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Inside the Swingers Lifestyle

Maddy V     
What happens when a news crew is granted access to visit a swingers club?

The world of the swingers lifestyle is a mystery to most. So, what happens when a news crew is granted access to visit a swingers club to see what really goes on inside?


In central Indiana FOX59 was given unprecedented access into a local swingers club. According to their article: "It was quickly apparent that people in the lifestyle come from all types of backgrounds and they don't fit a particular stereotype."

They discovered doctors, lawyers, judges, teachers, accountants, executives, mechanics, and just about every other profession you can imagine. Wow, what a surprise! Didn't we know that already?! But what is more interesting is that couples talked openly about the lifestyle, but asked not to be identified, so the names that appear in this story are pseudonyms. So, there still seems to be fear for judgment from the "outside" world.


How about ABC News? A year ago they filmed (part) of a swingers party. They interviewed Tony and Diana, who at that moment had been married for 5 years and had 3 kids together. They seemed to live a normal family life in Cincinnati (Ohio) life. But they had a secret. And because of that, they also asked that their last names not be used. Their secret: They are swingers who actively swap sexual partners and host swinger's parties for their suburban neighbors.

What was the conclusion in both the articles/interviews?

  • Most swingers live a "normal life." But their sex life is outside the conventional definition of a relationship.
  • According to Edward Fernandes, a professor at Barton College and an expert on the swinging lifestyle the average age of swingers is between 36-55.
  • Fernandes estimates that there are over 50 million swingers in North America.
  • Swingers feel very secure in their relationship.
  • Swingers have strong rules about swinging.
  • The lifestyle brings couples closer together and boosts their sex life.
  • Most swingers are typically college-educated.
  • Their average household income is between $40,000-$200,000.
  • People who go to swingers clubs for the first time discover that it is not a mass orgy and that you don't have to swap or do anything you don't want.
  • Most swingers are very picky when it comes to choosing a playmate.
  • Most of the swingers are afraid of being judged by their families or social network outside their swinger's network.

How about you? Do you share your way of life with your non-swinger friends and family?

Maddy V

Dutch journalist and editor. Specialized in writing articles about sex, health and relationships.
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