What Can a Retreat Do For You?
The purpose of a retreat is to bring strangers together for a common purpose. In this case, it was to honor women, and teach both men and women how to be in relationship with each other in a healthy, respectful, honest way. It was also to have time to explore our own beliefs about life, love, sex, truth, responsibility, honesty, etc., and to have professional guidance for any desired reprogramming.
Why people choose to attend such a retreat?
- They often don’t know what they are in for
- They are ready to shake it up
- Their life isn’t going exactly as they planned or desired
- They are ready to push their boundaries and redesign their life
How can so many strangers create such a deep bond so quickly?
It's human nature to create a tribe of intimates with people you can laugh with, share intimacy with, feel close to, trust, and depend on.
Why is there always drama?
Relationships are the most important aspect of being human — and the most complicated. When we don’t know each other’s true nature or character, we base everything on face value — and we judge accordingly. We can’t possibly give “benefit of the doubt” without a behavioral track record.
The Aftermath of a Retreat
Withdrawal and re-entry program;
Processing the happenings (autopsy);
Staying in touch: Deconstructing, “did this happen the way I am remembering it,” validating experiences, feelings, learnings.
What you choose to take forward from the learning: Create a list of things you would like to shift from what you learned. Maybe you went in with expectations that were not realistic, and you were disappointed. Learn how to better communicate your expectations the next time or set expectations for your own behavior rather than the behavior of others, and realize that we can’t possibly know how things are going to unfold (the mystery of life) and that is part of the excitement of attending such a self-revealing, introspective, and life-changing retreat.
I always learn about myself during these retreats (I have been running them for over a decade) — and I come out the other side altered in some way (more aware of my humanness, my weaknesses, my strengths, and where my work is). My husband always reminds me that my work really is “one person at a time,” and this is very true.
I held many while they sobbed, I was held for my own sobbing; I laughed, cried, and fell in love with many of the souls who entrusted themselves to me and were open to what I have to share. Even those I had a conflict with were great teachers — for we are all complicated beings with both light and shadow aspects of ourselves — we need time to experience and know all aspects without fear or self-depreciation.
I always say during this show that Conscious Living is about “waking up to your life” and this is exactly what a mindful retreat can do to catapult you into the next level of self-awareness and consciousness. I am the only one responsible for my experiences, whom I chose to experience them with and how I process them afterwards. It’s a big job -- but what else is more important than using this time to live our finest life with the highest of purpose? I can’t think of anything.