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Sexual Voyaging at Good For Her in Toronto

I don’t know if you’ve ever been to Toronto, but if you haven’t, you need to go ahead and make your way out there!

I don’t know if you’ve ever been to Toronto, but if you haven’t, you need to go ahead and make your way out there! I had such a wonderful time presenting my pussy pleasing workshop at the Playground Conference, as well as presenting my Intensify Your Sexual Connection workshop with couples at Oasis Aqualounge. Everyone had a blast at my workshops; so much so, that they want me to come back and do more! For all you Torontians (is that right?), I’m on it!  I can’t wait to go back!


The Discovery of Sex Tampons


Besides handling business (and fun!), I got the opportunity to go to the Good For Her store in downtown Toronto. It’s this cute quaint little store with a variety of quality sex toys and more! I loved this little feminist store stocked with ‘zines, books, and sources for all of your pleasures. The most fascinating thing that I found in the store is Sex Tampons! They aren’t like our regular tampons that we have here in the States, and they definitely don’t sell them here in the US, as far as I know. I looked at the reviews online, while I was in the store and I was convinced that I had to have them.

They are pink, circular sponges that basically soak up your premenstrual blood. They go up to your cervix and this allows you to have penetration without a mess! I don’t know about you, but since I have a high sex drive, no sex while I’m on my period is absolutely out of the question. I quickly took a picture of this item and sent it to my lover. She was just as excited as I was (at least, that’s what I was getting out of the text), and I told my wonderful friend and sex educator, Luna Matatas (Peg the Patriarchy, Fuck Like a Goddess), that she had to ship me more when I ran out.


Exploring Further


The only one flaw with this innovative sex tool is that some folks had a hard time getting it out. Luna informed me that she ties dental string around it to pull it out, so I’ll definitely keep that in mind. Some folks tended to panic that they couldn’t get it out, and I definitely didn’t want that to be me. As a Type A, I’m generally not okay with being out of control over something that I think I can control.

As I explored all around the store, I spotted this toy. I had wanted to get this toy since I was in Amsterdam because I thought it was a suction tool for your clitoris. Well, I finally learned that it wasn’t. It might create suction with your clitoris, but it actually just vibrates. I was pretty disappointed, but also hopeful.


Leaving the Sex Toys to the Experts


I’m not a sex toy expert and although I like to experiment with different toys, when it comes to sexuality and sex education, I tend to stay in my lane and not go and try to educate on the sex toy realm. There are so many sex educators and sex toy sellers that I think it’s best if folks go to them when it comes to toys. However, I really, really, really, really, hope that someone comes out with a suction toy for your clit soon. My lover said that I would put her out of business, but I convinced her that nothing replaces human contact when it comes to sex. Yes, for those of us who masturbate, we know our bodies well, but the joy of being in contact with someone and that kind of foreign touch is definitely a turn on!

Good For Her is run by Carlyle Jansen, who I had the pleasure of taking an anal workshop at the University of Guelph Sexuality Conference with a couple of years ago. She runs workshops out of her shop, which is located upstairs from the sex toys and books. In addition to having all those wonderful things, she also has an incredible staff who do amazing and wonderful sex positive things, so I admire her work for cultivating the pleasure in our communities.




If you’re ever in Toronto, you should definitely go and check them out! And if anything, make sure you go and get those sex tampons! Cheers to your sexual success!

Marla Stewart

Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach and sex educator. Not only is she a lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the co-founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective. Gaining her reputation for being "The Sex Architect", she created Velvet Lips to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 16 years at San Francisco State University and Georgia State University, respectively, and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research. She has conducted workshops at conferences, not-for-profit and private organizations, as well as universities in the Atlanta area. She has been featured on many radio shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at Universities around the country. She also sits on the board for the Atlanta Harm Reduction Coalition and SPARK Reproductive Justice Now!
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