Doing "The Work"

SDC Something Positive for Positive People Podcast HSV Herpes Life Advice
SDC Something Positive for Positive People Podcast HSV Herpes Life Advice

It can feel impossible to process certain challenges in your life, and there is no handbook on how to live with HSV. Courtney Brame shares how he's navigating his HSV+ life in this powerful episode.

Something Positive for Positive People Podcast Episode 123

Closing out the inside look of my process of doing "the work" on myself, I give you what I learned over my week off my HOnMyChest social media, an inside look at what my dating life has been, and then the conclusion to it all. I followed that up with a discovery I made as a result of talking through everything you hear here. To top it all off, I share the best piece of advice I ever received, which is to just know when to shut the f*** up.

If nothing else is taken from this episode, I say keep in mind to hold intention over expectation at heart. My healing process is ongoing, as yours should be. Replace any of my experiences with what you are facing, and maybe it'll be a template for you to fill in blanks.


Something Positive For Positive People

Courtney Brame is the founder and podcast host of Something Positive for Positive People, a 501c3 nonprofit organization that provides experience-based support resources for anyone navigating stigma. What began as a suicide prevention resource for people dealing with a herpes diagnosis has become a tool of empowerment and community for anyone facing stigma to learn from people sharing their own stories on the podcast. ABOUT COURTNEY BRAME I received my positive genital HSV-2 (primarily genital herpes) in 2012 but who knows how long I had it before I saw my first symptoms. I don’t know how I got it and my recent sexual partners said they did not have herpes. For almost 5 years, I challenged what I thought about living with herpes to my experiences living with herpes. As I began to disclose to new partners and close friends, I realized what I thought was simply not true. It was through the support of friends and loved ones that I was empowered enough to begin dating. Having put myself out there, I came across many resources I wish I knew were available after my diagnosis. It’s challenging to begin disclosing out the gate when you haven’t made sense of what it now means for you and your body. Through connections I made, I entered a whole new world of support and found others in my area that I wouldn’t have otherwise been connected to. These resources are challenging to find and I just hope to make them a little bit easier come across. When I saw that there were people who suffered from suicide ideation after their positive herpes diagnosis, it made me think of the times someone in my life attempted it. I’ll never know what fueled their motivations. The internet says suicide contemplation comes from a loss of control. People diagnosed with an incurable STI in the beginning express a loss of control over their sex-lives. With that understanding, if I could somehow contribute to empowering people to quickly regain that control or not lose it at all, that’s one more person who sticks around this place a little bit longer. It was this intention that led to the what became “Something Positive for Positive People”, where I began interviewing people living with STIs about their personal experiences. Many people opened up about facing stigma and trauma on top of their STI status, which led to more exploration in these topics. After three years, what began as a suicide prevention resource for people navigating an STD diagnosis has transformed into an organization that serves as a hub of healing resources. We’ve addressed mental, emotional, spiritual, physical health. We’ve talked about consent, sexual assault, and discrimination against LGBT+ members in the healthcare space. The shared experiences have taught us that community, self-acceptance and empowerment, and experience-based education have been key to supporting people through their healing processes. You can listen to the podcast to connect to additional resources prevalent to you or a loved one who may be struggling to navigate the stigma they’re facing. Shoot us an email if you don’t see what you’re looking for and need help finding it. If you’re looking for support/advice through your herpes diagnosis, I’ll make myself available to chat! I do ask that you honor the time that goes into that by first exploring the website, social media pages before reaching out for something that can be answered there. Keep in mind this is a non-profit organization and to help us keep operating as is, donations are always appreciated. You can visit the homepage for options.
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