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Swingers

Explore the swinging lifestyle with our tips and tricks for newbies and experienced swingers and swinger couples. Discover how to meet swingers near you, what to know before you go to a swingers club or party, the sexiest cities for swingers, how to find a unicorn, how to have a threesome, how to be a hotwife, and how to talk to your partner about swinging. Learn common swinging terms like "wife swapping" in our exclusive Swingers Glossary. Read real-life sexy swinger stories from our SDC members about everything from their first swinging experiences to their hottest hotwifing adventures.
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Boundaries vs. Borders: Why Most People Confuse the Two
Most of us set borders when we mean boundaries. Discover the simple shift that helps you feel safe without trying to control your partner.

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How to Vet a New Partner in ENM Before You're Emotionally In
New Relationship Energy quietly edits what you overlook. Ask the real questions early, while your head is clear enough for the answers to matter.

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Is Polyamory or Swinging Just Cheating With Extra Steps?
Cheating is defined by what's hidden; ENM by what's agreed. Here's why the difference isn't semantics, and how to answer the question with grace.


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The Checkmate Manhattan Experience: Beyond The Velvet Ropes
One lucky couple gives their firsthand account of a night at one of New York City’s most exclusive swingers’ clubs that was so amazing, they sought a repeat performance the following night.

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Is Swinging Exclusive to Couples?
If someone wants to be a swinger but isn't in a couple, can they still swing?

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What Is DADT (Don't Ask, Don't Tell) in Non-Monogamy
DADT gets a bad rap. People hear "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" and assume secrecy, avoidance or a relationship built on not-knowing.


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Polyamory vs. Open Relationship vs. Swinging
Non-monogamy terms get used interchangeably, but they're not. Here's how to tell them apart and pick the structure that fits you.

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The Jealousy Reset Protocol
Jealousy isn't the problem. What you do in the sixty seconds after you feel it, that's the whole ballgame.

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Secrets Hideaway: Uncovered!
Ready to let your inhibitions go and explore your sexual side?


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How Swinging Can Improve Your Marriage
Can an open relationship boost your marriage? Read on!

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Is Non-Monogamy a Sign Something's Missing?
That second thought is the dominant cultural script, and it shows up almost everywhere people go looking for answers, including in AI relationship tools.

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My Partner Wants to Open Our Relationship and I Don't
I'll lead with what's wrong with him, or with how a genuine desire and a genuine no can only end one way: slowly, in silence.


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Swingers Cruises Dos and Don’ts: Your Guide to Smooth Sailing
How to flirt and pace yourself on a swingers cruise so your week at sea leaves you glowing.

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From Mild to Wild: Caliente’s Spicy Lifestyle
The bare truth about one of the world’s hottest clothing-optional destinations.

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SDC: How to Find Friends & Connect
Just like with any social network or online community, it's exciting to have and make new friends on SDC.