Conflict vs. Fighting in Swinger Relationships

Conflict is NOT BAD, should not be avoided, and IS inevitable in every relationship. Conflict is growth seeking to happen in the form of an unmet need trying to express itself. The problem is most don’t know that nor how to communicate in ways that can get those needs met.

“Anybody can become angry; that is easy, but to be angry with the right person — and to the right degree, and at the right time, and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.” 
– Aristotle

People know how to talk — they don’t know how to communicate, and not understanding the difference can be deadly to your relationship. This is especially true if you open the boundaries of monogamy and expose your relationship to Consensual Non-Monogamy (CSM), where the territory is more complex, dynamic, and uncharted.

In the erotic lifestyle, if you have conflict in your relationship, you are likely to experience more of it as normal problems get magnified in the heat of erotically charged situations. If you don’t have a lot of conflict, you will likely be experiencing some because when you stretch the limits of conventionality conflict is a natural outcome: Vulnerability breeds insecurity, which absorbs conflict. ...READ MORE.

SDC Daisy Dukes @ Miami Velvet

Miami, FL Saturday, May 3rd, 2025

Doors Open at 10:00pm

Join SDC & Miami Velvet as we celebrate a night just for COUPLES AND SINGLE LADIES!

We are offering a FREE ONE DAY Membership for Couples On The SDC Guest List All Night Tonight

SDC.com Couples with screen names on the guest list are just $125 at the door!

Strict Dress Code Enforced BYOB Private Club Single Gents Welcome Except Saturdays

Eyes Wide Shut

Torino, Italy Saturday, 10th May, 2025

CASTLE EVENT A secret castle, selected couples from all over Europe, an exclusive evening of desire, mystery and timeless elegance: the Eyes Wide Shut event comes to life.

When: May 10 Where: Turin | Secret Castle Time: entrance from 9:30 pm to 11:00 pm Limited number event Participation fee: €450 per couple and single boys €50 for single girls Dress code: black cape, mask, elegant dress for him and sexy lingerie for her

Dinner: for a limited number of couples 100€ P/Person Accommodation into the castle: 8 double bedrooms inside the castle at a cost of €300 per room

Participation is by selection only. If you are interested: CONTACT US  A UNIQUE EXPERIENCE

In the heart of Piedmont, a castle is transformed for one night into the theater of the most anticipated libertine experience in Europe. Sumptuous halls, ancient frescoes, soft lights and secret rooms shrouded in mystery. The beauty of the castle is intertwined with intrigue and pleasure, every step will lead you deeper into a game of seduction, transgression and pleasure.

At the stroke of midnight, the ritual inspired by the famous film will kick off a night of seduction and absolute pleasure. It will be the prelude to an unparalleled libertine experience.

Entrance is scheduled from 9:30 pm to 11:00 pm, the evening will then continue behind closed doors.

LUXURY EXPERIENCE A sensory experience that will envelop your senses all night long. An exclusive open bar with fine Champagne, the best Franciacorta labels, premium cocktails and a refined gourmet buffet will accompany you throughout the evening. The atmosphere will be made even more magnetic by immersive musical accompaniment, with an exceptional DJ set that will give rhythm to the night, live shows and seductive artistic performances that will surprise and enchant guests. Every detail is designed to make you experience a unique journey through elegance, mystery and absolute pleasure. www.libertinequeen.com

SDC Anything That Glows Party

San Antonio, TX Saturday, May 10th, 2025

9:00pm - 3:00am

A.T.G. Anything That Glows! Come glow

SDC MEMBERS ON THE GUEST LIST RECEIVE $5 OFF THE DOOR COVER! (Limited to Couples & Single Females)

ADMISSION: Couples pricing: VIP Members $75 / Daily Members $95 Daily Singles Pricing: Females $35 / Males $200

EdenClubs.com  4250 Thousand Oaks Drive San Antonio, TX 78218

Orgie Romaine

Chennevière sur Marne, France Saturday, 10th May, 2025 

Evening in partnership with the organizer "Soare Isaora" Prepare yourself for an orgiastic night in the spirit of the first city of debauchery, where all pleasures were permitted to satisfy the most exuberant desires!  Let yourself be transported to a universe where the pleasures of the body are honored, in a voluptuous and unrestrained atmosphere. Here, as in the great Roman festivals, desire circulates freely and each guest is free to live out their fantasies with respect and complicity for others. As a couple or solo, you will be the actors and witnesses of moments of pure debauchery, between knowing glances and subtle caresses. 

PAF: Couple: €60 Woman: €30 Man: €90 A catering buffet will be served throughout the evening  1 soft drink or 1 alcohol offered per person   A DJ to get you going all night long  €10 discount on all your entries with your membership card.  Book it on our website, it's FREE: www.lareferencedusiecle.fr  

Sex, glamour and decadence will be the key words of this evening! 

We hope to see many of you for this holy orgy!

SDC Mixer @ CHECKMATE

New York, NY Friday, May 16th, 2025

10pm - 4am

Beautiful couples and single girls only! A high class, swanky setting for a fetish / swingers party where all your fetishes and fantasies are welcomed. Full or soft swap, voyeurs, e erotica and much more.. New York city’s most fabulous adult lifestyle Friday night party. Only prescreened attractive couples and single girls are allowed.

