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Obsession with Truth Featuring Laureen HD

SDC SPFPP Something Positive for Positive People Herpes HSV Sexual Health STD
SDC SPFPP Something Positive for Positive People Herpes HSV Sexual Health STD

When it comes to publicly disclosing one's herpes diagnosis, we may seek a sense of liberation, but that comes from feeling empowered to inform ourselves in the first place.

Something Positive for Positive People Podcast Episode 131

Two years in the making, we finally get blessed with the presence of Laureen HD! Her YouTube channel was one of the first resources I found after my herpes diagnosis. After reaching out, she was mid-move out of the country so there was a slight delay. I just hit record because I knew if I didn't, I'd have regretted missing out on all that awesomeness we had in here about silence and our discomfort with it as a society. Laureen and I exchange dating stories around the idea that it's easy to assume that because we do this work, that potential partners already know we have herpes and they've done their research on us prior to leading us on.

In this Episode...

We discuss rejection and the alternatives to a person turning us down when we think it's for our herpes diagnosis. Turns out, it could be a number of reasons, and we discuss some examples and get into the fact that people just have preferences.

We talk about why Laureen decided to begin her channel and decide to be open about her diagnosis and her initial non-disclosure that encouraged her to do so. We also get into how Laureen stays consistent having run her channel for 4 years now, and then we talk about some feedback she's gotten being open. Some major takeaways are that when it comes to publicly disclosing, we may seek a sense of liberation, but that comes from feeling empowered to inform ourselves in the first place.

Prior to making the decision, it's important to assess your surroundings and decide if that's something for you. Consent and disclosure going hand in hand, all sex educators aren't freaks and, last but not least, obsession with truth as a motivator for consistency.

Something Positive For Positive People

Courtney Brame is the founder and podcast host of Something Positive for Positive People, a 501c3 nonprofit organization that provides experience-based support resources for anyone navigating stigma. What began as a suicide prevention resource for people dealing with a herpes diagnosis has become a tool of empowerment and community for anyone facing stigma to learn from people sharing their own stories on the podcast. ABOUT COURTNEY BRAME I received my positive genital HSV-2 (primarily genital herpes) in 2012 but who knows how long I had it before I saw my first symptoms. I don’t know how I got it and my recent sexual partners said they did not have herpes. For almost 5 years, I challenged what I thought about living with herpes to my experiences living with herpes. As I began to disclose to new partners and close friends, I realized what I thought was simply not true. It was through the support of friends and loved ones that I was empowered enough to begin dating. Having put myself out there, I came across many resources I wish I knew were available after my diagnosis. It’s challenging to begin disclosing out the gate when you haven’t made sense of what it now means for you and your body. Through connections I made, I entered a whole new world of support and found others in my area that I wouldn’t have otherwise been connected to. These resources are challenging to find and I just hope to make them a little bit easier come across. When I saw that there were people who suffered from suicide ideation after their positive herpes diagnosis, it made me think of the times someone in my life attempted it. I’ll never know what fueled their motivations. The internet says suicide contemplation comes from a loss of control. People diagnosed with an incurable STI in the beginning express a loss of control over their sex-lives. With that understanding, if I could somehow contribute to empowering people to quickly regain that control or not lose it at all, that’s one more person who sticks around this place a little bit longer. It was this intention that led to the what became “Something Positive for Positive People”, where I began interviewing people living with STIs about their personal experiences. Many people opened up about facing stigma and trauma on top of their STI status, which led to more exploration in these topics. After three years, what began as a suicide prevention resource for people navigating an STD diagnosis has transformed into an organization that serves as a hub of healing resources. We’ve addressed mental, emotional, spiritual, physical health. We’ve talked about consent, sexual assault, and discrimination against LGBT+ members in the healthcare space. The shared experiences have taught us that community, self-acceptance and empowerment, and experience-based education have been key to supporting people through their healing processes. You can listen to the podcast to connect to additional resources prevalent to you or a loved one who may be struggling to navigate the stigma they’re facing. Shoot us an email if you don’t see what you’re looking for and need help finding it. If you’re looking for support/advice through your herpes diagnosis, I’ll make myself available to chat! I do ask that you honor the time that goes into that by first exploring the website, social media pages before reaching out for something that can be answered there. Keep in mind this is a non-profit organization and to help us keep operating as is, donations are always appreciated. You can visit the homepage for options.
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