with Nathan Bliss at Caliente!
Land O Lakes, FL
Saturday, August 23rd, 2025 8 PM Burning Man? Nah...Burning Land! Nathan Bliss brings a special night to Caliente...a unique night of self expression, amazing music, and unbelievable vibes. Burning Land takes place on Saturday, August 23. DJ Ian kicks things off at 8 PM with Nathan Bliss going live at 10 PM. Make this a night to never forget! Contact us for Day and Evening Passes or to Book a Room Overnight
Caliente Club & Resorts
21240 Gran Via Blvd
Land O Lakes FL 34637 Caliente is a full resort that is clothing-optional and lifestyle friendly. YOU can be YOU here. And you don’t need a passport, or clothes! Dress up or dress down, either way just have fun!
Eyes Wide Shut
Torino, Italy
Saturday, 27th September, 2025 Where: Turin | Secret Castle Mandatory Dress code:
HER - black cape and mask, seductive lingerie.
HIM - black cape and mask, white shirt, black pants, and elegant shoes. Dinner: for a limited number of couples, info in the description
Accommodation: in the Castle
Hotel + NCC: write to us for info Participation is by selection only. If you are interested, fill out the “PARTY REGISTRATION” form on our website, or contact us via WhatsApp at +39 380 9036144
www.libertinequeen.com/en/eyes-wide-shut-party-in-maschera
Time: entrance from 9:30 pm to 11:00 pm
Closed event: for a limited number of couples and singles
Participation fee: €450 per couple and single boys
€50 for single girls