WE ARE MEMBERS ONLY! SINGLE GIRLS ALWAYS FREE! EROTICA is a party where all your fantasies will come true, come play, watch and be watched! Come dance on our VIDEO Dance-floor to the sounds of our live DJ We are the club “Where the pretty people play. “

ABSOLUTELY NO SINGLE MEN! NO WALK-INS. REGISTRATION ON OUR WEBSITE W/FULL BODY AND FACE PICTURE OF BOTH IS A MUST TO BE APPROVED. All Sexy and Fit couples welcome!!! (Must be 21 and Over) No Single Guys Permitted. SINGLE FEMALES ARE ALWAYS FREE!!! CHECKMATE is a members-only private club. ALL GUESTS MUST BE REGISTERED AS MEMBERS. Visit our website for more info, or inquire for More Details at info@checkmatenyc.com 

Dress To Impress VIDEO DANCE FLOOR LED DANCE FLOOR Fabulous Staff Theme Nights Every Weekend Bartenders We Will Tag Your Bottle & Serve You (Byob - We Do Not Sell Alcohol) Cinema Playrooms Black/Dark Playroom Blue Light/Neon Playroom Upscale/Swanky And Clean Premises Sexy Lounge Awesome Live DJ Dance Floor Attended Private Lockers Towel & Robe Service Mirrored Playrooms Private Playrooms & Public Playrooms With Different Musical Ambient

www.CheckmateNYC.com

Annual Masquerade Ball @ Wicked Club sponsored by SDC

Marbella, Spain Saturday, 17 May, 2025

Exciting Annual Masquerade Ball at Wicked Club Marbella! Exclusively for Couples and single ladies!

Dress Code: Lingerie or sexy elegant for the ladies | Formal dress for gents Masks are a MUST!

Where can you get a mask? Most Chinese bazaars will sell them online (amazon) or at the entrance of the club.

Looking for an unforgettable night of fun, connection, and adventure? Join us at Wicked Club for our exclusive themed party, where open-minded people come together for an evening of thrilling experiences in a safe, judgment-free environment.

Whether you’re looking to explore your fantasies, meet new people, or simply enjoy a night out with like-minded individuals, our swingers club offers the perfect setting.

This event is open to all, from first-timers to seasoned lifestyle enthusiasts, with exciting themes to spark conversation and create an atmosphere of playful seduction.

Enjoy the sexy, vibrant atmosphere with themed décor, live DJ sets, dance floors, private lounges, and sensual play spaces designed to help you relax and indulge.

Event Highlights: Exclusive Theme: Dress to the theme or dress provocative, sexy and elegant! Open to Couples & Ladies only: Whether you’re flying solo or coming with a partner, there’s something for everyone.

Luxury Play Spaces: Experience our private, upscale play areas designed for comfort and intimacy. Dress Code Encouraged: Dress to impress and fit the theme, or come as you are and enjoy the party atmosphere. www.wickedclub.com

Red Pleasure XL

Welcome to Red pleasure XL!, May 24th. We meet you in an exclusive, and private location in Ghent. Where you experience the greatest and hottest RED themed night that will even make your wildest dreams blush. Don't miss this pleasurable XL night filled with the best DJs and a high-end all-in concept. Enjoy the erotic vibe and dare to go XL! 

- For couples, single ladies and limited selected single men. - Max. 200 couples. - With a great DJ line-up! - Private & exclusive location. - high-class erotic clubbing. - XL Playrooms. - Delicious XL hot and cold buffet. - spirit and champagne menu. - private parking.

Line-up: - That’s who - DJ T - MARK WITH A K & MC CHUCKY  - DJ Mike

illuminaughty presents - Neon

San Jose, CA Saturday, May 24th, 2025

Welcome to Illuminaughty, the exclusive members-only club where sophistication meets sensuality. Our curated community brings together fit, active, and like-minded individuals in their 20s, 30s, and early 40s. With an average guest age of 31 for women and 35 for men, and attendees over 45 being rare, our events are designed to create a welcoming, playful, and vibrant atmosphere where you can connect with your peers.

Each Illuminaughty event is thoughtfully planned with attention to every detail, from the ambiance to the experience, ensuring your senses are awakened and your passions ignited. Our events are also carefully gender-balanced, guaranteeing a harmonious and engaging environment for everyone.

To attend an event, you must first apply and be approved on our website - WeAreilluminaughty.com
Only members who have completed our vetting process will receive the opportunity to purchase tickets and attend.

Curious to see what makes Illuminaughty unforgettable? 

We look forward to welcoming you into our passionate and vibrant community, where extraordinary company and unforgettable experiences await.

Exceptionnel: Gold in the Caves

On May 31st, Exceptionnel will open its doors for the first edition since the rebirth of this iconic event. 

Experience an exclusive night in the most legendary and successful location of Exceptionnel – a place where secrets whisper and desires become reality. This is your chance to be part of a night full of excitement, seduction and ultimate ecstasy.

Don't miss the resurrection of this unique party! Make sure you're there and get your tickets now while you still can via www.exceptionnel-events.com.

 Be part of it. Be bold. Be EXCEPTIONNEL. 

(Located in the Netherlands, near Belgium and Germany)