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Just Because They Don't Kiss Doesn't Mean They Aren't Ready!
The swinging world is far less judgmental than the vanilla world, but we’re all human, so you can’t expect perfection.
If you don’t feel comfortable kissing at the beginning of your swinging adventures, that's TOTALLY FINE! Your boundaries are YOUR boundaries.
Watch the video to find out if the ‘no kissing rule’ can limit your potential play dates in the swinging lifestyle.
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Just The Tips
One tip I do have, as you’re establishing your boundaries, is to remember that they don’t have to be fixed. You will very likely shed some of the fears and judgments you have regarding sharing your partner the longer you’re in the lifestyle.
So attend swinger events with your boundaries firmly in place, but keep your mind open while you’re there. Take a moment here and there to imagine your partner kissing someone else. Really evaluate how you think it might make you feel. And if you start to get curious about it, mention it to your partner IN BETWEEN events (not AT that event… you both deserve some time to think it through; there’s no need to rush).
The best way to ensure that you have fun out there is to create a swinging dynamic that you both feel safe within. And I promise you, there are other people out there with very similar boundaries to your own!
So, let’s all skip the judgment and get out there and have some fun!
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