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How Alcohol Can Help Your Sex Life

I’ve learned so much about the correlation between alcohol and your sex life.

As a bartender for the last 9 years and studying sexuality for the last 14, I’ve learned so much about the correlation between alcohol and your sex life. When navigated carefully, you can have a great time; but navigated poorly, it can ultimately be disastrous.

I mean, I know I’m not the only one who fell asleep while having sex…

There are definite advantages when it comes to having a drink or two.

If you have a drink or two, it can relax you. It might be easier with your guard a little down, and help you be a little less uptight or anxious (if that’s your normal state). Having a drink also helps you get into the realm of assurance; really believing that you can do whatever you set your mind to do in that moment. They don’t call it “liquid courage” for nothing, right?

Confidence booster.

In addition to alcohol relaxing you and giving you the confidence that you need, it actually has benefits physically and mentally. First, it can make you do things that you thought weren’t possible. Is it that super complex yoga move that you saw on television that you thought you would try or is it some dirty talk phrase that you thought you could only say in your head? In addition, ingesting alcohol makes your juices taste better. With the extreme sugar content of alcohol, oral sex can be pleasant for the giver. It’s a perfect excuse for you to have a glass, get flirty and convince a lover that you need a little oral satisfaction.

Pour that glass of red.

My personal favorite is ingesting red wine. It turns out that having a glass of red wine a day helps your heart in the long run because of all the antioxidants, and it also lessens the instances of heart disease as you age. Now, there’s no official suggestion amount because people’s tolerances are different and dependent on body size/density and if you have had any food in your system for absorption. As a bartender, I could easily detect when someone was at their limit, depending on their body type (and how often they came to see me at the bar). I often noticed that their confidence would go sky-high and they oozed with sexiness over time; talking to strangers, flirting, and my personal favorite, spending more money.

Realising your potential.

Besides all these great benefits, it’s been documented (check out Think & Grow Rich) that having a drink or two helps you to realize things or expand your potential. Of course, it’s not the best vibrational energy (in fact, it’s the lowest), but it is an energy that can manifest your decisions quickly, whether good or bad.

​The realization here is that using alcohol can be a great thing; but excessive drinking can ruin your experiences. Everything in moderation, right?

Besides, even Jesus knew the value of a great red wine…

Marla Stewart

Marla Renee Stewart, MA is a professional sex, intimacy and relationship coach and sex educator. Not only is she a lecturer at Clayton State University, she is also the co-founder of the Sex Down South Conference and the Sexual Liberation Collective. Gaining her reputation for being "The Sex Architect", she created Velvet Lips to empower people of all ages to embrace, educate and enjoy their sexuality and their sexual lives. She has studied human sexuality for more than 16 years at San Francisco State University and Georgia State University, respectively, and has expert knowledge in a wide variety of subjects. She has published academic articles and continues to do sexuality research. She has conducted workshops at conferences, not-for-profit and private organizations, as well as universities in the Atlanta area. She has been featured on many radio shows, documentaries, books, magazines and has been invited to speak at Universities around the country. She also sits on the board for the Atlanta Harm Reduction Coalition and SPARK Reproductive Justice Now!
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