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Sex According to the Basic Emotions
I don’t know if you’re a fan of the Black Mirror series (on Netflix), but if you aren’t, you should be! The series is absolutely fantastic and deals with a lot of social commentary about what the future might hold for us as human beings. Most of the episodes hit home, but the “Black Museum” episode really got to me.
One of the stories has to do with a mom living in the subconscious of, first, her husband, and then in a stuffed toy monkey. She could only convey two emotions, which basically equated to “happy” = “yes” and “not happy” = “no” where the monkey would say, “monkey loves you” for yes/happy and “monkey needs a hug” for no/not happy. It turns out that the experiment they were doing turned out to be unethical because people need to express more than just two emotions.
Which got me to thinking…
How do we look at sex when it comes to our different emotions?
Of course there are different theorists that believe in a variety of how many basic emotions we have, but for the most part, most people agree that we have eight basic emotions: joy, trust, fear, surprise, sadness, disgust, anger, anticipation.
A lot of us don’t really think in-depth about our sexuality and our sexual relationships based on these emotions, so I challenge you to answer these questions, expand on your answers (think about why you think the way you do and how you would change it, if necessary) and see if you learn something new about yourself in the process!
JOY
What makes you happy when it comes to sex? What do you imagine sexual ecstasy to feel like? How do you achieve serenity in your sex life and/or in your relationships? What do you love about your sexuality and your sex life?
TRUST
How do you get to trust someone sexually? What do you admire about your sex life? How does consent and acceptance of consent play a role in your life? What are the things that you are willing to submit to when it comes to sex life?
FEAR
What scares you about your sex life? What are you most afraid of in your sex life? What worries you when it comes to your sex life? What do you wonder about when it comes to your sex life?
SURPRISE
What shocks you about your sex life? What amazes you about your sex life? What distracts you when it comes to your sex life? What do you disapprove of when it comes to your sex life?
SADNESS
Is there something that depresses you in your sex life? What troubles you about your sex life? What kinds of things do you reflect on in your sex life? What do you feel guilty about when it comes to your sex life?
DISGUST
What repulses you when it comes to sex? What or whom do you despise when it comes to your sexuality? What bores you in your sex life? What is disgraceful about your sex life?
ANGER
What makes you mad when it comes to your sex life? What makes you flip into a rage when it comes to your sex life? What are you annoyed by when it comes to your sex life? What makes you aggressive when it comes to sex?
ANTICIPATION
What makes you look forward to having sex? What captures your attention when it comes to sex? What are you interested in when it comes to your sex life? What brings you hope when it comes to your sex life?
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