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Bringing Love, Peace and Hope to Your Sexual Relationships: Part II

I’m in a great space to talk about this right now, because I just had a really great sexual encounter.

In the last blog, I talked about bringing love, peace and hope to your relationships and it totally provoked me to do one about sexual relationships. I’m in a great space to talk about this right now, because I just had a really great sexual encounter. As you probably know, our experiences shape our lessons in life and having that great sexual encounter is really helping me to think about my past and frame this blog for you today.


In the last blog, I talk about creating love. Being in a steady sexual relationship can create love between folks; I think we all know that. However, with the love component in a sexual relationship, I was thinking more about embracing the love of ourselves, and our bodies. When you love yourself being in your body, there’s an air of confidence that exudes from you. People around you see it, love it, and may even be intimidated by it. The love you have for yourself is a light that can be controlled by you and you only, so practicing self-care is a must. Once you have embodied that love, then it’s more than possible to experience a sense of peace.


A sense of peace can come in many different forms. Some folks experience a sense of peace when they are engaging in Tantra. Some folks experience peace through orgasm. Some folks experience peace after sex.

Think about the ways that you experience peace when you have a sexual relationship with someone. Think about the ways that you could be experiencing peace in sexual relationships. Peace in your sexual relationship makes your sex life better. For instance, if you walk away from a sexual situation/relationship and you feel like there’s something missing, you don’t have a sense of peace because you’ll be thinking about your own satisfaction. Providing communication and direction with love will help you to attain that peace that you seek. If this is the case, it can also create hope for the future (if you think the potential is there).


Hope is always needed in sexual relationships. Because of hope, we can sit back and think about the ways that our sex lives can be better. With hope in our sexual relationships, we can come to our partner(s) and show/tell them what pleases us and how to achieve the things that need to be achieved during sex. Hope is what keeps our sexual relationships alive. Hope is where we keep our ideals and how to achieve those ideals in our sexual relationships.

With that said, embodying love, having a sense of peace, and engaging in hope in your sexual relationships is necessary. It’s revolutionary, really. All of these things create pleasure in our lives and having pleasure in your life is a revolutionary act. So, let’s be revolutionaries!!!! Cheers to your sexual success!

Marla Stewart

Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach and sex educator. Not only is she a lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the co-founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective. Gaining her reputation for being "The Sex Architect", she created Velvet Lips to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 16 years at San Francisco State University and Georgia State University, respectively, and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research. She has conducted workshops at conferences, not-for-profit and private organizations, as well as universities in the Atlanta area. She has been featured on many radio shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at Universities around the country. She also sits on the board for the Atlanta Harm Reduction Coalition and SPARK Reproductive Justice Now!
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