Three Things to Consider about Having a Threesome

The idea of having a threesome might seem simple and straightforward...
Sure, the idea of having a threesome might seem simple and straightforward, but there are a few things you really need to consider when you're planning on embarking on the adventure.

Choose Your Third Partner Well


Choosing the right threesome partner is a delicate matter. You both need to be comfortable with the third party, whether it is a man or a woman. And although you have to be open-minded, never break your own limits or the rules you and your partner have made up for playing with a third party. Don't engage in this practice when you have marital problems. When things are rocky, bringing someone else into your bed will turn out wrong.

Don't Mix it Up with Porn, and Certainly not with Love


Everything goes smoothly in a porno. In reality, you might have to find the right position or readjust while you "get busy." What does the other man or woman like? Do you kiss? You have to deal with the fact that body parts can make funny noises you haven't experienced with your own partner. If anything goes wrong or a position turns out to cause any discomfort, feel free to laugh about it. This will help clear up an awkward moment. Only in a film do all people love each other dearly. In real life, the third party is mostly for adding an extra dimension to your sex life. Maybe you will learn different styles from the third person.

Attraction is Necessary


You can either choose the man or woman to have sex with your spouse, or let him or her make a choice. Either way, you have to make sure that the third party is acceptable and attractive for the both of you. Don't force yourself into a situation you’re not comfortable with. It is sometimes easier for people who all have the same sex to feel attracted to each other. But for a M/F/F or F/M/M it is essential that you all  feel some kind of attraction. Not only because otherwise there might be a lot of pressure on one person to please the other two, but also because of possible feelings of jealousy. That's also why during your playtime you should not pair off. So, considering all these points and if they are done well, threesomes can bring a couple closer together. Find your playmates at SDC

Maddy V

Dutch journalist and editor. Specialized in writing articles about sex, health and relationships.
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1 Comments
  • Anonymous
LUCKYCPL05
Dec 30, 2020
One great way to enjoy a threeway without any awkwardness is by including one member of a couple with whom you already play. My wife has 'unicorned' with another couple with a hallpass and both the female and male halves of other couples we're close to have hallpassed to play with us. These are people with whom we already have a connection and sexual familiarity, so everything just rolls along brilliantly!
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