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Single Guys at a Party: How to Act

Unfortunately, single guys at swinger's parties are often seen negatively.

Unfortunately, single guys at swinger's parties are often seen negatively. But they don't have to be. Follow our simple set of do's and don'ts if you're a single guy at a party.

Don’ts

Alcohol can help you feel a bit more relaxed, but don’t get drunk. Ever.
Don’t be stuck to her wherever she goes. If she goes to the bathroom, she will be back.
Do not talk about sex, the Lifestyle or about what you want at that party. She knows that because she wants the same thing. Be subtle about that. So choose nice topics about life, business, her house, TV shows or ask her questions.

Do’s

Ask about her husband or boyfriend. Is he OK with her playing with a single guy? You don't want drama.
If she tells you where she is going, what she is doing, says thinks like "it's hot in here" or "I need a drink," the best answer is: "Do you want me to come with you?" or "can I get it for you?" If she says yes, she is going to play with you. So just relax and chill.
Take a Viagra so you are able to last 30 to 60 minutes.
Wear a condom to prevent STDs. If you have already played, wash your cock with soap. Latex doesn't taste good.
Throw away your condom. Go get a wet towel.
After play is just as important as foreplay and during. Stay for a couple of minutes and be a gentleman. Walk her back to wherever she wants to go.

Do you agree or disagree? Maybe have more tips?

Maddy V

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QOSWIFE

May 16, 2025

I have been in the lifestyle longer than some of you have been alive. Many things have changed. Single males were limited in numbers at clubs and parties. As they should have been, at that time. Today, the lifestyle needs more single men at parties and clubs. MFM MFMMM is more common these days. Hot wives want a larger selection to choose from. Not just the single guy who is friends with the club or host. If you are a straight hot wife. You have to let people know somehow. I'm 6'4" 275lbs not a fatty. My wife is a 5'2" little shit. Understandably, single guys will not approach her. She is there to be used like a fuck toy. Just not by anyone. If it is getting late and some guy hasn't approached her, she hates being forced to make the first move. If she is not interested, she has the greatest airline stewardess type of personality. She can say fuckoff, little pee pee, with a smile. Also without anyone thinking she is a bitch. One of the comments said single guys should not approach a female of a couple. Again, not all females are bi. My wife and I are very easy talkers, and we are easy to talk to. We have been told many times that we are a joy to hang out with. We kind of enjoy each other's company. We are zero drama. Again, not all females are bi. We have found ourselves having a great time with other couples at parties. All four seem to be attracted to each other. Then comes the awkward moment, that time to reveal my wife is not bi. Some couples are not into full swap. We are not offended, but there have been times we feel bad about disappointing others. Oh, she doesn't feel bad enough to be bi for an hour so that I could enjoy.

SOMETIMESBIGUY

May 06, 2025

1. If she is with her husband or boyfriend, always approach when they are together. Never approach an attached woman when she is alone. 2. Engage everyone in the conversation if she is at a table, a group, etc. Women love flirting, and subtle looks and winks can really get them going. 3. Don't just talk about yourself and what you want, etc.

NORMALYETNAUGHTY

May 02, 2025

Here’s a tip. Actually be single! We can’t tell you how many times “single” guys turned out to be attached. Nobody likes a liar. This entire lifestyle is based on trust. Don't abuse it. Trust us, word gets out.

CERVIXXXCOMMANDER

Dec 11, 2024

I have rarely witnessed a single guy get out of line at a gathering. The other guys hold each other accountable. I have also seen, on many occasions, a single woman or wife destroy a party due to bad behavior. Entitlement is not good for the lifestyle. Let’s all do better.

WVGUY

Dec 11, 2024

As a single male, I have always respected people's boundaries and their relationships, and when I go to clubs, especially, I watch and observe and smile. I make myself approachable in my body language and vibes, and at private house/resident parties, it's different; you know the guests some. Steve

CENTRALFLSTUD88

Apr 26, 2024

I laugh off a lot of the insecurities with couples, especially jealous or a**hole husbands. LMAO If they don't pay your bills, they don't f****ng matter - it really is that easy. Be a d*** to someone and they (especially me) will gladly be a d*** right back.

NTWADUMELABBC

Jan 11, 2024

A couple runs into a single guy who's a dick all of a sudden every single guy gets painted with a broad brush which is wrong

NEFARIOUSTITAN

Nov 15, 2023

We get a terrible rap from paying double for the same event, to being discarded like leftovers, yet we are ever present to fulfill fantasies and provide incredible fun for those couples tired of working at four-way chemistry. There is a valid, legitimate place for well mannered, respectful single males within the life style, especially for those couples that prioritize her pleasure and are open to a confident, respectful guest in the bedroom.

HORNYROSE

Sep 10, 2022

Single men get a partner then get into the lifestyle. If you are so awesome getting a partner shouldn’t be an issue.

JOHNJOANDOE

Nov 01, 2021

If and ANY time you are invited to anything show up. Dont wait to the very last minute to cancel. We realize life gets on the way...and family comes first. You might get a second chance... But not a third.

SWEETNCRAZY

Sep 29, 2020

This is very good advice, but I wanted to comment on "Do not talk about sex, the Lifestyle or about what you want at that party." I actually find that the biggest problem at lifestyle parties is that people are inhibited about talking about sex, and as a consequence, sex might not happen, or only happens very very late. Of course talking about sex can feel like a minefield, and it's better to be subtle as the author says and not make it a first or main topic, but suggesting to forbid the topic altogether, I think, is not helpful for most people, but reinforces one of the common problems. I would say that free but respectful and thoughtful communication always opens doors.

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Single Guys at a Party: How to Act

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