You Will Not Shame Me…
How hate mail and hateful comments spark a need for self-respect and a realization that no one has a right to shame you.

Inspired by the unfathomable amount of hate mail over a silly nearly naked yoga promo video, plus so many hateful comments regarding my age, weight, gender, etc.: I was compelled to write this for all of us who get (bullied) and disrespected simply because of the fear we reveal to others about themselves. #TheRawTruth

You Will Not Shame Me

The media would have us believe that we are less-than because of age -- too many of us have bought into this lie. They make billions on our insecurities. Think about it. You and I are both a day older today than we were yesterday. We are all aging at the same rate -- unless we’re dead.

I don’t know about you, but I prefer to be alive and getting older. But getting older doesn’t have to mean we are less-than. It doesn’t mean we are not vitally important, vibrantly alive, sexy, and making a positive difference in this world. Nope -- it doesn’t mean that at all!

So, please, if you love my poem and the video Mark created for me to reveal I am still strong, powerful, sexy, vibrant and worthy -- share it with anyone you feel is not feeling that love for themselves. We are either an example or a warning… I hope I am an example to some of you today.

You will not shame me for getting older.

Nor should you want to.

You are getting older too.

And it’s OK. It’s better than OK. It’s a gift. It means we are still here!

My mother felt less-than as she aged. I vowed then to fight the myth that somehow I’m less-than because I’m older than I was yesterday.

I am a better version of myself since yesterday. More of the blanks have been filled in -- with many yet to be revealed.

I love seeing the evidence on my face that I have smiled a million smiles -- cried a million tears -- and expressed freely my passions and pains.

You might feel the need to judge me. We are taught to fear aging. I’m here to love you through that. It’s really a beautiful process to be alive through all phases and to find the pearls in the ash of our traumas.

The is me stripped down to the core… bouncing between one version of myself 12 years my junior, I am reminded of the power of my path. The corners I have been around that have shaped the “ME” of today. And baby, sexy does not have an expiration date!

What would the world look like if we loved each other regardless of the number of birthdays, color of our meat suits, land of birth or who we choose to love? What if? Well, that is how I choose to live my life and let me just say -- it’s freeing. It’s beautiful. And the view I have is magnificent… I would love to share it with you all!

You will NOT shame me for getting older.

Nor should you want to.

You are getting older, too.

Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce - Clinical Sexologist

Hello, I'm Dr. Nancy Sutton Pierce. I'm delighted to be a part of the SDC professional family. I've been in health care for over three decades and earned my Doctorate degree in Human Sexuality in 2015. Since then I've been traveling the world teaching and hosting retreats in places like China, Jamaica, Mexico, Italy, France, Spain, as well as all across the USA. I was featured as The Sexologist on This Is Life with Lisa Ling in season 6, and have been featured in numerous publications, TV and Radio shows. I also hosted my own radio show for ten years called, The Conscious Living Show. My focus is empowering both women and men with regards to their own pleasures and intimacy literacy. Knowing what we want is one thing, knowing how to ask and then be patient is a whole other level of communication required for healthy relationships. I'm also a Sensual Yoga Therapist and I bring the Yin/Yang blends into all of my courses and retreats. I have created a magical program called, "The Kama Sutra Oasis" for couples seeking deeper intimacy and profound communication skills. My private practice reaches clients locally and internationally as I provide counsel both in person and via Skype. My background is quite eclectic and my perspectives are nonjudgmental and very open minded. My intention is to help you find peace and celebration with your authentic self, and then learn to love who you are even more! "When we're at peace with who we are, we find greater compassion with those around us."
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