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DNA Might Be TMI

I have a confession: I absolutely love The Maury Show.

I have a confession: I absolutely love The Maury Show. Even their hashtag #youknowyouwatchmaury cracks me up. All the paternity tests and the drama where people are falling on the floor or in shock because of someone else’s secret is like talk-show gold. My eyes are glued to the screen and I’m listening to everything (even when I have work to do), and I realized that there’s something to it that makes me want to watch it.

All the drama!

A friend of mine asked me why I watch it, and I told him that I appreciate the drama and am glad it isn’t my own. I stay pretty drama-free, so at times, my life almost feels boring to me, when in reality I know it’s not. But the fact is, I don’t have much drama. I have few secrets, and tend to live my life out in the open. Over time, this has been the best strategy for me because I can deal with the consequences right then and there. And we all know, the faster you get through the consequences, the faster you can move on with your life. Yes, life can be painful, but remembering that pain is temporary is key.

But I digress.

DNA, DNA everywhere!

The reason I brought up Maury and the paternity suits is because I came across an article that piqued my interest. It was about how an old theory called ‘telegony’ and how it might be at play when it comes to reproduction. Basically, this theory posits that females who are sexually exposed to various males, semen molecules from those other males will attach themselves to the egg. So if she were to get pregnant, there would be some DNA of the other males and some of their traits may be realized in the offspring.

Now, if you’ve kept up with my Facebook page, you might have seen this article where it states that scientists found that women carry the DNA of their previous male lovers. With that said, there’s some real validity to the doubts that these men have in the Maury show. Maybe they don’t see the traits in their offspring or maybe they see traits of the other men she may have slept with. Regardless, now we can seriously take this theory into consideration. Although they haven’t tested telegony with humans, it doesn’t seem to be far off base.

Would You Still Have Casual Unprotected Sex?

I know I’m getting a little scientific and philosophical, but I want you to think about the current state of your sex life, if you are having casual sex. In my previous blog about casual sex, I asked you a series of questions that you would need to ask yourself if you were engaging in casual sex. Now, I pose this to you (particularly for those with vaginal canals and uteri [one per person]): Would you engage in unprotected casual sex if the potential child had various aspects of your previous lovers? Would you mind if your potential child had some various aspects of your ex that you didn’t like?

I know that these are hypothetical questions, but I think they can help you, especially when it comes to risk reduction and empowering your sex life. If you’re a spiritual person, you might even say that the emotional feelings of your past lovers can affect your DNA and even your offspring if you’re not careful.

On the other hand, maybe sleeping with a lot of people can help the hybridization of society in some form or another and maybe we can all understand each other better if we each had a little of the same DNA (which is already happening). Or maybe not. But I guess it’s just the beginning of the conversation that you should start with your friends… Cheers to your sexual success!

Marla Stewart

Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach and sex educator. Not only is she a lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the co-founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective. Gaining her reputation for being "The Sex Architect", she created Velvet Lips to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 16 years at San Francisco State University and Georgia State University, respectively, and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research. She has conducted workshops at conferences, not-for-profit and private organizations, as well as universities in the Atlanta area. She has been featured on many radio shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at Universities around the country. She also sits on the board for the Atlanta Harm Reduction Coalition and SPARK Reproductive Justice Now!
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