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Tips for Your (First) Swingers Date
Want to know if a couple is for real? In most cases the earlier you discuss meeting, the quicker 'fakes' stop contacting you since they have no intention of meeting anyone.
Want to know if a couple is for real? In most cases the earlier you discuss meeting, the quicker the "fakes" stop contacting you since they have no intention of meeting anyone.
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- Make sure you know what you expect: Is it a dinner/drink date, or is there room for the first play?
- Choose your meeting location well! If you just want to meet, a hotel room is not a good place.
- If you’ve arranged a meet and greet or a play date, be punctual. Make sure you have exchanged phone numbers so you can call in case you're going to be late
- Choose the right outfit. When you meet in a restaurant, you don't want to look too sexy. Wear whatever you would normally wear for an evening out. This goes for the both of you.
- Mind the use of alcohol, especially when you drink to make you feel less nervous.
- Don't put too much pressure on yourself and your partner.
- Have an open mind and not-too-high expectations.
- A play date? Take your own condoms, lube, and toys.
- Be honest to your spouse, and to the other couple about the date.
- Don't be afraid to make first contact afterwards.
- Never tell other people the real identities of your dates or playmates.
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