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Why Pics are Key

Pics are key to getting noticed and getting dates on SDC.com!

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How to Meet Swingers in California: Your Lifestyle Guide

Let’s dive into some flirty and sexy things for swingers to do in California.

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California Swingers: How to Connect, Flirt, and Play

With its sun-kissed beaches, hedonistic nightlife, and relaxed, open-minded culture, California is one of the best places in the United States to experience the swinging lifestyle.

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Hotwifing vs. Cuckolding: What’s the Difference?

Whether you're just curious or considering exploring these exciting new avenues with your partner, this article will dive into the differences between hotwifing and cuckolding.

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Confirmation Bias is Blocking Your ENM Growth

Think you already know how your relationship will turn out? That might be confirmation bias talking. Here’s how to break free.

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Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns

Are your thoughts sabotaging your ethical non-monogamous (ENM) relationships? The Feedback Loop in ENM Explained.

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You Don’t Need to “Learn Ethical Non-Monogamy”

You Don’t Need to “Learn Ethical Non-Monogamy ” — You Need to Learn Yourself.

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Black Women, Sexual Freedom, and the Judgment We Carry

Black women were never given sexual freedom in this country.

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Compersion Isn’t the Opposite of Jealousy

Compersion Isn’t the Opposite of Jealousy — Here’s What It Really Means in Ethical Non-Monogamy.

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Lying vs Withholding in Ethical Non-Monogamy

Lying vs Withholding in ENM: Not lying isn’t the same as being fully honest.

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Privacy vs Secrecy in Ethical Non-Monogamy

In ethical non-monogamy, privacy honors boundaries — but secrecy destroys trust.

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Stop Trying Not to Want What You Want

Let’s talk about something that too many people navigating ethical non-monogamy (ENM) silently wrestle with: You’re trying not to want what you actually want.

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What Regular Therapists Don’t Get About Ethical Non-Monogamy

Many relationship therapists are trained in monogamy-based frameworks — which means when non-monogamous clients seek support, they often get advice that does more harm than good.

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Ethical Non-Monogamy vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy

If you've been exploring open relationships, polyamory, or alternative relationship structures, you've likely come across the terms Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM).

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