Welcome back, my Lexual fiends...
The brain is the number one sex organ before the genitals. Yes, you heard me! Without sexually stimulating the brain, our genitalia would not follow with sexual arousal: this is why using words is to our advantage. As an erotica writer, it's clear how the power of my stories can take someone to the edge of desire. Sexting is no different, and can actually be a powerful tool to explore different fantasies.
Sexting is a Safe Place to Explore New Ideas
Do you have a kink you've been thinking about? A new position or act that really turns you on, and you want to bring it up to your partner? This would be an ideal time to test out that idea and see what your partner thinks of it.
The Phone Interface Takes Some of the Pressure Off
Communication isn't always easy face-to-face — I get it! It might lessen anxiety to bring up your desires through a naughty text and see the response. When we don't feel nervous, we can convey what we want much easier!
Suggest New Things You Want to Try
Wanting to bring in a new toy? Watch a naughty video together? Incorporate some booty play? Suggest it! "Wouldn't it be so hot if you watched me use X toy?" "Let's play a game: I do to you whatever is done in the video we watch together."
Find Out How Your Partner Feels About Experimentation
You can check in with your partner and still make it sexy!
"I would love to go down on you and use ou new X toy, how does that sound to you?"
The list can go on and on, but simply just ask how they feel about your suggestions. We are just playing with words, that's all!
Make Your Partner Feel Involved in Setting a Scene
Ask your partner to participate! Ask them what they would like done to them, what scenario they would like to be in, and give examples of their ideal encounter with you. Play on top of their suggestions, and watch the sexy, orgasmic story grow.
How do you sext? Tell me in the comments below!
Until next time, Stay Lexual!