Swingers Lifestyle Community for Open-Minded Couples & Singles

Join free now!

Why It’s Never Too Late To Know the Realms of Your Sexuality

Recently, I received an email from an aging man who was a virgin (yes, a real 50-year-old virgin).

Recently, I received an email from an aging man who was a virgin (yes, a real 50-year-old virgin) and he expressed to me that although he felt attraction for all types of people, the thought of having sex didn’t pique his interest. It seemed like too much work when he watched porn and he felt that if he was a sex worker that he could have sex with folks, and then he would know if he is actually sexually attracted to someone. His problem was that he felt that he didn’t have those opportunities.

Hear Your Spirit

My first piece of advice was to meditate and hear his spirit and maybe that he would hear something. My second piece of advice was to go to a swinger’s club and experiment with different people who he found attractive, but he didn’t like that advice either. He was solidly convinced that he might never be intimate with someone, and I could feel the sadness in his words.

Find Your Sexual Energy

The fact of the matter is, is that it’s never too late to know what your sexuality entails. Our sexuality changes all the time, so it’s always necessary to constantly re-evaluate what we like and what we don’t like. Sometimes, when we do the same things over and over, we fail to get to know our fantasies better. We fail to foster our sexuality and we fail to exert the energy necessary to explore and embody that sexual energy.

Asexuality Is A-OK

However, there’s also the possibility that not being sexually attracted to people might mean that you’re asexual. Fostering sexual energy into your romantic and intimate relationships look different for those who are asexual, as opposed to those who aren’t. Asexual folks feel that pressure to be sexual in sexualized world and that adds to the stress.

As children, if we are taught that it’s okay to be sexual and it’s also okay to not be sexual, the world would be a better place simply because you would be validated in your feelings without any judgment or explanation as to why you feel that way. Less pressure, less stress and more happiness.

0 Likes
0 Comments
LIKE
COMMENT
0